With the development of our social economy and the improvement of some policies, many elderly people now retire and can receive a very good pension, which can almost meet their entire life in their later years. Some elderly people's pensions are even higher than those of working

Introduction

With the development of our social economy and the improvement of some policies, many elderly people now retire and can receive a very good pension, which can almost meet their entire life in their later years, and even the pensions of some elderly people, The salary is higher than that of working children.

Therefore, as the elderly become rich, they are increasingly pursuing ways to provide for themselves in their later years. They began to no longer rely on their children to support them in old age, and felt that their children's support in old age was unreliable, so they simply chose to go to a nursing home or spend money to hire a nanny.

In fact, whether you go to a nursing home or hire a nanny, it is a very good way of caring for the elderly, and it is also relatively popular currently. However, no matter how good the elderly care service is, it is ultimately inseparable from the children.

Moreover, if you leave yourself to outsiders to take care of you, you will definitely lack a sense of "human touch". After all, they are just workers who get paid to do things, and it is impossible for them to treat you as a family member and serve you sincerely. So what is the best choice for old age care?

There is a 70-year-old couple who have a very wise way of caring for their elderly. Instead of going to a nursing home or hiring a nanny, they spend money to hire their children to take care of them. They said: "Instead of hiring outsiders as nannies, it is better to spend money to hire your children to take care of them in old age, which is more considerate and happy!" Why do they think so? Then how do they manage to hire their children to provide for themselves in old age? Let me tell you the story of a 70-year-old couple.

The situation of this old couple is like this. Uncle Li is 73 years old and Aunt Li is 70 years old. They both retired from their work units and have been retired for more than 10 years now. Their pensions are as high as 7,000 yuan per person. Compared with The wages of many ordinary young people are even higher.

Not only that, they have two houses in their name, one divided from a unit and one purchased 20 years ago, with a combined value of over one million, and they now have a savings of over 400,000 yuan. After all, Mr. and Mrs. Li can be said to be a well-off family, and they don’t have to worry about their future pension.

Because they are rich, Mr. and Mrs. Li did not choose to live with their children after retirement. Instead, they lived alone, without having to worry about their children or bear the burden of their lives. Eight years ago, Uncle Li suffered a stroke and was paralyzed in bed. Instead of relying on their children, they paid for a nanny.

Although paying for a nanny is a very high-end enjoyment, just like having "servants" to serve you in the old society, outsiders are always outsiders, and they are also just workers who only take money to do things. On the surface, Mr. and Mrs. Li paid for a nanny and lived a happy and comfortable life, but in real life, this nanny was still very unreliable.

Mr. and Mrs. Li hired nannies who were in their 40s and about the same age as their children, and they paid 4,000 yuan a month. Originally invited to take care of the paralyzed Uncle Li, and to take care of Aunt Li, help with cooking and hygiene. But the nannies hired are very tricky and only serve one person, either Uncle Li or Aunt Li.

After all, Uncle Li is the key person to take care of, so in the end, this nanny became Uncle Li's full-time nanny, responsible only for Uncle Li's daily necessities, food, drink, and toilet. She ignored all other housework, and Aunt Li indirectly became the nanny and another "nanny" for her husband, buying and cooking food every day.

Moreover, these home nannies also divide their work very clearly. They only serve at home, and it is not what she should do when they go out. In the third year of hiring a nanny, Uncle Li was hospitalized due to other health problems, and Aunt Li wanted the nanny to go to the hospital with her and take turns serving Uncle Li. She also kindly reserved another hospital bed for the two of them to rest.

Unexpectedly, the nanny said: " I am a family nanny, not a hospital nurse. The hospital affairs are not within the scope of my job, but I can still serve you. The nanny's salary will be paid, but if you work as a nurse in the hospital, you will have to pay extra. 280 yuan a day! ”

At that time, these words made Aunt Li very unhappy. She spent so much money to hire a nanny with so many conditions. So, I had a fight with the nanny and threatened that if the nanny didn't take care of her, I wouldn't let her do it anymore.I thought that the employer would be angry and the nanny would be nice to talk to him, but the nanny said even more arrogantly: ", we have signed a contract, and it is clearly stated in it. I am only responsible for serving at home. If you don't want me to do it, , then you have to pay me the salary for the next half month, whether I take care of her or not! ”

Aunt Li was so angry that she directly paid the nanny to drive her away, and then asked her children to take care of her instead. Fortunately, their daughter had just been laid off and was now at home. She had plenty of time, so Aunt Li asked her daughter to take turns taking care of Uncle Li with her.

To be honest, in terms of emotions and sincerity, it is better to be with family members. The work of caring for patients in a hospital is generally very difficult to do, especially for someone like Uncle Li who is paralyzed and needs someone to take care of him, eat, drink, and defecate. It's torture. But their daughter is not afraid of hardship or getting dirty. Uncle Li was hospitalized for 18 days, and his daughter was always there to take care of him, while Aunt Li usually only brought meals to her.

Mr. and Mrs. Li saw what their daughter was doing, so after being discharged from the hospital, Mr. and Mrs. Li decided to hire a nanny when they got home. However, all of the so-called nannies were very incompetent. Then they felt that their daughter would have to look for a job anyway after she was laid off. However, at this age, she could not find a high-paying job, and no one might want her. So I wanted to spend money to invite my daughter back home to support them in their old age.

When talking to their daughter at that time, Mr. and Mrs. Li proposed the following treatment: a salary of 5,000 yuan a month, and there were still 4 years of social security left. They also helped their daughter pay it off, and then they could take 4 days off a month. As a daughter, she was embarrassed to agree at first. After all, serving her parents is her duty, but it turned out to be embarrassing to give her a salary. But after some enlightenment from Mr. and Mrs. Li, the daughter finally agreed.

However, this period did not go so smoothly. Another son of Mr. and Mrs. Li became upset when he saw that his sister went home to serve her parents and had a monthly salary of 5,000 yuan, which was the same as his salary. After being balanced, I felt that my parents were partial and would not allow my sister to take care of her.

However, Aunt Li’s words stopped her son in his tracks: " We use our own money, so whoever we hire to serve us needs your approval? From the time we retired to now, we have not relied on you, nor have we relied on you. Why do you need to be filial? Why do you act like this when it comes to money? Do you want to join in? If you have the ability, you can come back and serve us. You can help your father with his excrement and urine, wipe your body and butt, wash and cook for me. We will also pay you a salary, and it will be higher than your sister, 6,000 yuan a month. , Do you want to do it? " Aunt Li's son was speechless and had to give up.

After their daughter became the "nanny" of Mr. and Mrs. Li, their life became really happy. The nanny hired in the past would only serve Uncle Li and not do anything else. But after her daughter became a nanny, Aunt Li also enjoyed it. The cooking and housework are also taken over by my daughter, and with her daughter at home, the family becomes more lively.

In the past, Aunt Li couldn't get along with the nanny. The nanny took care of Uncle Li every day, but Aunt Li could only watch TV by herself or go downstairs for a walk. She lived a very lonely life. And when the daughter comes, after cooking for Uncle Li, she will take Aunt Li around. At that time, when walking in the community, all her acquaintances would praise Aunt Li for how lucky she is to have a daughter who comes back to support them in their old age and make enough money for Aunt Li. Save face.

And because their daughter lives in their own home, the son-in-law and grandson often come over for dinner and short stays. This makes Mr. Li and his wife, who have lived alone for more than ten years, feel particularly warm. Although Uncle Li is paralyzed and cannot feel anything. , but when I see my children around me often, I feel extremely happy and satisfied.

had her daughter take care of her for five years. During these years, Mr. and Mrs. Li lived a very happy life. Although this happiness could not prevent them from getting older, it made them live happily and comfortably every day, and they no longer had to deal with The nanny is arrogant and has a battle of wits and courage. Therefore, after such an experience, Mr. and Mrs. Li also felt deeply: As we get older, instead of hiring outsiders as nannies, it is better to spend money to hire children to feel comfortable and happy.

Speaking of this, some people may not agree with the approach of Mr. and Mrs. Li. They think that it is ridiculous to spend money to hire children to support their parents. Children themselves have the responsibility and obligation to support their parents. Even if they do not want to hire a nanny to support their parents, children should take care of their parents. Why should we spend money on our children? Some people may even think that Mr. and Mrs. Li are providing their children with the opportunity to "gnaw at their old age", which will eventually harm themselves.

However, the editor believes that Mr. and Mrs. Li’s practice of hiring their daughter to take care of them is actually a very wise way of providing care for the elderly. The elderly couple themselves are rich and need a nanny. Their daughter is indeed in trouble. Isn't it a best of both worlds to hire a daughter to replace the nanny? Firstly, it allows the old man to be taken care of, and secondly, the daughter also has a share of the income. Why not do this?

There are also elderly people who always rely on their children as they grow older. Taking advantage of this opportunity to bring their children back to them is no better than those lonely elderly people whose children have not been home all year round, and who have no children to take care of them when they are sick. , want to be lucky?

Besides, a large part of the elderly’s money will always be distributed to their children in the end. Now it is natural and fair to use this opportunity of providing for the elderly to give it to their children through filial piety and support. Any solution?

Therefore, as people get older, they must learn to be flexible and not be too stubborn. If you have money, you can support yourself in old age, or you can pay for a nanny or go to a nursing home. But people will grow old and cannot take care of themselves until they die, and whether it is a nanny or a nursing home, they are all services based on money and for profit, so they cannot be completely reliable. And spending some money to manage the family relationship between your children and getting more filial piety and care from them is the most useful thing for you. Are you right?