PUA is a kind of mental control. PUA practitioners start by giving warmth and get into the hearts of women first. PUA practitioners are well aware of women's emotional needs. Women can be described as sweet in the process of first dating with him. I get whatever I want in romance, I say whatever I want to hear, it gives you the ability to search for him through hundreds of thousands of people, love finally comes to me When choosing prey, the perpetrators of PUA prefer women with love brain , emotional blankness, and longing for love, because such women are more likely to be controlled after being PUA, so that they can carry out the next step of mental control, Mental abuse, until the smooth implementation of domestic violence ! Therefore, the final result of PUA is usually accompanied by violence. After being subjected to PUA, female victims will love and hate the perpetrator, want to leave and suffer from characteristics similar to Stockholm syndrome, and will become willing to endure abuse rather than break up. Pain, worrying about gains and losses, constantly produce the thought of him being so cruel to me. It's because he loves me too much and it's because he's not good enough that he's irritated. If I become better, he will still love me and other fantasies. I endure and forgive the perpetrator's verbal violence and physical violence again and again. Some The woman finally developed severe self-doubt and was unable to escape the pain and committed suicide!
Next, let us look at the experience of Yu Xiuhua . Yu Xiuhua is a romantic poet. Although she is physically disabled, she has always used poetry to express her yearning and pursuit of love. She is unwilling to be mediocre and has a passionate heart! She would rather pay her ex-husband for mental damages than end the loveless marriage, write love poems to Li Jian in wild and uninhibited language, and her frank and casual image as a disabled person who strives for self-improvement brought her into the public eye and became a The popular Internet celebrity poet has therefore become the prey of PUA perpetrators. After careful measurement, she fully meets the standards of PUA perpetrators! "Emotional emptiness", "longing for beautiful love", "vulnerable group", "poor resistance"...
So Yang Chuce walked into Yu Xiuhua's life perfectly. For Yu Xiuhua, it was like a person falling from the sky. Jia Baoyu, they call each other Xiao Yu'er and Xiao Yang'er, and they built a love house called "Little Day" in Shennongjia ! Everything was so romantic and beautiful, they held a folk wedding, the lamb and the fish traveled around, they had fun among the flowers, picked wild vegetables on the grass, and wrote poems and made dumplings in their "little days"! Yang Chuce satisfied all the romantic imagination of love in the mind of poet Yu Xiuhua, and she devoted herself wholeheartedly without any precautions! A disabled person falls in love with a healthy and romantic young man. This is equivalent to winning the love jackpot! Yu Xiuhua fell in love without reservation!
The first phase of PUA basically ended perfectly. Then, the second phase came. Yang Chuchu started to lose his temper for no reason. Losing his temper requires a reason, such as jealousy. Jealousy is a way to make the other party feel that it is her fault. I also think it’s because he loves her so much and cares about her so much that he gets angry A good reason for temper, so Yu Xiuhua said that she shrank her head like a tortoise. In disputes stemming from jealousy, you can openly slander, suppress, abuse, use extremely insulting words, and you can wantonly attack the other person's personality, but you can still fight. Under the guise of deep love, making the other person feel painful and attached! Then they start to deny themselves in their hearts and start to doubt whether they really have something wrong with others, which is why they hurt the people who love them. Some PUA victims have reached this stage and begin to isolate themselves from the outside world, cut off all contact with the outside world, and eliminate all Friends and acquaintances to prove their innocence and loyalty to the PUA perpetrator in order to reassure their "loved ones"! This makes the PUA perpetrator even more unscrupulous, because he knows that the victim is already in isolation, and no one will help her even if he abuses her again.
Next comes the domestic violence stage. PUA perpetrators often use vicious language to attack their family members and begin to verbally insult the victim. The victim occasionally talks back or excuses, and domestic violence can naturally occur. Yang caught it Yu said that he got into a big fight about his daughter, slapped her in the face, and kicked her in the stomach, causing her to bleed profusely (Yu wrote on Weibo). Yu still has some sense. She knows that domestic violence only occurs once and countless times, and she suffers domestic violence. After that, he began to escape. Although he escaped, his heart was still with Yang Chuce, and he was still in pain. He began to doubt and deny himself, and still had an impulse to reconcile. I didn't know that this was not love, but the sequelae of PUA.
Nowadays, there are many PUA perpetrators, overtly or covertly, intentionally or unintentionally. They use the guise of love to mentally control some victims. I hope that the majority of women can keep their eyes open and keep a clear head when they suffer similar things. When PUA takes control, you must have the courage to escape and protect yourself!
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