Recently, I followed the newly launched documentary "Dear Enemy" and watched several real marriage stories: marital infidelity, domestic violence, fighting for child custody...

Recently, I followed the newly released documentary "Dear Enemy" and watched several real marriage stories:

marital infidelity, domestic violence , fighting for child custody...

divorced The process, like a magnifying glass, exposed and highlighted the degree of conflict between the two in their daily relationship. The darkness, helplessness, collapse, loss of control and tearing in the marriage were all truly recorded by this documentary.

1

"I was undergoing in vitro fertilization in the hospital

My husband got pregnant twice with someone else."

Ms. Jiang walked into a law firm for the first time to ask for help. She was in a very, very bad state.

She was married for 4 years and failed to conceive a child. During this period, she had two in vitro fertilizations and failed.

Just when she was feeling guilty about whether to insist on the third in vitro fertilization, her husband Liu filed for divorce from her on their fourth wedding anniversary.

Ms. Jiang was reluctant to part with this marriage, but she always felt that the "fault" was hers.

On the last day of the one-month divorce cooling-off period when both parties applied for divorce, Ms. Jiang’s relatives saw Liu at the local maternal and child health hospital. He was accompanying a young girl to have an abortion.

It turned out that my husband had already met someone outside.

After a little investigation, Ms. Jiang was even more shocked!

The husband and the young girl have reached the point of discussing marriage. The husband gave the girl a gift of 150,000 yuan.

The girl is a college student. Her relationship with her husband has lasted for 3 years since 2020, and she has had two abortions for her husband.

And all of this happened during the marriage between the two.

The second child that Liu took the girl to have an abortion was conceived by Ms. Jiang during in vitro fertilization.

The more I think about it, the more bitter it becomes.

At first, Ms. Jiang wanted to have a good talk with her husband, but the husband avoided meeting and showed no sign of repentance. He also said to Ms. Jiang:

"My dad is old, your dad is old too, you This (delaying the divorce) is unfilial.”

even insulted Ms. Jiang’s recently deceased mother.

Ms. Jiang was so angry that she was shaking all over. She was emotionally broken and replied:

"You are unfilial, do you know?

First of all, you don't love me;

You don't love that female student either. If you love her, you don't It will cause her to have consecutive miscarriages;

You don’t love your parents either. If you loved them, you wouldn’t do these things and let them bear this shame. It’s so selfish. We all become your shield to realize your dark inner desires...

What you love most is yourself!”

Ms. Jiang, who saw her husband’s true face, decided to use legal means to defend her rights, so she filed a lawsuit:

wants an apology from the man;

recovers the joint property of the couple, which is the 150,000 gift given.

A few months later, the court ruled that the gift was invalid, the female student returned 150,000 yuan of joint property during the marriage, and Ms. Jiang won the case.

Half a year later, I saw Ms. Jiang again, put on a red dress, and looked completely new. She now had a bright smile on her face.

was relieved of the apology she had never waited for. She found that her life was bound by the word "I'm sorry" and she wanted to love herself again.

In the past, she was a recognized optimistic little sunshine in her circle of friends, but a bad marriage dragged her down physically and mentally.

After getting rid of all this, he gained a new life and started his life again.

2

"Neither of the two children is mine

I still want custody rights"

Of course, it is not only men who cheat in marriage, but also women.

After 14 years of marriage, my wife suddenly said that she was having an affair and wanted a divorce.

The husband felt incredible and wanted to try his best to save her, but the wife was as determined as ever.

The parents thought that others said that their little daughter did not look like him, so they reminded him to do a paternity test for their child.

After doing it, he found that the little daughter was not his.

What I didn’t expect was that even the eldest son was not his...

What was even more outrageous was that my wife was confused when she got the appraisal report:

I am the youngest. I know it's not the case, but I didn't expect it...

I don't know who the child's biological father is...

Although he is not his biological father, the husband's family has a very deep relationship with the two children. Even if the marriage cannot go to the end, they still want both of them. custody of a child.

"If I really want to get divorced, I will fight for the custody of the two children, and then ask her to pay part of the child support, and I will not ask her to compensate for mental losses, as long as the two children can grow up healthily."

The lawyer was solemn to the man Respectfully, after seeing the close relationship between him and his unrelated child, the mother was indifferent to her biological child, and she was convinced that it would be a better outcome for the child to be raised by him.

But the child is not biologically related to him. How to fight for custody rights?

The best way is to mediate first and then go through the legal process.

But when the couple sat down for mediation, the lawyer was dumbfounded by what happened.

The two sides haven't said a few words yet, and their questions and accusations against each other are like machine guns firing at each other.

Not only that, the child is also used as a bargaining chip between the two of them.

They had no idea that the two children would be most hurt by this.

The lawyer who was standing on the sidelines was very sober. He said:

"Many things a person says when he is emotional are actually contrary to his true demands."

After calming down, the man still wants custody of the child. .

Under the analysis of the lawyer, the woman considered that she still owed a lot of debt and had problems with the most basic life security. It was undoubtedly best for the child to follow the man.

In the end, the two parties reached a mediation, and the custody rights of the two children belonged to the man. The woman paid half of the education and medical expenses, and a monthly maintenance fee of 3,000 yuan.

3

"I don't want to get divorced, and I'm not willing to

take away my daughter because of this."

There is also a divorce case involving a family with two children.

After the divorce, the mother lived with her two daughters.

But the husband took advantage of the visit and cooperated with his parents, snatching away the little daughter and preventing the mother and daughter from seeing each other.

html For more than 18 months, the mother has been wanting to see her child, but the man has refused her with various excuses.

As a last resort, the mother found a lawyer, hoping to get custody of her little daughter.

But when the lawyer checked the divorce agreement between the two, he found that:

The custody and custody of the younger daughter originally belonged to the man.

Not only that, the woman still cleans herself and leaves the house.

The lawyer was very puzzled: Why did you sign such an unequal agreement?

It turned out to be domestic violence.

During the conversation between the lawyer and the man, he discovered the undercurrent hidden in this family.

The man feels that the woman left him because of her high income and strong ability.

He doesn’t want to separate, so he wants to use his children to make the woman change her mind.

Just like what the barrage said: expressing emotions is through love and communication, not by hurting the other person.

When he was violent at home, when he took away the child and forced his wife to go to court with him, this relationship had the biggest crack.

During mediation, the lawyer asked both parties to talk about the advantages of the other party.

My wife recalled: He cooks delicious food, and she especially likes to eat the shrimps he cooks.

The husband also said: My wife is very patient and considerate.

The two chatted face to face, and the knot in their hearts was untied. The real pain points of the breakdown of the marriage were revealed and bandaged again...

On the way back, the husband admitted his mistakes, and the wife admitted that she also had shortcomings. The two reflected on themselves. problems in this marriage.

In the end, the woman obtained custody of her little daughter, and the two of them picked up the child from school together. Although the marriage was gone, another relationship could still exist.

Marriage is not the end, but a new beginning.

is written at the end:

If there are really some difficult problems, you can also choose to let go and start a new life.

The director said that the reason why the film was titled "Dear Enemy" was actually to remove the word "enemy":

"From enemy to old friend, the transfer of one stroke is actually the separation of a heart knot. From enemy to enemy It’s just a thought to see old friends seeking new life.”