I am Brother Hui, and I meet you in the emotional world every day. I have a story, do you have wine?
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Introduction: The famous contemporary writer Liu Xinwu once said: " is separated from the resonance and admiration of men and women in terms of thought, emotion, taste and temperament. It is just a pure relationship between the sexes and cannot be called love. . " It can be seen that love is the resonance of each other's thoughts and the blending of emotions, not just the relationship between the sexes.
However, some men and women in reality often do things that challenge the bottom line of love on the grounds that the other person loves them. And when the other party couldn't bear it anymore and decided to leave, he couldn't accept it and asked, "Didn't you say you loved me? Why can't you tolerate me even if I go out to have a relationship?" "I just made a small mistake like this. You are about to leave me, which proves that you were lying when you said you loved me before" and other such fallacies.
To be fair, these people have no moral bottom line at all. In their view, if you love me, you must tolerate me unconditionally. Even if I go out to develop a new relationship, you must wait for me to come back. Even if they break up in the end, it must be her initiative. Otherwise, you just touched her dragon scales, and she will definitely turn it upside down.
If we meet this kind of person in life, staying away decisively is the only choice. Otherwise, the deeper we love, the more seriously we will be hurt.
A 23-year-old girl’s view of love ruins people’s outlook on love.
In a certain TV show, there was a 23-year-old girl who did not hesitate to abandon her boyfriend of 4 years for a new relationship. When she learned that her ex-boyfriend was in love with her colleague, When the time came, they came back to entangle themselves in every possible way and made a big fuss. After watching the show, the author was so angry that my teeth itched.
The male protagonist Xiao Cui is 24 years old, from Hebei, and works as an assistant; the heroine Xiao Mei is 23 years old, from Shandong, and works as a salesperson.
Judging from the appearance, Xiao Cui is tall and straight and handsome; Xiao Mei has a graceful figure and beautiful appearance. The two of them standing together make people feel that they are a match made in heaven.
Xiao Cui and Xiao Mei used to be an enviable couple. They had been classmates since elementary school and junior high school. They separated due to studies in high school and became lovers at a class reunion in college. Later they met each other's parents. . Moreover, the parents of both parties expressed that they were satisfied with each other and planned to get them married after they graduated from college.
However, just after the two graduated, their relationship changed. Xiao Cui said: "Our family has prepared a house and a car, and we are ready to marry her, but she said that she had met true love and insisted on breaking up with me."
Regarding the matter of meeting true love, Xiao Mei explained: "At that time, both parties My parents asked us to get married every day, which made me feel pressured. I didn’t want to get married at such a young age. I was very hesitant. At this time, I happened to meet a customer. Unlike my boyfriend, he was very interesting every time he chatted with me and always brought me surprises. What he said and did was unexpected. , gave me a great sense of freshness. So I fell in love with it and told my boyfriend that I had found true love.”
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Xiao Cui continued: "When she broke up with me, I felt very uncomfortable because the relationship we had been dating for four years was instantly wasted, which was really unbearable for me. I desperately begged her to come back, but she I left very resolutely. Seeing that there was no way back, I went alone to Yunnan, where we had originally planned to go together for our honeymoon. After I arrived in Yunnan, I posted a lot of messages on WeChat and expressed my willingness to wait for her to come back, but in the end I didn’t get any reply from her. After traveling for more than a month, I finally gave up.”
I sorted out my feelings. , Xiao Cui said that after giving up, he decided to start over.Later, by chance, he met another girl in the same company and developed a romantic relationship with her. But what he didn't expect was that his ex-girlfriend suddenly appeared and pestered him in every possible way. Not only did she go to his current girlfriend's department to make trouble, but she often threatened him with life and death, which made him unbearable.
Hearing this, Xiaomei couldn't help but said: "When I found out that he had found a girl from the company's finance department, I couldn't accept it. I felt that he was in a relationship not long after we broke up. This doesn't prove that he didn't love before. Me?" The host of
couldn't help but interjected: "Didn't you break up? It's normal for people to find a partner." Xiaomei said: "I feel that the woman is the third party, vixen , otherwise it won't work. Maybe in such a short time I was with my ex-boyfriend all the time."
Xiao Cui continued: "She sent text messages to my girlfriend at first, insulting and insulting her. I didn't say anything wrong to her because of my long-term relationship. Later, I went to my parents to talk nonsense, which caused me to My parents scolded me."
The host asked Xiao Cui: "Where is your heart now?" Xiao Cui said: "It must be with my current girlfriend." The host asked him if his girlfriend came to the scene. Come on. Then the host invited Xiao Cui's current girlfriend Xiao Dan to the stage.
As soon as she saw the slim and beautiful Xiao Dan, Xiao Mei scolded: "Xiao San, vixen, you have the nerve to come here?" She looked obviously aggressive.
Xiao Dan said: "Host, I am here today just to handle this matter well so that she will stop harassing me and affecting our relationship. You don't know that she sends a lot of messages to abuse me every day. , often called me to harass me, and even went to my company and called me a 'mistress' and a 'vixen' in front of my boss, saying that I had stolen her boyfriend and caused my colleagues to suffer. Everyone looks down on me."
Seeing Xiao Dan say this, Xiao Mei quickly said: "You two are not really in love at all, it's just a temporary relationship. We have known each other for more than ten years and have been in a relationship for four years. He just likes it. Not you!"
Seeing Xiaomei's aggressive questioning, the host asked her: "When you left him? , isn’t it just for the sake of freshness?” Xiaomei replied: “I admit it was my fault at the time, but now I want to come back and be with him again.” The host
said, “But you can’t fool around like this. , I need his consent."
Finally, facing Xiao Mei, Xiao Cui said: "When I was with her. , I tolerated her very much. Even when she said she had true love, I prayed for her to change her mind. But she left so decisively that I completely gave up. What she did exceeded my principles and my bottom line. Therefore, I will not get back together with her."
The tutors then gave some comments, and most of them expressed opposition to Xiaomei's approach. Xiao Mei still insisted on getting back together, but in the end Xiao Cui did not choose her.
Conclusion: My grandma, a famous sociologist, said: "Arguing with a person who has no bottom line is a waste of time and energy. Apart from that, you can't gain anything." deeply agrees.
Xiaomei in the article gave up a beautiful relationship of four years for the so-called freshness, and she did so decisively. But when she learned that her ex-boyfriend was in love again, she came back to stop her in every possible way, which shows how selfish, domineering and without a bottom line she is.
Moreover, in the conversation with her ex-boyfriend and Xiao Dan, she did not see any reflection on her behavior. Instead, she was rude to Xiao Dan and even verbally attacked her, as if it was others who were wrong and not herself. This kind of behavior of confusing right and wrong and referring to deer as horses really made everyone present feel disgusted and disgusted.
On the other hand, although Xiao Dan suffered harassment and abuse, he still behaved politely, politely, and showed a high level of self-cultivation. Compared with Xiao Mei, one can tell who is better and worse at a glance.
As for Xiao Cui, being caught between two women, the ambiguity of his position and his tolerance for his ex-girlfriend's excessive behavior made his new girlfriend suffer deeply.If he could be more decisive and refuse more resolutely, he might be able to let his ex-girlfriend give up earlier.
Today’s topic: If you were Xiao Cui and faced your ex-girlfriend asking to get back together, how would you choose? Welcome everyone to write your shining opinions in the comment area!
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About the author: Brother Hui, a middle-aged uncle who has been running, hopes to wake up those drowsy people with his clumsy words.
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