Zhang Xiaoxian "Kiss Suspended in the Air" writes: "We thought that infatuation was very, very heavy, the heaviest weight in the world. One day, looking back suddenly, we discovered that it had always been very light; we thought it was very light. Love is very deep, but time will tell you that it is very shallow. "
Women are initially emotional and ignorant about love. Especially the emotions on campus pay more attention to feelings than the reality of survival.
It would be a pity not to experience a pure and persistent relationship in a person's life. But in reality, the feeling of "love and drink is enough" is very difficult to survive.
We have heard many truths and feel that we understand them. However, this so-called understanding is fundamentally different from the real experience.
Ms. Liu said that it took her half a lifetime to wake up. Women put height and appearance first when choosing a mate, and the chance of happiness is too low.
Ms. Liu said that although her marriage ended up being boring, it could be regarded as the fulfillment of a dream she had had as a girl.
Ms. Liu's husband, Mr. Gu, can be regarded as the male god on campus when Ms. Liu was a student, and he is the Prince Charming in the eyes of many girls.
And Ms. Liu is just an ordinary girl, in the corner, lost in the crowd.
One year after graduation, Ms. Liu met Mr. Gu by chance at work.
At that time, Mr. Gu was Party B of the cooperative unit. Although the two did not have a direct working relationship, in terms of twists and turns, Ms. Liu became Mr. Gu’s superior and to a large extent determined the outcome of this cooperation. Success or not.
Ms. Liu did not have any unnecessary thoughts about this reunion. In her subconscious, she was not worthy of Mr. Gu. On campus at that time, Mr. Gu's rumored girlfriends were all school beauties.
But with Mr. Gu’s approach, Ms. Liu’s girlhood dream was opened up again.
The cooperation went smoothly this time, and Ms. Liu did not violate her principles to help Mr. Gu. But it also gave some hints at key points that did not affect the overall situation.
In order to express his gratitude, Mr. Gu treated Ms. Liu to a meal. Ms. Liu thought that this was the end of the contact between the two people, but she did not expect that it was the beginning.
As the contact deepened, Ms. Liu learned that Mr. Gu did not go to college after graduating from high school. He later got married, but he divorced two years ago. There is a 4-year-old daughter who is raised by the woman.
27-year-old Ms. Liu had only dated one boyfriend before. She did not expect that Mr. Gu had already experienced a failed marriage at the same age.
As the contact increased, Ms. Liu also revealed her affection for Mr. Gu. Even after learning that Mr. Gu had a child, Ms. Liu's enthusiasm was not dampened.
Regarding this, Mr. Gu obviously knew his attitude towards Ms. Liu. Maybe it's because life has not been so smooth. Although Mr. Gu's height and appearance are still online, he looks a little vicissitudes of life. On the contrary, Ms. Liu felt that Mr. Gu looked more like a mature man.
After the two got married, Ms. Liu learned that after Mr. Gu’s salary paid his daughter’s alimony, he could only make ends meet by maintaining self-sufficiency. There was nothing she could do to support the small family of two people, so Ms. Liu hesitated and never dared to have children.
Before getting married, Ms. Liu was originally worried about Mr. Gu's good looks and whether she needed to pay more attention to him in male-female communication. In fact, Ms. Liu is really worrying too much, and Mr. Gu really doesn't have any emotional disputes or related problems.
But the fatal thing is that Mr. Gu is addicted to alcohol, which is also the real reason why he and his ex-wife broke up.
After the marriage, it was not revealed at first, and the two of them also lived a warm life. But the good times did not last long, and Mr. Gu missed more and more things because of drinking. And the wine was not good, and we were completely two people before and after drinking.
Ms. Liu persisted in this marital status for three and a half years. While she still had no children, she made up her mind to divorce.
Because of Mr. Gu’s good looks and previous halo, Ms. Liu entered the marriage in a hurry without fully understanding the nature of the other person, and eventually took a detour.
The most important thing for a stable and happy marriage is not appearance or height. Instead, we should focus on whether the personality, character, and three views of each other are compatible. It is also important to grow together after marriage.
Now that I have some life experience and have passed the age of hearing about love, I have to think more down-to-earth about marriage and love.
Appearance and height will never be as important as character and survival. This is the key to a woman's marital status in the rest of her life.
Whether it is secular or realistic, economic conditions are an important direction that must be considered. Including the other person’s family of origin and one’s own basic abilities.
In particular, you must keep your eyes open and stay away from people with bad habits and character. Otherwise, you will be injecting yourself into an infinite cycle of abyss and experiencing unpredictable pain.
Paying too much attention to appearance in a long-term marriage is actually meaningless. People will eventually get tired of aesthetics. No matter how good your appearance is, it cannot compare with the small happiness of a stable life, nor can it compare with being interesting and understanding your soul. .
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