This woman who said she regretted her tears in front of the camera is Huang Ying. She was born in a big city in Tianjin, China. She did not expect that she would live in a poor rural Japanese countryside.
There are only large farmland and messy village houses here, and her home is located in the most desolate place in the village.
That night, Huang Ying started preparing supper as usual. She was born in a big city and was somewhat uncomfortable with this kind of life. She smiled and complained that she did not belong here at all.
Whenever I get together with my friends, everyone gets together and shed tears, just because I feel very sad.
After some busyness, she finally brought the food to the table. This meal took more than half an hour, but Huang Ying had no appetite.
She hurriedly moved her chopsticks a few times, and after eating a little bit of food, she said she was full.
The atmosphere at the dining table was even more awkward and cold, and her indifference to her Japanese husband was even noticed by outsiders like the program team.
Huang Ying disagreed with this because she knew in her heart that her marriage was just about everyone’s needs. To describe it in China’s most vulgar words, it means living together.
For such special reasons, the couple has their own thoughts and there are very few communications every day.
This kind of life lasted for four and a half years, and the couple had a different dream.
For Huang Ying, this marriage is just a means to leave China. There is no love plot in . She doesn't know her Japanese husband and is unwilling to understand.
Before this, she had a failed marriage. When she was twenty-five, she had just become pregnant and her ex-husband was imprisoned for the crime. The marriage ended, and then she married her Japanese husband who had no feelings, which was also a helpless move.
Because 38-year-old Huang Ying is a child of a high-ranking official and has a stable career in the big city of Tianjin.
But the frustration of the first marriage made her feel disheartened, so she planned to use her second marriage to exchange for a chance to go abroad.
So under the arrangement of marriage introduction agency , two men and women who have not spoken language and have different cultures have decided their lives within half an hour.
A farmer who could not marry a wife in rural Japan, and did not hesitate to spend his whole life savings and married Huang Ying for about 400,000 yuan. , and Huang Ying is willing to use a marriage without love as a stepping stone to leave China.
She said that at that time, many Chinese girls had the dream of going abroad. But going abroad is not easy, so many girls use marriage as a springboard to achieve their goals.
At the beginning, she also fantasized about going to developed countries such as the United States or Australia, and Tokyo, a big Japanese city, is also a good choice.
But she never thought that she would marry a remote Japanese countryside that was even more backward than the big city in Tianjin.
Huang Ying recalled that on the first day she had just arrived in the village, after her husband took her back, she went out to work without saying a word.
She sat at home and looked outside, and there was a barren mountain and wilderness outside.
She felt extremely desperate, but there was never any medicine for regret in the world. She could only endure living in this strange land.
Because Yamagata Prefecture is sparsely populated, you need to use a car when traveling. Huang Ying and her husband saved money and bought a car for 1.2 million yen.
She learned to drive here, learned Japanese , and her life circle gradually expanded.
Less than a year after she came to Japan, she found a job in a local factory. Just like in China, she goes to work on time and works in accordance with the rules.
This factory is not large in scale, with about 40 or 50 employees, and its main business is to manufacture plastic shells for electronic instruments.
Huang Ying and her coworkers’ daily job is to install and install screws and label them. The work is both repetitive and rigid.
Huang Ying said that Chinese people are easily discriminated against abroad. Even if you are a lawyer or a university teacher in China, you can only work in a clothing factory when you go to Japan.The gap like
is undoubtedly devastating for her. Because she once fantasized about the prosperous life in foreign countries, but now she hates everything in Japan.
In addition to discrimination at work, discrimination at life even more angered Huang Ying. When she first came to Japan, she heard the Japanese call a Chinese thief, and her mother-in-law even hid all the valuables in the house.
After she lived at home for a year, her mother-in-law took out valuables one by one.
Once, she drove into the village. I heard the old Japanese lady talking about her, her words filled with contempt for the Chinese, but she could only bear it silently when she was in a foreign land.
program team soon visited the Yuki Palace in Yamagata Prefecture. Most Chinese and Japanese couples hold weddings here, and every month, Chinese brides marry to Yamagata Prefecture.
However, in recent years, there are no longer women from big cities such as Beijing, Tianjin and Shanghai, but more are rural local women from , in the three northeastern provinces.
Most of them have no requirements for life, they just want to make a lot of money in another place. The president of the Japan-China Exchange Association also said that a Chinese bride who married into Japan was also married. Forty percent of divorce will occur because they feel they have been deceived.
Over time, the marriage agency will be gone. Many divorced Chinese women did not return to China, but instead went to big cities like Tokyo to work as black market workers.
Although Chinese people have strong adaptability, Huang Ying has never been used to life here.
Her only dream now is to be able to return to China to develop when she has certain economic conditions. If the Japanese husband is unwilling to go back to China with her, the two will live separately.
She also knew in her heart that her Japanese husband would not divorce easily, after all, he spent half of his life savings. Once she leaves, her Japanese husband will definitely lose both money and wealth.
Everything about Huang Ying’s husband is in rural Japan, but for Huang Ying, it’s a matter of time to leave.
Four and a half years of life, she is always unaccustomed to the Japanese machismos and indifference to the Japanese.
In Japan, it is difficult for women to be equal to men. This feeling of inferiority makes her feel uncomfortable, and her communication style in Japan is very cold.
For relatives and friends, Japanese people will only visit them during festivals.
There are also many details about traditional Chinese, and I want to go out to chat with my good friends. She even had to make an appointment very politely, and these were exactly what she hated.
So over the years, she has been insisting on using her Chinese name and refused to change it to a Japanese name, but her son Yuxin changed his name to a Japanese name early on. The reason for the name change of
is also related to the change in the living environment. He was born and studied in Tianjin, but in a blink of an eye he lived in rural Japan.
is also speaking unfamiliar Japanese, for this Japanese stepfather who works as a farmer. Yuxin admitted that he didn't know much about him, but fortunately his honest stepfather was pretty good to him.
The TV game console the two of them were playing was also bought by their stepfather, who had a small income, with two days' salary.
But at the beginning, Yuxin didn't want Huang Ying to marry into Japan, but as a child, he had no right to object.
After going to school in Japan, his grades were very poor because he didn't understand Japanese, and only his sports scores were the best.
He is very precocious and understands that he should integrate into the circle of Japanese children, but as a Chinese, he is always bullied and excluded.
So he could only change his name to a Japanese name and try his best not to let others know that he is Chinese.
A marriage of Huang Ying seems to have brought countless troubles to the new generation.
And what can we say about Huang Ying? Marriage is my own choice, and Huang Ying embarked on this path for her fantasy life, and it is too late to regret it now.
This also tells us that we must think twice before doing anything.
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