Wen|Zhu Shenyong
When I was doing the live broadcast, one of the helpers said: My husband went to the entertainment place with a colleague because of work, and then I met a woman inside, who might work For qualitative reasons, that woman will please men very much.
After getting better with that woman, my husband was impatient with me when he went home. We either quarreled or had a cold war.
Last year, I quarreled with my husband and he moved out. Later I learned that they were living together.
At the beginning of this year, I don’t know why. My husband came back. I thought he would get better later, but he often finds fault. Last time we had a fight, he went to find a lover again. Now he is not on the phone. The message is not returned, what should I do?
First, my husband lived with other women for a year. What have you done during this year?
He went out to live with his lover for a year. If his wife cries and hangs three times, I can understand. At least you have done something to fear that women learn to be ostriches. "Anyway, the sandstorm of marriage is coming, I Bury your head in the soil and sand, and the sky will be clear when the sandstorm passes."
So many women are waiting, waiting for her husband to have a conflict with her lover, and her husband will come back.
Many people around will also persuade, "The rabbit's tail can't grow. That woman is a woman in an entertainment venue. He will dislike her eventually. He will wake up. You are better than that woman. You don't have to worry."
Or some women may be troubled like a big goose, but when they find that trouble is useless, they just give up and have been confused for a year.
In this year, you think about what your husband and lover will think. Your husband will think "You can't do anything with me", and the lover will think "You don't love this man at all, but you are relying on your child." Refusing to divorce.”
His wife did not set a task for them, nor did he set a time for them, so they were naturally at ease outside.
And the wife is a cow and a horse at home, serving children, and serving his parents. They don't have the trivial and annoying things of marriage. They are only responsible for happiness.
Men will not give up extramarital affairs when there is no pressure.
Second, my husband came back, but he left again. Do you know why he came back?
He might have quarreled with his lover, and the lover asked him to give him a name. He couldn't explain it. The lover saw him clearly, so he came back. But because you quarreled again, or he babbled to the lover again, the relationship between the two people eased again.
In fact, he lived with his lover for a year. He has experienced the goods. The result of the inspection was that they had a bad time, so they broke up.
and he came back in these two situations,How should we deal with these two situations?
After he comes back, I hope the family can give him some understanding and respect. At this time, you should not quarrel with him, but communicate with him in a rational way. You have to set up small tasks to solve.
Step 1, The wife wants to tell him, "Did you break up with your lover before returning to the family, or did you have a conflict with your lover, you go back home to hide from the limelight", you must first talk to him Determine this matter. When you figure this out, you will know where their relationship has entered into the life cycle of the extramarital relationship.
Step 2, You immediately say, "I want to make sure what you have to do when you return to the family, otherwise you can’t return. If you want to return, you return. I’m not a trash can. There is also garbage that must be collected and cleaned up in time."
You quarrel with him, you quarrel with him, nothing more than you think he has not returned thoroughly enough, nothing more than you think he didn't explain clearly to you, you are still emotional, so you often communicate emotionally. So there will be troubles, problems.
Step 3, Now my husband is running out again, and his wife wants to start a full battle with him. If he is allowed to form a "come as you want, leave as you want" model, he will often do this in the future. If he is wronged on the lover's side, he will run home, and if he is wronged at home, he will go to the lover's side.
tell him,"You have been out for a year, and now you are out again, I'm sorry, let's see how this marriage ends." You have to give him pressure and time limit, don't just endure it blindly.
We tutor clients to set the time. When the time is up, if the marriage cannot be saved, the man does not return, and does not break up, we directly kill the marriage.
When saving a marriage, it should not take too long, otherwise it will not be conducive to your husband’s relationship and your personal growth.
Author: Zhu Shenyong, Fudan MBA, founder of Marriage Management School, author of the best-selling book "Extramarital Affairs" Help, please send me a private message and I will reply to everyone.
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