When looking for a partner in old age, in addition to living together, they should also be sincere to each other. If you meet someone who has a purpose for yourself, it's better to live by yourself. After all, life doesn't have to have a company to live well.
To be a man, we still have to have a basic moral bottom line. Don't do some conscientious things for your own selfish desires. If the other person treats you sincerely, you should return it with sincerity. Of course, if you are boring to the other party from the beginning, then simply dismiss the relationship decisively.
However, most people still have some deep-rooted ideas. I feel that people have to have a partner, and then I think I will match up and persuade him (her) well. But is this really good for the other party? Is it really possible for each other to find a perfect partner?
01 Self-reporter: Aunt Wang
My husband passed away a few years ago. It has been nearly 30 years since he got married and passed away. Let alone our feelings, the long years of these decades are enough to make people feel sad.
We are in free love. At that time, we all worked in the same company, and after seeing each other a few times, we had a good impression of each other, and then we got together naturally. After talking for two or three years, we got married. Life after marriage is relatively plain to be honest. It's not that we have a bad relationship, it's just that we both don't have any romantic cells, and we don't think about doing passionate things. We always have a long history.
In-laws are also gentle, and there are no major conflicts at home. I gave birth to a child, and my mother-in-law will also help take care of it. Moreover, the two elders have no patriarchal thoughts and are very good to my sons and daughters.When the children grow up, we focus on our own business, and our parents-in-law focus on taking care of the children for us.
This kind of life is what I have always wanted. It's a pity that God's will make someone, and my husband died in his early fifties. In the next few years, the children married one after another, and the two elders also returned to their hometowns, saying that they would spend the rest of their lives in peace. The family seems to be me alone without a partner of my own.
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After my children got married, I moved out and lived by myself. Although they don't say anything, I know in my heart that they still don't want anyone to disturb. So, in order not to embarrass them, I took the initiative to move out.
After getting acquainted with the neighbors around, they started to introduce me to my wife. They said that my children are not around, and my husband is no more. It's not easy to be alone, so they actively find me a wife. I don't think it would be uncomfortable for a person to live alone, but I don't want to let their kindness go. Besides, I don't reject multiple people around me, so I agree.
Soon, they found me a peer. The other person looked good and had a mild temper, so I tried to get along with him. At first I thought it was pretty good. I would help with housework, go for a walk and dance square dance together. But after a period of time, he started asking me for money frequently, and even asked me to give him the passbook!
I did not agree, and then we broke up. After the neighbors knew about it, they apologized to me and comforted me. They also said that they would keep their eyes open and find someone who truly lives with me.
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They introduced me to another object. That person is a few years older than me, and he has some minor physical problems, but he can still accept it. I also tried to get along with him, but the result also disappointed me.
He was really nice to me at the beginning, and he would cook me some good dishes from time to time. I have to say that his cooking skills are very good and his character is not a big problem. I also thought about living like this with him. However, his essence is still the same as the previous one. Let me give him my passbook and retirement fund, saying that he will manage money and make our lives better in the future.
Of course, he and I are also divided. After that, the neighbor introduced me another one, saying that this was the last time. They have already walked away and said, I can only bite the bullet and accept it. This one is a few years younger than me, but it is also more direct. Within a few days of getting along, he made no secret of his peeping into my passbook.
I have changed three wives in one year. In a word, I think about my pension. After this round of things, the neighbors also stopped trying to find a wife for me, and I lived my life quietly.
What you think is good for others may not be really good for others. There are people with ulterior motives, regardless of age. Even if it is well covered up at the beginning, it will always be exposed afterwards.
A person who has a different vision for himself is by no means a good match for himself. If you encounter such a person in reality, you should hurry up and stay away from the other person, otherwise you will only be injured.
People do not have to find a partner in their old age. It’s actually nice to be alone. If you’re bored, go outside and take a look, or chat with people around you. At home, I can also write and draw, or just lie on the sofa and watch TV. How pleasant it is.
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