In real life, love does not need to talk about money, but marriage has to face reality. In fact, talking about money does not mean whether the other party has money, but whether he is willing to give it up.

Some people say that where a man's money is, there is his heart.

Some people also say that true love does not require talking about money.

In real life, love does not need to talk about money, but marriage has to face reality.

In fact, talking about money does not mean whether the other party has money, but whether he is willing to give it up.

Every couple's journey from love to marriage, from romance to daily necessities, is the process of implementing love into life. In this process, two people are bound to face money issues.

However, some people will keep money firmly in their own hands after getting married because he/she is afraid of losing both their life and wealth.

In fact, sometimes the other party doesn’t necessarily want how much money, but what they want is an attitude.

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Lan Bing (pseudonym) was born in a big family. Her older siblings and younger brothers are all in business. After graduating from university, Lan Bing naturally helped her eldest brother manage a company and became a veritable businessman. Strong woman.

Lan Bing is proud of her career, but her love life is unsatisfactory.

Lan Bing once had a failed marriage. She and her ex-husband had a daughter together, and her daughter lived with her after the divorce.

Lan Bing, who was single again, once focused her time and energy on work. She wanted to provide her daughter with a more favorable growing environment through her own efforts.

Lan Bing's family and friends advised her to find a partner while she was young, but she remained unmoved until a man named Chen Weidong (pseudonym) appeared, and Lan Bing's life began to change dramatically.

Chen Weidong is handsome, melancholic and introverted. He illuminates Lan Bing's heart like a ray of sunshine.

Although Chen Weidong works in Shanghai and Lan Bing works in Shenzhen, the distance did not affect their enthusiasm for each other, and the two quickly established a romantic relationship.

Later, in order to live with Lan Bing, Chen Weidong voluntarily gave up his job in Shanghai and came to Shenzhen to start from scratch.

Originally, Lan Bing and Chen Weidong thought they would live together happily, but what people didn't expect was that four years later, Lan Bing and Chen Weidong no longer had the sweetness they had at the beginning, and there was only mutual suspicion and accusation.

Unbearable, Lan Bing sought help from a mediator. She hoped that the problem between her and Chen Weidong could be solved with the help of the mediator, otherwise she would get divorced.

As soon as Lan Bing heard that he wanted a divorce, Chen Weidong said expressionlessly: "Since you have decided to divorce, why are you still here? We can just go directly to the local Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the procedures."

Chen Weidong's directness and indifference Lan Bing felt a little embarrassed, but she still told the mediator very gently that the reason why she had not told Chen Weidong before was because she was afraid that he would not agree.

Lan Bing also said that she felt that Chen Weidong did not trust her at all, because Chen Weidong had never given her living expenses during the four years they had been together.

mediator said, has he always been like this? Haven't you noticed it before?

Lan Bing said that when we first got together, Chen Weidong was like this. For example, she would put money in a drawer and leave her wallet and house book unlocked, but Chen Weidong's ID card and other documents would be kept in her wallet with her. Even avoid letting her see it.

At first, Lan Bing thought it might be because the two of them had been together for a short time and it would be better to wait for a longer time. However, she later discovered that Chen Weidong was not only that, he also separated money from her very clearly.

Lan Bing said once that she wanted to buy a washing machine. After learning about it, Chen Weidong directly said that there was no need to buy a washing machine, and the clothes could be washed by hand.

When it came to the washing machine, Chen Weidong told the mediator that what bothered him most was women talking about money, especially when someone like Lan Bing asked the other party to buy things when they first got together, which made people think they were trying to get money.

Chen Weidong's words stimulated Lan Bing's sensitive nerves. She said emotionally: "You came to Shenzhen with no money, no job and no house. If I wanted money, would I come to you?"

Chen Weidong said impatiently: " That's how you are. You always make what others say is useless. My previous job was very stable and I had a house at home. It was not as bad as you said."

Chen Weidong told the mediator that Lan Bing values ​​money too seriously and everything can be linked to money.

Her husband's comments made Lan Bing sad. She said: "If I value money, why don't I go there? Why should a rich man come here with you? "

Not respected

Chen Weidong ignored Lan Bing. He went on to say that he was not respected whether in a small family or a big family.

Chen Weidong said that every time he ate at home, Lan Bing took the bowl and chopsticks When going to school, he always only takes two pairs, one for her and the other for her daughter. This makes Chen Weidong can't help but ask about his own dishes and chopsticks. Where, do you belong to this family?

Regarding this, Lan Bing said that Chen Weidong was too concerned about it, and she did not take this matter as a problem at all.

Lan Bing also said that she did not take Chen Weidong seriously. In the eyes, it's just that he has a carefree personality, which may have misunderstood Chen Weidong.

Chen Weidong said, who. You are not a fool, don’t say such high-sounding words.

Chen Weidong told the mediator that Lan Bing’s brother is a very successful person. Under his leadership, everyone in the family has started a business, so Lan Bing treats her. This brother and the entire family are very dependent on him. Even if there is anything about their small family, Lan Bing will only inform him after discussing it with his family.

ht. ml0 In order to prove that what he said was true, Chen Weidong gave an example. One year, a clothing factory of Lan Bing's brother closed down. He happened to be making private custom clothes before, so he always wanted to take over the factory and do it himself

. But Lan Bing insisted on giving the factory to her brother and letting Chen Weidong provide the money and effort.

Lan Bing immediately refuted this. Her younger brother and older brother didn't look down on such a small factory at all. It was all because Chen Weidong was too petty.

Chen Weidong said, you didn't discuss such a big matter with me at all. You discussed it secretly with them every time. Later, I established the company. When I joined a team of more than a dozen people to do it, you still didn’t support me. Instead, you turned towards your boss. Family.

In Chen Weidong's view, the reason why Lan Bing behaves like this is mainly because she is more profit-seeking.

The mediator said in disbelief, when you say she is profit-seeking, do you mean she will lean towards whoever has money?

Chen Weidong said yes.

Lan Bing covered his face and cried after hearing what Chen Weidong said. Chen Weidong was not moved at all.

The mediator said, if your wife is so miserable, why would she follow you? What can she gain by following you?

The mediator's question made Chen Weidong silent. After thinking about it again and again, he said that he really shouldn't label his wife casually. He just wanted to express that he was in a big family. The position is useless, and the wife only comes to him when she needs money.

The children

The husband’s accusation did not convince Lan Bing. She smiled bitterly and said, is this the reason why you don’t support the family?

Under the mediator’s questioning? , Chen Weidong told the mediator that the reason why he had been guarding against his wife was all caused by her herself.

It turns out that after Chen Weidong got divorced, his children lived with his ex-wife. He had always wanted to have a child of his own.

Chen Weidong said frankly that during the four years he and Lan Bing were together, they had three experiences of having children, but each time they missed the child.

Chen Weidong said that when Lan Bing was pregnant for the first time, he told his parents, relatives and friends the good news immediately, but Lan Bing said to him, if you want this child, how much can you give me?

Lan Bing's reaction made Chen Weidong very sad. In Chen Weidong's view, children and money cannot be compared.

Regarding this, Lan Bing said that after having children, she hoped that Chen Weidong would give her the salary card so that she would be protected, but Chen Weidong directly refused.

After being rejected, Lan Bing went to the hospital alone to have the baby removed without hesitation. Lan Bing said that he had a baby and did not have to give birth to the other party's baby.

Chen Weidong was very disgusted by his wife's words. He said, "You went to the hospital without permission to remove the child behind my back. Do you know how much it hurts my heart?"

Chen Weidong also said that it is very shameless for a woman not to want to give birth to a child for a man, not to mention that everyone in their family knows about it.

Chen Weidong then said that when Lan Bing was pregnant for the second time, the doctor originally told them that the child would have certain risks, but after observation, there might be a chance.

But Lan Bing kicked him out immediately and talked with the doctor for a while. When he went in again, the doctor changed his story and said that the child was unacceptable.

In Chen Weidong's opinion, it was Lan Bing who told the doctor so.

Regarding this, Lan Bing has been silent.

moderator said, what about the third pregnancy?

Chen Weidong became even more angry when he mentioned his third pregnancy. He said that when he was pregnant for the third time, Lan Bing didn't discuss it with him at all and went directly to the hospital to have the baby removed.

Chen Weidong said to Lan Bing on the spot: "The child is not yours alone, you have no right to deal with it like this."

Lan Bing said, the body is my own, I can do with it whatever I want, and the money for the surgery is all mine. It’s also my own responsibility.

The mediator couldn't help but ask Lan Bing, when you made these three decisions, did you consider this man's feelings and the future of both of you?

Lan Bing said, this man only thinks that I will lose face if I don’t give him a child, but he is not even willing to give me a guarantee, so why should I give him a child.

Lan Bing also said that it’s not that he doesn’t have money, he just wants an attitude.

It can be seen that the main conflict between the couple is still related to money.

Mediation

The mediator believes that a large part of the reason why Chen Weidong is so cautious about money is that he was influenced by his native family.

Chen Weidong agreed with this. He said that he was born in a rural area in Anhui and had difficult living conditions since he was a child. Now his parents are in their sixties and can still take care of themselves and do not need to give them money every month. But when he meets I give money to my parents during the holidays and every time I go home.

Chen Weidong also said that he can work hard for another ten or eight years, because by then his parents will be old and need someone to take care of him, and he will have to return to his hometown.

It is obvious that Chen Weidong has a heavy burden, which makes him dare not slack off at all when it comes to money. After

understood Chen Weidong's true thoughts, the mediator told Chen Weidong that sometimes what a woman wants is not money, but his favor. The reason why he and Lan Bing persist until now is because there is love between them. Don't hurt this rare relationship because of money.

At the same time, the mediator also told Lan Bing that it was not easy for the two of them to get to this point. In addition, they are older and they should have children. Financial issues can be discussed again.

Under the persuasion of the mediator, Chen Weidong took the initiative to say that a man should indeed support the family, but he did not do it well in this regard. From now on, he will give his wife a certain amount of living expenses every month. The specific amount can be discussed between the two of them.

After Chen Weidong's attitude changed, Lan Bing's attitude softened. She said that she didn't want Chen Weidong's money because she had money, and all she wanted was an attitude.

Lan Bing's words attracted the attention of the mediator. The mediator told Lan Bing that her expression would make people very uncomfortable, and that if she changed her expression, the effect might be better. The mediator

also told Lan Bing that their husband and wife are obviously strong women and weak men. If Lan Bing does not pay attention to her husband's feelings, it will make her husband, who already has low self-esteem, even more insecure.

Later, under the guidance of the mediator, Lan Bing told Chen Weidong: "Husband, I am very touched by your promise. In fact, what I care about is not how much money you give me, but your body. You should take good care of your body."

Lan Bing's words made Chen Wei Dong's tense face relaxed. He stood up and walked to Lan Bing. He smiled and said, "Don't worry, I won't leave."

After saying that, Chen Weidong stretched out his hand to hold Lan Bing's hand. Her husband's statement Lan Bing breathed a long sigh of relief, and a happy smile appeared on her face.

Chen Weidong then said: "Let's go home, I will definitely make you feel at ease in the future."

Lan Bing responded: "I also want to get rid of my bad temper and no longer be so impatient when things happen."

Then The couple reconciled and expressed their gratitude to the mediator together.

Conclusion:

Children are the crystallization of love and the continuation of life.

I believe that every couple hopes that their child will come to them as soon as possible.

is just like Chen Weidong in the story. His and his ex-wife's children were raised by his ex-wife. He has always wanted to have a child of his own, but his dream was ruthlessly destroyed by his wife time and time again.

After Lan Bing became pregnant, she asked her husband for a salary card and was rejected. She took away the child behind her husband's back three times in a row. This was not only irresponsible to herself, but also disrespectful to her husband.

Just like what Chen Weidong said, if you don't give you money, you will take away the child. This makes people wary, especially since they are both married for the second time and are very sensitive when it comes to money.

People often say that a well-matched marriage will be more likely to achieve long-term happiness.

There is indeed a big gap between Lan Bing and Chen Weidong.

Chen Weidong gave up his job in Shanghai for love and resolutely came to Shenzhen to join Lan Bing. This shows that Chen Weidong still cares about Lan Bing very much.

Lan Bing has an absolute advantage in this relationship. Her family has good economic conditions, has a house in Shenzhen, and has a huge family to back her up.

But Lan Bing ignored one thing, that is, Chen Weidong is her husband. Only if she shows enough care and respect for Chen Weidong can Chen Weidong find his place in the entire family, win respect, and at the same time give Chen Weidong a sense of presence and respect. sense of security.

When Lan Bing became pregnant, Chen Weidong was happy, but what Lan Bing did was very stupid. She thought that if you don't give me money, I won't give you a baby. In fact, sometimes threats will only make things worse. Maybe it would be better to think differently.

In fact, the same is true for couples getting along. Only by trusting each other, being tolerant and understanding can they go further. Otherwise, there will be many conflicts, and in serious cases, they may even part ways.

Although Chen Weidong's defensiveness about money is understandable, it is unacceptable, because marriage is for two people, and everyone should bear responsibility for the family. If the woman is pregnant, the man should take on the responsibility of supporting the family.

Only in this way can women give birth to life with peace of mind and trust and protect each other.