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Hugo " Notre Dame de Paris ": " This is the sun at dusk, but we regard it as the dawn. "
Her story:
Once upon a time there was a silly girl who only wanted to have a bad temper. A boy who is nice and treats her well, because the girl's father has a bad temper and she doesn't want her children to experience a miserable childhood.
cared about the boy's temper, but ignored his character and outlook, resulting in a complete defeat.
A boy and a girl met at a friend's gathering and fell in love. During the relationship, the boy was very considerate to the girl, and the boy's mother was also very kind to the girl, making the girl feel the warmth she had never experienced before. Not long after, the two got married.
On the night of the wedding, the boy was very happy and said to the girl: "Today is the happiest day for me because I married you."
After the marriage, it was quite sweet. Soon after, she became pregnant with the baby. The boy worked outside and the girl was there. The natal family raises the fetus. Girls have bad tempers and boys always give in. Soon, the girl gave birth to a daughter. The boy fed the child milk and water in the hospital, and cleaned the girl's wounds. The girl thought at that time: "With him by his side, this life will be worth it!"
The days passed quickly , although boys and girls have had quarrels, the boy always shamelessly makes the girl happy. Three years passed in the blink of an eye. The boy once got drunk and became very angry for the first time. He smashed his mobile phone, computer and TV. He was furious at the girl and said that he had lived a worse life than a dog or a dog for so many years.
It turned out that the wife who devoted herself to him, even spending all the gifts, selling her gold jewelry, and taking out loans for him, was worthless in his eyes . The incident got very serious, and finally the family came forward to persuade him, saying that the boy was young and was just confused. In this way, the days continued to pass uneventfully.
Later, the girl became pregnant with the second child. She didn't want it, but she couldn't resist the persuasion of her parents-in-law, so she had to settle down and raise the baby. I thought my mother-in-law could support me in life, but unexpectedly, my mother-in-law passed away suddenly, which brought a heavy blow to the whole family.
The girl was more than 5 months pregnant and felt like the sky was falling. The boy said to the girl in front of his mother-in-law's mourning hall: "Mom is gone, I will be good to you in the future." But not long after, he seemed to have changed. He not only ignored the girl, but also treated her Dabao was left alone at home.
The girl cried almost every day during the confinement period. She could not figure out why a good person would become like this and why she would do this to herself.
She initially thought that the boy was deeply affected by her mother-in-law's departure, so she kept waiting, hoping that the boy would get over it. However, just this summer, the girl accidentally received a call from the boy, who was a strange woman. It turned out that after her mother-in-law left, the two of them got together, stayed up every night, and ignored their wife and children.
The girl divorced him because he fell in love with someone else, but the boy said back: "Are you not wrong? You have a bad temper, you are mentally ill, and it has nothing to do with cheating on me! Anyway, my mother is gone. , I can finally get a divorce and marry my true love! ”
I don’t know if he has forgotten many things, or if he pretends to have forgotten them on purpose. When a girl has conflicts with her parents-in-law or outsiders, he always asks her to endure it and not to take it seriously. Even his friends can point fingers at her. She wants nothing more from the beginning to the end. It was his favoritism, rather than letting her endure it all the time.
Later I found out that from the time they got married until now, it was all because of the pressure from their mother-in-law, not because of love at all..
I am that girl, because I met unkind people, because I met inhumane people, I have wronged myself and my children.I am becoming stronger and stronger because I understand that only I can protect myself, and only by myself can I live a good life. Now I just want to take good care of the child, hope he can treat Dabao well, and take her to me when I have the financial ability.
Donglin Xiting said:
People are lazy and want to be settled once and for all. Including that we are dissatisfied with our past life and want to completely turn over from a certain point, it is also a kind of inertia, because we naively believe that things in the world are black and white.
In fact, black and white are just relative terms. In addition to the two extremes of black and white, there is also a middle ground between the two. It can be said that most people's lives are in the middle zone, with black among white and white among black.
People who do not understand this truth are likely to blindly believe that "things must be reversed when they go to extremes." Especially when it comes to emotions, I often think that I have suffered to the extreme and there is no reason to continue to suffer. God will definitely treat me well, and I think that the rest of my life will be settled once and for all.
The probability of this possibility happening is very small. If you want to get rid of all the hardships, you can't just rely on fantasy and prayer. You should grasp the four words "it depends on man-made things".
Whether your thoughts are extreme or not is not that important when you are ignorant. What really matters is whether you know how to rely on yourself. Only by relying on yourself can you become capable, and only by relying on yourself can you accumulate capital. Even if you encounter a broken head in reality, you will not lose too badly.
On the contrary, if you only think about once and for all, mistake the dusk sun for the dawn, and only rely on others and never rely on yourself, once your reliance falls, you will be helpless and will lose miserably.. There are these traces in the story of the reader
. Because she was fed up with her original family, she thought of either/or and wanted to jump to the other extreme to get rid of the influence of her original family on herself, so as to let beauty and warmth Pass it on in your own family.
It is normal for people to have such thoughts when they are helpless. But it’s not normal to have such thoughts, because there are too many variables in life, and many things are not what you want. If a person has experienced long-term suffering, it will definitely take a long time for her to get out of the suffering. The more eager she is for an instant comeback, the more miserably she will lose.
But there is a very powerless fact that life is sometimes illogical. We can make logical deductions based on the current situation, but because of the existence of variables, when reality evolves, it may become something else, which is very different from what we expected..
There is only one way to deal with this problem, and that is to adjust your mentality. You want to get it done once and for all, but after struggling a lot, you find that it doesn't work at all. Instead, you put more pressure on yourself because you trusted others.
People’s mentality in this situation will be very bad, but we can’t give up just yet. Realizing that your current life is terrible means that there is room for adjustment. It reminds you to change your mentality, your lifestyle, and your expectations for the future.
When bad things have happened, the only way is to adjust and move forward until you get ashore. Otherwise, you will stay in misery for a long time, and you will most likely end up depressed, full of regrets and disappointment in life.
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