My lover Xiao Yang and I have just been married for half a year. Recently, during this period, I found that he often quietly gets up in the middle of the night and goes to the living room for a while, and then goes back to bed. Finally one day, I could not help but quietly follow him——
■Talker: Qingfeng
■Age: 28 years old
■Occupation: Staff
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My acquaintance with my lover Xiao Yang is full of drama, just like a bridge in a TV series. I met him on a blind date website, but the original intention of our contact had nothing to do with love.
I had been divorced for half a year, and my mother urged me to go to various blind dates every day. My mother just retired that year. I got divorced. She has something to do. As long as she finishes her work every day, she holds her phone book and calls everyone she knows one by one, as if I became a slow-moving person in her hands. I can’t wait to sell my products right away, and even take some gifts.
This puts a lot of pressure in my heart, and it's also very depressed, and I want someone to show up right away so that I can escape this embarrassing environment. Actually, the divorce between me and my ex-husband has no other problems. The main reason is that both my personalities are too strong and young, and I can't deal with the problem. In addition, every time I had a quarrel with my ex-husband, and there were conflicts, my mother-in-law would definitely stand by my ex-husband's side, saying that I was too anxious and didn't know how to coax my husband.
I am an only child, and my ex-husband is the only child. Therefore, both of them are very self-conscious, self-willed, and have a strong desire to control. In the process of living together, they all want to act according to their own will and hope that the other party will compromise. The fiercest time of our quarrel directly led to our breakup.
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Since we got married, we will go to my parents' house every weekend for one day.That Friday night, I called my parents and said that we would go back together tomorrow morning.
When I got up for breakfast on Saturday, I started to pack my things and plan to go to my parents' place with him. At this moment, a buddy of his ex-husband called and asked him to go out with him for a social gathering. Without even thinking about it, he agreed.
I was very angry, so I yelled at him a few words: "You have promised to my parents, why don't you refuse? If you say yes, don't go, what do my parents think?" He said, "You don't go back alone. Just tell your parents, why have to go there every week?"
Every time my parents know that we are going back, they will go to the supermarket to buy things early in the morning. He won’t go back. My parents didn’t prepare for nothing. NS? So I didn't like it anymore, "That won't work, what's the matter if I go back by myself?" I was a little frustrated.
At this time, the mother-in-law heard us arguing and came over to persuade. I thought my mother-in-law would be on my side this time, but she didn't expect that she said, this is not a big deal, what's the noise? Isn’t it the same for the past on Sunday?
My ex-husband heard what his mother said, and felt that he had strong support, so he took the bag and ran away. Of course, I went back alone that time, and my parents' unhappiness is also conceivable.
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This incident seems to have become the fuse for our divorce. After that, our relationship model has fallen into a strange circle, 's family affairs , He agrees, I oppose; I agree with our family's affairs, he opposes, and no one is willing to compromise, no one is willing to give in. From the beginning of the quarrel to the later hands-on, to the end of the two people quarreling exhausted, came to the point of divorce.
To be honest, both of us regretted the divorce procedures. In any case, after all, there is no big contradiction between the two of them, and there is no problem of principle, but they are all trivial things in life. But there is no regret medicine in this world. Although both of them have mentioned the remarriage, it was a mistake, and in the end there was no chance to look back.
divorced less than half a year,The ex-husband remarried, and the object of the remarriage was one of their colleagues. At that time, I was quite angry. I thought this man was ruthless and unjust. Sometimes I wondered if he was against me every day. He actually cheated on him a long time ago. But it's just thinking like this, without evidence, it's just thinking. But the advantage of thinking this way is that I don't regret it that much.
My mother has become more anxious since she learned about my ex-husband's remarriage. One thing she often said is: I don't believe that my daughter can't find someone better than that man. This kind of belief supports her, so I look for someone with confidence every day. It was in this situation that I registered on a marriage and love network, thinking about getting rid of my mother's siege as soon as possible.
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The second day I registered, Xiao Yang added my QQ. In fact, he didn't come to marry, but just wanted to find someone to talk to. At that time, Xiao Yang had not yet divorced, but his wife's derailment caused him too much damage.
I don't know how he chose me among so many beauties at the time, and the photos I sent were not the perfect ones in my opinion, maybe it was the so-called eye-catching he said.
On the first night we met, he told me all of his experience. He said that he was in pain, divorced, and felt a little reluctant to feel the feelings of many years. Don't get divorced, you can't get through this hurdle.
Because I myself had a failed marriage experience, I advised him not to divorce easily. I told him about my experience, and I also said that I regretted it. I reflected that I was not tolerant enough in my marriage, which led to such a consequence today. So I persuaded him not to be blind. People will make mistakes. Give the other party a chance, and maybe the road will be smoother. To give children a complete home is more important than anything else.
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That was the first night we met, and I didn't expect it to be 12 o'clock at night. To the end,Both of them felt a little bit unfulfilled.
When he finally had to go offline, he said, "Thank you, I feel more comfortable. I haven't felt so relaxed for several months, but you have to go to work tomorrow, so I won't delay you anymore." I am happy to be able to help others, to be recognized by others, and I still have a sense of accomplishment in my heart.
For about a month, Xiao Yang will be online at around 8 o'clock every day, waiting to chat with me. Suddenly one day, I discovered that we no longer touched on the topic of his wife's derailment, but like a pair of friends, we chat every day. I can feel that he is indeed a good boy with rich knowledge and delicate emotions.
This kind of day passed for a while, and a few days later, Xiao Yang suddenly disappeared. I'm still a little bit down, thinking he will not be online anymore. A few days later, I met Xiao Yang again on the Internet. He told me that he had completed the divorce procedures in the past few days, because he thought it through.
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I was a little surprised and asked him why he has been able to bear so many years of feelings. He said that he found that he couldn't get through this hurdle anyway, and he didn't want to carry this heavy burden so painfully for the rest of his life. I said, I hope you can think about it thoroughly, so that you can regret it.
Some days later, Xiao Yang suddenly asked me to meet. I agreed without even thinking about it. After all, I have been chatting on the Internet for so long, and both of us have a good opinion of each other, and we are both single, so there is nothing wrong with it.
We first met at a coffee shop. In the soft music, Xiao Yang and I were sitting in the coffee shop. He wore a white shirt and black-rimmed glasses that day, and he looked gentle, in line with his profession, the image of a civil servant. Although overall it seems that he is not the type I like, but I don't hate it either.
is the first time to meet, but because the time to chat online is not short, and I have seen each other's photos, so it is not very restrictive. Xiao Yang was very considerate and helped me pull the chair and stir the coffee. His every move looks very gentleman and very cultivated.
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From the Internet to reality, both people feel very close. Compared with my ex-husband, Xiao Yang has a slightly more introverted personality, but he is quite romantic. He spends with me every weekend.
Every weekend, when he comes to pick me up, he will hold a bunch of roses in his hand. He asked me to put the flowers in the vase in the bedroom. The flowers from last week hadn't withered, but new ones were bought again, so that my bedroom is filled with the sweet fragrance of flowers every day.
His romance and delicacy really touched me, and I quickly agreed to his pursuit. The new relationship gradually dispelled the haze caused by the divorce. During that time, I tasted the sweetness of love again, and the whole person also felt a lot of sunshine.
Mom knew that I had a boyfriend, and no longer forced me to go on blind dates every day, and no longer saw me every time and felt that I was awkward everywhere. I feel that my painful life has finally come to an end, and a happy and sweet day is about to come.
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Unexpectedly, when we entered the second month of our official communication, there was a small accident. That day, when I was at work in my unit, I suddenly received a call from Xiao Yang. It turned out that Xiao Yang told his parents about our relationship, and his parents strongly opposed it. His parents and family felt that he had just divorced, and they met me on the Internet. In all likelihood, he met a liar.
In order to dispel his parents' doubts, Xiao Yang couldn't help but drove his parents to the door of our unit, and then he called me in front of my parents and told me to go downstairs.
My first meeting with Xiao Yang's parents was in the car. Xiao Yang's parents seem to be kind of very charitable old people, and I also understand them, because they are afraid that their son will be deceived, they stop us. Now, let them see that I am a real existence,They won't worry anymore.
Sure enough, the two old men laughed happily after meeting me. They asked about my job and the situation of my parents, and they all said they were quite satisfied. Because Xiao Yang had already greeted me beforehand, so I behaved decently in front of the two old people. I asked and answered questions smoothly. Xiao Yang's mother finally took my hand and said, this girl looks pretty good, and we are very satisfied.
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This is how the small crisis is eliminated, and everything that follows is a matter of course. The parents met, and the wedding date was soon finalized.
Because both of us are remarried, we don't want to make a big deal. Xiao Yang and I took ten days off at our work unit. We went to travel once, even if we were married. In this way, the curtain on a new life began. After a year of single life, I re-entered a new marriage.
After marriage, I found out that the furniture at home was not brand new, and most of them were bought when he married his ex-wife. To be honest, I feel a little uncomfortable. Xiao Yang said that all these furniture were shipped from other places at a high price. If you lose everything, I really can't bear it.
Look at the mahogany furniture, they are all 90% new. It would be a pity if all were replaced as he said. I think that when I save enough money in the future, I must replace all these things.
After marriage, Xiao Yang has always cared for me. As long as he has time, he will help me with some housework. He is attentive and considerate. Whenever my menstrual period comes, he will take care of all the housework at home. In the fashionable words, he is indeed a warm man.
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The living conditions of Xiao Yang's family are good. We live in a house with three bedrooms and one living room, and his parents are just downstairs. Because they are not with their parents, the two people's small life is still very clean and casual. It's just an incident that I discovered suddenly, but it made me lose my sense of happiness.
how many times,I slept in the middle of the night, touched my side, and found that it was empty, Xiao Yang was not in the bedroom, but the light in the living room was on. I thought he had insomnia and watched TV alone in the living room, so I didn't bother him. After a few times, I was a bit weird and wanted to find out.
One day, as soon as he left with his front foot, I got up with him and walked to the bedroom door. Through the crack in the door, I saw Xiao Yang looking at something with my phone. I want to get angry, but I think we haven't been married for a long time, because it doesn't seem to be worth fighting because of this. So I endured forbearance, slowly returned to the bed, and continued to lie down.
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After about a few minutes, Xiao Yang is back. He gently put my phone on the bedside table and lay down next to me again, and soon snored slightly. I don't feel too depressed in my heart. Although there is nothing on the phone that he suspects, his behavior still makes me feel very disappointed, and there is a hint of anger.
In addition, I found that he had secretly logged into my QQ, which made me feel unacceptable. Although I can feel that he loves me very much and cares about me very much, but since knowing his "secret" behavior, his kindness to me has changed in my heart.
Finally, one day in the middle of the night, when he took my phone again, I suddenly sat up. Xiao Yang was startled, and then said to me embarrassingly: "Wake you up? I heard people say that putting the phone on the bedside is bad for your health. I think... I want to take it to the living room." I was very angry. Yes, I asked him a few words. He may also realize that he hurt me, he kept apologizing to me, and finally he promised that he would never use my phone and computer in the future.
After that time, I really didn’t see him move my phone again, but the way he wanted to see but couldn’t look at it, tossing and turning, made me feel uncomfortable, especially every time I think of him peeking at my phone in the middle of the night At the time, I felt like a bunch of cotton stuck in my heart.
Marriage navigation:
Xiao Yang has just ended a marriage and has not completely emerged from the shadow of his wife betraying him.He hurriedly stepped into the second marriage. The damage caused to him by the previous marriage has not been repaired, so it is impossible to build all trust in the married person and lover. This is the root of his so-called "secret". Therefore, in order to carry on this marriage, two people must work together. Qingfeng must understand the trauma of her husband, Xiao Yang, and accompany him out of this shadow with love and patience. At the same time, you must also learn to share your inner worries with your husband so that the other person can see how much you cherish this marriage, so as to build confidence in building a beautiful future for your small family.
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This article is organized according to the protagonist's dictation. It is not easy to be original, please do not copy.
article/Hebei Youth Daily reporter Pi Xueyan
editor/Pi Xueyan
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