Since I can't be your pride, I won't be your burden. I left like this, and I said a lot in the letter, but in this process, the girl did not complain or blame her between the lines she wrote during this process. , I just think that as a child, a girl, she has done her best.
However, I felt that the pressure was still very high in my studies, and I was about to enter the second grade of junior high school. We knew that the learning tasks for the second grade of junior high school would be very heavy, so she felt that in the future, she would not be able to enter the top 15 in the class in her studies. , she couldn't fight, and she couldn't guarantee that she could enter the 25th class. So in this case, she felt that she would really be invisible in the future, so she left a letter to commit suicide.
I think as parents, I really want my son to become a dragon and a daughter to become a phoenix. There is no problem with this, and I can understand my mood. But now we have a lot of parents. We really say that there is no problem in paying attention to grades, but we only pay attention to grades. , that's a big problem.
In fact, what level a child can achieve in his study depends on too many factors. As long as he works hard to learn, it is actually fine.
But many parents always complain like this in these aspects: "I am not for your good? I have made some sacrifices for you. If you can't achieve this, you are not as good as this and not as good as that. , you might as well die.” When a child hears these words every day and is affected by these negative emotions, can his or her psychology bear it?
In this way, many parents often say in their hearts or mouths that everyone must pay attention to an important issue. In elementary school, the gap in children's academic performance is actually not very big. When I go to junior high school, especially After the second year of junior high school, the children are really polarized in their studies.
Because of everyone's abilities, everyone's advantages are different. There is another very important reason. Parents and friends know that junior high school is the adolescence of children. Then during adolescence, children face great academic pressure.
At the same time, the child's heart is gradually mature because of his personality. The relationship between the opposite sex and classmates, including his status in the minds of classmates, how teachers and classmates think of him, etc., even the interpersonal relationship is very complicated, and If interpersonal relationships are not handled well, and you will react back and your emotions will fluctuate in your studies.
Then in this case, if our parents do not understand the characteristics of their children during adolescence, and then they understand and respect the children less. On the contrary, they are endless high standards and strict requirements, and the kind of harshness, for children who are fragile in their hearts. Talking about it, tragedy is inevitable.
So, when I saw the causes and consequences of this matter, I felt very sad. Although this is a cliché, I also felt that I still wanted to talk to my parents and friends, that is, our children will have a lot in the future. The path can be taken.
And at the moment, especially when he was in junior high school, the child was adolescence and faced many very complicated things. When he was there, what he needed was understanding, and whether he could help him straighten out these things and straighten them out. Good interpersonal relationships, good mentality, and studying hard after going back, it does not mean that you cannot meet your requirements.
You turn back to complain, anger, and even scold your child without any restraint. After this incident, the parents regretted it, but it was too late. I also hope that friends who read this article really It is necessary to change the educational concept. Children are born by parents, but children are independent individuals. Parents must respect and understand their children.
Not every child can get into Peking University , Tsinghua University, not every child can grow into the ideal appearance of parents. We must work hard to become the children's magical assists, never become pig teammates, and enter the children's The inner world, understand your child’s true thoughts, and become a guide for your child’s learning and life, not a destroyer.
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