"The helplessness of older leftover women", during the National Day holiday, I was 32 years old and my mother arranged five blind dates

During the eight-day National Day holiday, I finally returned home, but my mother and the matchmaker arranged five blind dates.

My classmates of the same age, as well as those relatives and friends, almost all got married and had children, and some even gave birth to three children, and I was still alone.

For the other half of my life, I would rather not be indiscriminate and live a lifetime with people who do not agree with the three views. That is a painful life.

So, I would rather be lonely than love.

There are too many examples around me, lonely for my life because of wrong love.

The concept of love I believe in is not recognized by my mother.

Always nagging me on the phone: Someone’s days are not coming here all at once, and the two couples did not make do with it. You see, didn't your dad and I make do for a lifetime? Don't pick and choose, you'll almost get it.

My mother: Just watching you and dad make do, have you had a happy time these years? Relying on his high education, Dad always plays with the majesty of the head of the family. He raises his eyebrows at you and occasionally gives you a good face, but you are as happy as a child.

I don't want to follow your footsteps and let myself live so humble for the rest of my life.

I am 32 years old this year, about 1.6 meters tall, weighing 110 kilograms, and all my facial features are fair. My skin is fair and not too beautiful, but it is also radiant.

is currently a designer in a clothing company, with a monthly salary of 10,000 plus commission.

Financial independence is my greatest confidence. Even if I don’t marry, I have the ability to live the rest of my life without worry.

The most sorry thing in my heart is my parents.

As a parent, the greatest wish is for their children to get married and start a business, so that they can enjoy their old age with peace of mind, and even if they go to another world, they will have no regrets.

At the age of 32, in the eyes of my parents, I am a veritable "older leftover girl"

There are still a few days before the National Day holiday. My mother arranged five blind dates for me early on with a matchmaker.I thought that taking advantage of this holiday, I could find a wishful man.

Actually, it's not that I don't want to have a blind date, but that I watch too much and feel numb to men.

In the past few years, there are not one hundred and eighty people I have had on blind dates. There are a few that I rarely see right, but other parents dislike me when I am older, older mothers, and the risk of having children.

Regarding this, I have dismissed it, but my age is definitely a flaw. If a woman cannot marry at the age of 30, she will definitely get stuck in her age if she goes on a blind date with a man.

Sometimes, I am reflecting on myself, do I really miss too much? But when I think about it, there is nothing wrong with my pursuit. Isn't that girl looking for someone who loves herself and has the same three views to marry?

Because I am over 30, should I feel wronged to accept reality?

is the reality too cruel, or I am too naive.

Maybe it’s because I have a shadow in my heart. If it weren’t for being deeply involved in a relationship and unable to extricate myself for a long time, I wouldn’t have become an old leftover girl and become a joke in the eyes of others.

When I was twenty-six years old, I met my ex-boyfriend at work. He is nearly 30 years old and we are all rushing to get married.

We have been in love for two years. Both parties have met their parents. They are very satisfied with each other. I hope we can get married as soon as possible so that they can hold their grandchildren.

So we chose an auspicious day and got engaged first.

Happiness is right in front of us, but in front of reality it is fleeting.

One day after autumn, in a routine physical examination organized by the company, I was found to have several tumors in the thyroid gland, which had reached 7 mm in size. The B-ultrasound showed a high possibility of malignancy.

At that time, I almost broke down. I was preparing to get married and have children, and spend my life with my beloved one.

The happiest moment of life has just begun, but God made such a big joke with me.

While complaining about God’s unfairness, I was desperate to tell my ex-boyfriend the bad news, hoping to get some comfort from him.

After learning the news, he was surprised. Who knows he just said two words: It’s okay,You take a good rest first, am I busy?

's tone is cold and alienated.

I felt it, and thought he might be busy, and would look for me later.

On the advice of the doctor, let me take a blood test to confirm whether the tumor is benign or malignant. The result will be available in a week.

This is the longest, most hesitant, and most helpless seven days in my life. The result has not been diagnosed yet. My parents dare not say it, and friends cannot say it. I can only suffer hard by myself.

In these dark seven days, I have been waiting for my ex-boyfriend to call or he would come to me.

finally waited, but it was the news that he was breaking up with me.

The reason is: my disease will drag him down for the rest of his life. Whether it is malignant or benign, there is a high probability that it will be passed on to offspring. So he will not accept it.

To test whether a person is sincere to you, you will know if you are sick.

For this man, I was completely chilled, and I couldn't wait to draw a line with me before the result came out.

The husband and wife were birds of the same forest, and the catastrophe was about to fly separately.

We are not yet a husband and wife. There is a small twist in life, he left me and left without mercy, such a selfish man.

Should I be glad to miss it?

Seven days later, the result came out. It was benign. The big rock that has been pressing on my heart can finally be put down.

The ridiculous thing is:

After half a year, the ex-boyfriend heard the news from our mutual friends and turned back and begged me to get back together. I am a little puzzled. Wasn't he going to break up?

It turned out that he had a blind date with several girls. In contrast, he still thinks that I am the best. Coupled with the high income, after marrying me, his financial pressure is not that great.

To put it more clearly, it is because of the money.

Men who share ups and downs, don't worry.

When people are facing life and death, it is false to say that they are not nervous. The only thing that can be done is to calmly face it.

In this world, no one is reliable except the parents who gave birth to you,Only when you become strong will you not be afraid of wind and rain, and will be able to face all suffering.

See through people's hearts, but also understand some truth.

In the days to come, I will put my love to work, work hard, and give me one more retreat for my future choices.

I have felt the selfishness and ruthlessness of men. When I am with other men, I always wear armor to get along with others, and I have dated one man after another.

I lack self-confidence, and I end up in failure every time.

Maybe I haven't waited, the man who can give me a sense of security.

In this way, I live pick and choose, year after year, turning myself into an older leftover woman.

Oh! The helplessness of the elder leftover girl, should I do it, or should I stick to my principles?

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