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How good is this boy. He is 175 in height. He is also a bachelor graduate. He has a good job. Although he is not very handsome, he can at least take it out and bring it back. Why don't you match it? ? Just take a look.
You are now a single mother with a child. You can't ask too much.
There is also the boy in the front yard that your fourth aunt wants to introduce to you. Her third sister’s son, 38 years old, is very handsome, has a good job, and has good finances at home, but he is a little shorter. Although the height is less than 170, but the person is good, and he is still unmarried, I really don’t know what kind of boyfriend you are looking for?
It is not someone else who said these things, but the mother who has been worrying about me for half of my life.
Every time I go home or have a video call with my mother, and I am talking about other things, my mother will definitely change the conversation and involve me in finding someone.
Because I can't find a partner, my mother has been in a relationship in the past few years. Whether it is a neighbor or relatives or friends, almost all the friends who can be contacted have been contacted. There is only one purpose, which is to help me introduce my boyfriend.
I saw about 20 subjects before and after, but none of them succeeded. I don't know why. I just didn't feel good about it after being in contact with boys for a few days.
02
My name is Sun Yue, born in 1989, I was born in a rural family in Shenyang City, Liaoning Province. I am the only daughter of the family. She is 174 in height and looks average, but she is in good shape. The kind of temperament.
Mom and Dad are farmers who make a living by breeding. Mom and Dad lived in a more traditional era at that time, and they were more cautious and conservative in matters of love and marriage.
When you first fall in love, holding a girl's hand will blush for a while, let alone hug and kiss. It is absolutely impossible to live together at the wedding until the marriage certificate is obtained.
Therefore, my mother taught me since I was young that as a girl, I must be a little reserved and keep a certain distance from boys.
When I was young, my dad seldom disciplined me. Generally, dad would satisfy me what I like.I am also very used to me and follow me in everything.
But my mother is different. You have to intervene in everything yourself. The big and small affairs of the family are decided by your mother.
Since I went to kindergarten, my mother asked the kindergarten teachers to arrange for me and girls as a group when the children were playing games, not with boys, so as not to let my girls suffer.
Mom really took great pains.
Since then, I have slowly developed a mentality that rejects boys. I rarely talk to the boys in the class. Even if the boys take the initiative to greet me, I will deliberately avoid such scenes unconsciously. After a long time, other children are reluctant to play with me, and sometimes I play with two or three girls and children, most of the time I watch them play there, and I hide in the corner and watch. NS.
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By 1998, I was in elementary school. Unfortunately, I was assigned to a male table by the head teacher, because the class is arranged according to height because of my length. They are very tall, much taller than boys of the same age.
The final result showed that I was the second highest student in the class, and my gay table was the highest, and his name was Zhang Xinyu. Therefore, I was helpless and reluctant to sit with him in the last row of the class. A table.
I still clearly remember that Zhang Xinyu is actually quite delicate, handsome, with single eyelids, thin, tall, with a very good personality, and very humorous.
Zhang Xinyu always wanted to talk to me whether it was in class or break between classes, which made me extremely embarrassed, but I still didn't dare to refute him, so I let him talk about it by himself.
Because I repel boys to talk to me, I have been educated by my mother since I was young, so I must stay away from boys.
lived like this for three years.
When I was in the fifth grade of elementary school, I finally switched to a girl at the same table. Her name was Zhang Miao and she was also very tall. This made me very happy. Unfortunately, I was still sitting in the last row.
Maybe in the first three years of elementary school, I seldom talked. After seeing Zhang Miao and myself at a table, I had more things to say and wanted to talk to him.My personality is also a lot more extroverted.
I can feel it myself. I didn't have a word with boys, and I couldn't finish talking with girls.
04
In 2005, I was already in the first year of high school at this time. At that time, I had grown to 173.
Because the high school in the county is nearly 30 kilometers away from our home, it is necessary to live on campus.
At that time, my mother discussed with my father that my mother wanted to rent a house in the county town to accompany my studies. Mom and Dad said that during the critical period of high school business, we must eat and live well for our daughters, so that we can study wholeheartedly and be able to pass the exam in the future. A good university.
Actually, there is another important factor for my mother to come to the county seat to accompany her, that is, she is afraid that I will be a target in high school, or that I will be spoiled by other boys and bad boys.
Because girls are originally a disadvantaged group, it is not uncommon for many students to fail to learn to smoke and drink in high school, fight, or even make girls' stomachs bigger.
Therefore, my mother is not afraid of me smoking or something, but she is afraid of my premature love.
Until I graduated from high school, my mother watched my early love and it was done.
However, I have become a good girl and obedient girl in the eyes of my parents.
05
In 2008, I lived up to expectations. I was admitted to the Northeast Normal University accounting major in Changchun.
When I was just about to go to Changchun, my mother still told me that it would be easier to get to the university. At the same time, without delaying my studies, if you have a boy you like, you can try to fall in love.
However, for a novice like me, I don't even know how to fall in love, so why do you say that?
Maybe it's fate. One day I carried two thermos to the water room outside to get hot water.
Not far from the door of the water room, I saw a long queue. Many students were lining up to get hot water. I also stood at the end and started to line up.
waited for about 15 minutes,Finally it was my turn, so I unscrewed the lids of the two kettles separately and prepared to receive hot water.
When I was about to take out the water card, my head buzzed, it was broken, the water card forgot to bring it, and it was left in the bedroom. What can I do? Because the school can only use the water card to get hot water, and then the hot water will be hot out. Go back to get the water card and come back in the line, maybe the hot water will be exhausted, I am hesitant here.
Behind me, a big hand suddenly patted me on the shoulder, and said: "Forget the card, give it, swipe mine". He had discovered behind me that I did not have a water card.
I looked back. It was a male classmate. He was quite tall, at least about 1.85, and he was very handsome.
I paused, and then my face instantly became hotter and hotter. Suddenly a boy was talking to himself, and he was at a loss.
I'm a little incoherent, and I'm a little bit shy, so, that, how embarrassed, so I took the thermos and went to the bedroom.
At this time, I saw that he snatched the kettle in my hand with great force, and took the water card to help me pick up the hot water without saying a word.
Before I had time to react, he had taken the kettle to pick up the hot water. I stood there stupidly, at a loss. Everyone behind looked at us. For a moment, I felt embarrassed. I'm dead, I can't wait to find a seam to get in.
After filling my two thermos with hot water, he immediately handed me the thermos, and then said: "Here, the hot water is ready".
At this time, I slowly came over. What happened? I didn’t take the kettle right away, but said three consecutive thank you. When he filled up his kettle and walked to the bedroom, I stopped him.
I said, "Classmate, thank you, I got two pots of hot water for me, please come back to my dormitory with me, and I will return the money to you".
He smiled and replied, okay, okay, nothing, nothing, don’t take it to heart, the two pots of water are only one dollar in total.
But I still didn't let him go. I insisted on asking him and me to go back to the dormitory to get the money. He couldn't hold back me, so I went downstairs to the girls' dormitory and waited.
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He may also see my sincerity, and feel that this girl is quite enthusiastic about other things, so I was attracted by him, and said, he is going to my QQ No.
In this way, besides the boys in my class, I met the first boy in college. His name is Sun Jun. After getting to know him, he turned out to be a freshman in our accounting major. A class. After
, we gradually got to know each other. At the beginning, I didn't know how Sun Jun got along. He had no love experience at all. He took the initiative to chat with me every time.
Later one day after class, he asked me to go to the third floor of the cafeteria for dinner, and then I went with him, and we ordered a spicy hot pot , which was about to start eating.
Sun Jun stared at me with two eyes and said: "Sun Yue, I like you, be my girlfriend, I like you, I just like you a little bit when I first met you, after this incident, I strengthened my confidence, and I want you to be my girlfriend.
Just after listening to him, I did not immediately agree. After hesitating for a long time, I immediately said to him: "Let’s start with ordinary friends."
Sun Jun also agreed.
In this way, when I was in my junior year, Sun Jun and I were together and officially became boyfriend and girlfriend.
07
In 2012, after graduating from university, Sun Jun and I stayed in Changchun for development. I entered a state-owned enterprise and did financial work, and Sun Jun worked in a good private company.
Sun Jun’s parents are also natives of Changchun, so they are very close to Sun Jun’s parents’ home, and it’s easy to go home.
But the salary of both of us is not high, the monthly salary is around 3000.
I just graduated, and both parents are discussing buying a house for both of us to buy a house as soon as possible to get married.
My mother suggested that Sun Jun’s family buy a 100-square-meter house in Changchun.Another 200,000 gift is needed, and another small car is enough.
When Sun Jun’s parents heard it, Sun Jun’s mother immediately said: "God, are you really taking our local master family?"? You are selling your daughters, are you counting on the basis of the weight or the head count? There is no such thing as a bride price in our city.
Sun Jun’s father also echoed by the side: "It’s too expensive, it’s too expensive. You people in the countryside are so many things. If you don’t say you are poor, you also ask for so many others. You people in the countryside are all poor and dead! These bad things The customs are all handed down by your rural people,
But after hearing what Sun Jun’s parents said, my mother was not calm, because seeing her daughters being said by them, she opposed this marriage.
insults my daughters, but also insults our rural people.
Sun Jun and I can't talk, because when it comes to marriage, we must obey our parents, and our parents are in charge.
That's it, marriage is only No matter what, even if we put it on hold, the two families didn’t talk about each other.
After that, Sun Jun and I worked as parents separately, begging them to think more about us young people. We love each other with all our hearts. We can’t get married because of these issues, the bride price, the house, and the car.
In the end, both families stepped back and made concessions. Sun Jun’s parents bought us a 100-square-meter house with two bedrooms. , But only the down payment was made, and the remaining balance required me and Sun Jun to repay the mortgage. The gift was a symbolic gift of 80,000, and this 80,000 was also used to buy the transportation car for me and Sun Jun.
08
In 2013, Sun Jun and I got married. At the end of the same year, I was pregnant.
When I was about to give birth, my parents and my parents also took the train from the rural area of Shenyang to Changchun to see us.
Sun Jun’s father Because my mother lives in Changchun, it is very close to the hospital, and came to the hospital the next morning.
In the hospital I successfully gave birth to a lovely daughter, and Sun Jun and I were very happy.
Mom and Dad are also very happy. I am very happy that I have a granddaughter. My mother jumped up to Lao Gao with excitement. My father and Sun Jun were busy taking care of me.
Hey, when everyone was happy, my mother suddenly asked Sun Jun: "Where are your parents?"
Maybe everyone was patronizing and happy, and didn't care about the two missing people around.
My mother found out, and asked Sun Jun, and asked Sun Jun to find out where the father-in-law and mother-in-law went.
finally learned that when they knew that I gave birth to a girl, Sun Jun’s father and mother’s expectant faces instantly sank, because they like boys, especially looking forward to me being able to lick a grandson for their old grandson, but unfortunately granddaughter.
Therefore, Sun Jun’s parents also thought that since the hospital was also taken care of anyway, the two decided to go back to their home in unison, regardless.
After understanding this, everyone is a little unhappy. How can this be done? My mother complained that it is also your grandchildren, what happened to your granddaughter, no matter what you call grandparents?
The confinement period was also quite rough, Sun Jun’s parents never showed up.
Because the home in the rural area of Shenyang cannot be left without people for a long time, my mother sent my father back to the rural area of Shenyang, and stayed in Changchun to wait for my confinement.
Because Sun Jun still has to go to work every day, only my mother takes care of me and my daughter every day.
Mother not only has to take care of me, but also get up early every day to go out to buy vegetables, come back to make breakfast for us, clean the house, and wash clothes.
That's it. After a month, I can go to the ground by myself, and I can pay attention to some housework.
But unfortunately, my mother fell tired.
09
After going to the hospital for examination, my mother suffered from bronchial asthma and needs to be hospitalized.
As for me, I have to take my own child just after my confinement period, and my mother needs to be taken care of in the hospital.
I discussed with Sun Jun and asked him to take a few days off and go to the hospital to take care of my mother. Sun Jun thought about it and said: "The company has a lot of accounts recently, and a lot of receipts. invoices need to be recorded.How could the unit give a fake?"?
Also, we have girls now, life pressure is relatively high, you still don’t go to work, the family can only rely on me to work to make money, every day adults eat and drink, and children’s milk powder money, I still have to pay off my mortgage every month. How dare I take time off.
I said loudly: "Then what about my mother? She can be in the hospital"?
I quarreled with Sun Jun. There was no solution to the problem.
Since I gave birth to my daughter, Sun Jun’s parents have not reappeared. After that, after marriage, I ignored Sun Jun and me.
From then on, I also understand, I can’t point to them anymore, and I am dead.
There is no way, I will give it to my dad I called and asked him to come to Changchun to take care of my mother.
After my mother was discharged from the hospital, she returned to her hometown in rural Shenyang with her father.
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But how about Sun Jun and I, since we went to the hospital to take care of my mother last time After a big fight, I felt that there was a problem in the relationship between our husband and wife.
As for Sun Jun, he just went to work every day and did nothing when he came back from work. After returning home, he would play on the sofa and play with his mobile phone. Games, housework, and children don’t care about anything.
is not like before marriage. Everything follows me and spoils me, for fear that I will be a little wronged. How come I have changed so much after marriage?
Why is this?
Over time, Sun Jun and I talk less and less. After I breastfeed my child every day, I clean up the housework, cook and wash clothes as usual.
And Sun Jun. , And never take the initiative to care about me, never do anything for me, even the couple life is much less.
Finally one day, while he was asleep at night, I secretly looked at his phone, I looked through his WeChat chat records, because every day he comes home from work, he is either playing games or chatting on WeChat, and I don’t know who he chats with so much.
The sixth sense of women is quite accurate, sure enough, yes. A friend named Tingting on WeChat actually addressed him, dear,Miss me, what are you doing? Come to me after work. These disgusting ambiguous words, scroll down the chat date.
only recalled that it was because of my mother's illness that we were hospitalized. A few days after the two of us had a big fight, that is to say, since then, he hooked up with this Tingting.
Holding the phone, my fire immediately came up, and I gave him a mouthful when he went up. Sun Jun was still dreaming, but he was woken up by my mouth fan. I don't know what's going on?
In the end, he also admitted, confessing that he and Tingting had only had a one-time relationship, so Sun Jun begged me to forgive him. He promised me that he would never dare to do it again.
I burst into tears and scolded him: "You bastard, I want to divorce you and not live with you.
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Sun Jun has no choice but to see me He wanted to get a divorce so resolutely, he had no choice but to agree.
Because Sun Jun knows me, I am a traditional girl. If there is a marital rebellion, I will definitely get divorced.
Finally, Sun Jun left the house and left the house to me. The girl belongs to me. Mom and Dad knew that after we were divorced, they agreed with me. A man who cheats can’t ask for it. Such a person will not change after all. Identity, single mother.
After I returned to my original company to work.
In 2021, the girl went to elementary school, and her life continued.
No one loves a girl more than her mother. Tell me, you are 33 years old now and you are not too old. Find a man while you are young. You will definitely not be able to live as a woman. If you are under too much pressure, find a man to help you with your children.
Mom contacted the matchmaker again. The boy your fourth aunt wants to introduce to you in the front yard of our house is the son of her third sister’s family, 38 years old, handsome, good job, and good family finances. Yes, it’s just a bit shorter. Although the height is less than 170, the family is unmarried.The man must agree with one hundred people, so just take a look.
It is not good for me to go against the wishes of my mother, and it is not good for me to hurt the good intentions of the fourth aunt in the front yard, so I went back to my hometown in Shenyang to have a look.
As soon as I saw the man, my first instinct was not good. I was too short. My height was 174. Why can't I find someone so much shorter than me. It seems that the man is around 165 at best. It's too uncoordinated to stand together.
There is no way to go on a blind date and fail. Everyone is not asking for it, and it is difficult to get emotional.
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Because for me, whether in love or even marriage, two people must meet each other. If there is no relationship, it is really difficult to continue getting along.
I am a very conservative-minded girl. Many people say that love can be cultivated, and you can't just look at the first feeling. It's unreliable to say that.
I’m sorry I can’t, I don’t want to make fun of my marriage anymore. I have experienced a failed marriage and I don’t want to experience one failure. I am afraid of failure. Women are inherently fragile. Men can experience failure again and again. Marriage.
But when a woman experiences a failed marriage, her value will depreciate once. It is undeniable that there are still many good men in this world, but once again facing marriage and love, she is frightened.
Everything is in accordance with the will of God, cherish the fate and do not climb the fate.
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