Even if the mother and the child are very harmonious in life, the mother and daughter will also have big and small conflicts. In the eyes of outsiders, they can live in harmony, or even close relationship, because they know how to deal with their problems and contradictions. In reality, conflicts between children and mothers are often carried by the negative emotions of both parties and stranded in each other's hearts. And the continuous life will make the contradictions snowball like a snowball, and the relationship between them will become more and more tense, and even drop to a freezing point.
When you have a conflict with your mother, what should you do so that you can actively and actively resolve it without escalating it?
1. Take the initiative to take the first step, sit down calmly, and communicate with your mother without emotion.
proactively reconcile and solve the problem. The first step you take will often dilute your mother's anger and dissatisfaction with you. I won't be stunned with you anymore. This will help you communicate with each other normally. If you are all angry and ignore anyone, then the problem is there, even if you don't touch it, the problem will still exist.
2. After all, I am a junior, so I must first review my behavior. And a sentence of sorry can bring your relationship closer.
A review is not a surrender, but you give yourself a chance to reconcile, so that you can open your hearts to each other and stop being hostile. In that way, the atmosphere of chatting will become harmonious, instead of going up and down, the two people are incompatible with each other.
3. Tell the essence of the contradiction,Explain your point of view, give a sufficient reason, and try to convince the other party
If there is a contradiction, you must put the contradiction in the clear, and then the other party will know your thoughts and understand why you should do it. In life, your behavior is not understood and recognized because your mother does not understand your true purpose, or even your inner pain. Therefore, you have to express your thoughts.
Once there was a mother and daughter, because her daughter’s upper gums bulged out, the beauty of her face was compromised. So my daughter wants to do medical beauty. Regardless of the mother asking for money. Mother does not support it. She didn't think it was a big problem, and there was no need to spend the wronged money. Disagreements and contradictions created a gap between mother and daughter. When the mother and daughter calmed down and each expressed their own thoughts, the mother realized that this problem had plagued the child from university to graduate school for many years. The jaw is short and it is very ugly to laugh. She doesn't want to dare not laugh all her life. But a simple tooth can change everything, why not. What's more, many of her classmates and friends have already done so, with good results. After understanding the child's thoughts, she found out that she did not understand the child's psychology at all. So she proposed to go to the top three hospitals and ask if the doctor in the hospital said it could be done, the mother would not object, and she would definitely support it. Therefore, they went to the hospital together, and finally got a happy ending after the doctor gave a judgment and pointed out the pros and cons of the whole tooth. The mother-daughter relationship has also been eased, and it is getting better and better.
4: Listen carefully to your mother's thoughts, and then empathize, so as to be more considerate of your mother.
Sometimes we think that our ideas are correct. In fact, if you think carefully, the parents' ideas may not be wrong. They are just different from their own perspectives and levels. Therefore, as a child, be considerate of the mother. To instill some new ideas into them,Or affect her in daily life.
5. Affirm the mother’s love for herself. Let the mother give more opportunities. And to follow your own ideas is necessary for your own growth.
Your own ideas may be immature, but mothers must give themselves opportunities and let them experience them. Just like, if I have never left my parents, I want to go abroad for further study. The mountains are high and the road is far away. I have to solve all kinds of difficulties when I encounter them. Therefore, this time, I also hope to give myself a chance and let myself do it. If you want to be a mother, if your child communicates with herself in this way, she will definitely have a good relationship with you and make conflicts less and less.
Mother's love is selfless and great. They often hope to tell their children their experiences and lessons as soon as possible so that they can avoid detours. In fact, the times are different, and many things can no longer be generalized, not to mention the way of thinking and doing things of the younger generation has been greatly different from them. Therefore, if you blindly follow the elders’ ideas and fail to keep up with the times, your child’s growth is hindered, and the child himself will ultimately suffer.
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