All my ambitions, but a life of freedom
"Who are you the most sorry for in the past few years?"
Zhihu has it A high-like reply: "I feel sorry for myself the most. I shouldn't have gotten married without thinking clearly. I shouldn't have made a hasty decision to escape my parents' pressure to get married. I shouldn't have gotten married just for the sake of getting married."
Getting married or not is just a kind of life. State, marriage is not a mandatory question in life, it is just an optional question.
If you really meet someone who is willing to marry you and you are willing to marry him, then get married and enjoy being married;
If you don't meet that person and you are not willing to get married, then stay single and enjoy being alone. life.
Whether to get married or not, as long as it is your own choice, there is no right or wrong. But girl, if you are determined not to get married, you must first try to do these 5 things, and your single life will become more and more exciting.
1. Financial Independence
Claire Booth Luce said: "Money can't buy happiness, but it can make people feel comfortable in pain."
Money may not be the most important thing in your life, but it affects your life. most important things.
When you have your own wallet and enough money in the wallet, you have the freedom of choice.
So, girls, the premise of not getting married is that you can support yourself well.
A sister around me decided not to get married. She is 32 years old this year. When she made this decision and told her parents, her parents only said that as long as she thought about it clearly, they had no objection and supported and respected her choice.
Why is she so courageous and why does her parents agree so decisively?
The biggest reason is that my sister is financially independent, has a job she likes, and a very profitable side job, and has achieved financial freedom very early.
Therefore, when she feels that living alone is good and she has the courage and confidence to face life alone, her parents will not have unnecessary worries and will naturally agree.
is financially independent, has his own job, and has things he likes. No matter what happens, he will not completely crush himself, because his job is his guarantee and his financial source is his reliance.
Be financially independent, have your own wealth, and have your own values, so that you won't regret when your parents get sick and have no money for treatment, regret that you didn't save money, and regret that you didn't listen to your parents and marry a good family.
If you are financially independent, you can rely on yourself. You will not worry about whether it is too expensive or unable to afford it, you will not be hesitant to part with it, and you will not need to look at other people's faces.
Make your own money and spend it yourself, make your own money and support yourself. This is the greatest sense of security for a girl.
2. Spiritual independence
Writer Woolf said: "Once a person has an independent personality, he will no longer be ignorant and waste his time. In other words, she will have a sense of fulfillment and happiness throughout her life."
Independent personality, in popular terms , that is, spiritual independence.
A person with an independent spirit is a person who has his own spiritual kingdom. He is a person who is truly determined, content and enjoys his own life.
Spiritual independence is equally important as financial independence. If as time goes by, besides your age, your mind has not matured, then your spirit will not be independent.
A colleague often complained about her boyfriend in the office, saying that her boyfriend looked four years older than her, but in fact he was not mature and independent at all.
She said that she thought her boyfriend was clingy at first, but later she discovered that he does everything by himself and relies on himself. He has no opinion or any ideas in everything. He only asks me what to do if I don't tell him. Just call your parents.
When I think about it, if I really get married to him in the future, no matter how big or small he is in life, he will rely on me, and he will not use his brain, learn or grow, but just blindly rely on his parents, then I will die from exhaustion.
The boyfriend of a colleague is a typical person who is not independent mentally.
It can be said that it is normal to rely on your parents in your teens and early twenties. But if you are still relying on your parents and people around you for everything in your twenties and early twenties, is it normal?
People with independent spirits have their own values and thinking system, know how to think and reflect, have their own opinions and ideas, have a relatively mature understanding of themselves, can make decisions for themselves, and can make decisions for themselves. Responsible.
If you decide not to get married, first check whether you are a mentally independent person. Otherwise, you will choose to get married sooner or later, or your parents will force you to get married because they are worried about it.
One of the most important ways to become spiritually independent is to be financially independent.
Only when you are financially independent can your soul be upright, your spirit free, your heart confident, and your mind more capable and empowered to make decisions about your own affairs.
3.Parents agree
Parents agree, your single life will be more interesting and rich, and you will be more at ease and comfortable.
If your parents don't agree with you not to get married, no matter how good your advantages are as a single person, and no matter how well you take care of yourself, they will still want you to get married.
You can communicate well with your parents first. Be careful not to be too forceful or turn the discussion into a notice. These are two completely different concepts.
Tell your truest thoughts and your clear plans for your future life. The most important thing is to manage your own present.
As long as you live a good life, your parents will respect your determination and respect you.
If your parents agree that you are not married, you can be more determined and brave. You can be busy with your work life when you are working, and take your parents to travel and relax in your free time. When your parents see that you are happy and living well, they will feel relieved.
4. Enjoy being alone
Oscar Wilde once said: "Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance."
Being single is just a state, and it is your best state.
A person can do whatever he likes without feeling that time passes slowly, that life is uninteresting, or that he is completely bored.
On the contrary, one can stay at home and watch dramas, with a cup of coffee and an interesting drama, and enjoy a quiet and romantic time alone.
A person can read a book, turn the pages, and enjoy the afternoon sunshine.
A person can listen to music, organize things, and make the room the way he likes, making staying in it more peaceful and comfortable.
A person can travel, go shopping, watch movies, eat, etc. alone, and will not lack the courage to do it because there is no one to accompany him, nor will he feel lonely and anxious because of being alone.
When you are alone, if you work hard to exercise, learn to read, and reflect on your growth, you will not feel the emptiness of doing nothing, nor the loneliness of being unaccompanied.
When you truly enjoy a person's life, you will shine and your life will shine. It doesn't matter whether you get married or not.
5. Stay healthy
Good health is capital, good health is getting rich, good health is capital.
Girls are more emotional when they are alone, especially when they are sick. They are more likely to become sensitive and fragile, have random thoughts, and worry about gains and losses.
Keep exercising, keep moving, maintain a regular work and rest schedule, eat properly, and eat three meals on time.
Improve immunity and resistance, keep your body healthy, keep minor illnesses away from you, and your life will be happier.
If you are not healthy and often get sick, you not only need to spend money, but also need someone to accompany you when your body and mind are fragile. Your parents will always grow old, who will accompany you?
So, good health comes first.
Lin Huiyin once said: "You will regret it whether you get married or not. The cat in the alley is free but has no destination. The dog in the wall has a destination and has to bow his head throughout his life. This multiple-choice question of life, how can it be complete without regrets.""
If you have made the decision not to get married, or have the idea of not getting married, you must first maintain financial and spiritual independence. Only if a person is not independent will he be doomed, not if he doesn't get married.
and above, let's encourage each other!
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