This is the 1251st sister of Sisi Shell Wall Story— Gina , span _span_strong_span11 is 36 years old (all spanspans are 36 years old) The sister wrote , in order to protect the privacy of the sisters, the protagonists in the article are all aliases)
My story:
all say that it is difficult for a woman to get out of a man’s cell phone, and it is also fulfilled in me NS.
My ex-husband and I are in a campus relationship. I only talked about a boyfriend of him, and I also believed that he would be him in this life. After fifteen years together, our relationship is not particularly smooth, but there is no problem of principle.
I have been in love for many years, and have been in a different place for many years. After the first marriage, I divorced once because of the problem of the remote place. In the end, I compromised and gave up my job and went to him.
After being together, I conceived and gave birth to children, as a semi-full-time mother.
I don’t dare to be a full-time mother in a down-to-earth manner. Maybe I have a deep sense of insecurity in my heart. What's more, he doesn’t agree with me to be a full-time mother, even if I am a half-time mother, earning living expenses at home. , Taking care of the family and children, is still worthless in his eyes.
So in fact, my previous life was plain and plain, but I think I can live it on.
In March this year, he went to a different place to start a business. In April, I became pregnant with a second treasure. I thought that our little family might be due to the arrival of new members.Will be warmer. Unexpectedly, waiting for his betrayal.
In early July, that was when I had the worst morning sickness, and Dabao had just been off for summer vacation and pestered me every day.
Under such circumstances, I found evidence of his cheating, and he did not deny it.
I immediately mentioned the divorce, but he did not cry and kneel for mercy as he imagined, nor did he apologize or detain him, just a faint sentence, leave if you want to, as you please.
One month of the cooling-off period was really too painful. I sent the child to my grandmother's house. I need someone to face it, and one person to win this fierce battle.
At that time, I was like crazy, crying, not sleeping, and unable to eat. Whenever I had the opportunity to get his mobile phone, I searched all the information left by him and the woman on the whole platform, and the WeChat was deleted. I went to find various takeaway platforms. I found a lot of details that stabbed me severely again and again. Gifts bought by shopping software, emergency contraceptives bought on takeaway platforms.
At that time, I didn't seem to be trying to find evidence of the track, it seemed that I wanted to find evidence that he was not that bad, and that he didn't love me at all.
However, it turns out that this is just what I think about. He really doesn't love me at all.
Even if I am pregnant, it is a situation that needs someone to take care of. He will not give me a chance to release my emotions. He will only use words to further stimulate me, saying that I cannot control my emotions, saying that I am It should be more free and easy, saying that my eyes can't tolerate sand.
I would like to ask him, if I cheat, can he tolerate it? Oh I forgot, he doesn't love me at all, so if I cheat, he shouldn't mind at all.
Because you don’t mind if you don’t love.
When he first mentioned the divorce, he took the initiative to say that he would go out of the house. Because we talked about cheating before, it was so agreed.
Then I waited hard for the cooling-off period to pass.
In between, I also did a lot of silly things. I consulted the emotional recovery agency and asked about tarot cards, but I was not satisfied with the results.
I was thinking,In fact, I have my own bottom line and answer in this matter. I just want to go because I have been dissatisfied with the feelings of so many years and unwilling to pay myself, coupled with the fear and fear of the uncertainty of the future. Find a spiritual support.
Later, when I read Sister Si’s article, Sister Si’s values are exactly the same as mine. I have no forgiveness for such a thing.
I mentioned divorce as soon as I found out. At that time, I didn’t know Sister Si. At that time, half of my psychology was thinking about whether divorce could stimulate him, and the other half was also out of interest. After all, I firmly believe that I will definitely ask for the child.
And he did not fight for the custody of the child.
After reading Sister Si's article, I knew that my decision was correct. Moreover, her article has a lot of more practical and tactical content. I just think instinctively to get more benefits, but how to maximize benefits is not very clear.
Later I got in touch with Sister Si, and I felt emotional. If I have any questions, please contact her anytime.
Although there are still many emotions, how to solve this problem is the most important thing for me.
Sister Si also taught me a lot of lessons, which made me slowly let go of unwillingness, especially since everyone has the right to choose, and even cheating, that is his right.
He can choose to be a person who is disloyal and has no moral bottom line. No law does not allow this. Even if it caused great harm to me and my children.
For some courses like this, I feel that my mind seems to have broadened.
Yes, no one can control who, even your child, you can’t control it, let alone such a man who has not been in contact with you for more than 20 years before his life, why do you think you can control him? Well, you don’t even know him. You don’t know whether the person sleeping next to your pillow is a human or a ghost. Then, it is reasonable to get hurt in the end.
So, when you encounter things like betrayal, you can no longer feel sorry for yourself, and wonder why he treats me like this. Of course he can treat you like this, because you gave him the softest part of yourself, he Whether to treat each other tenderly or draw a knife to each other,That was his decision. What I can do is to stop showing my most vulnerable places to others. This is not hypocrisy, this is just self-protection.
Sister Si also taught me a lot.
But maybe because I am a very proud and sincere person (in other words stupid), and also relatively independent, this is difficult to do. He treats children well, I accept it, he doesn't care, I can do it by myself, it's not necessary for him to do it.
Now more than two months have passed since this incident, and he is still in touch with the woman. As far as I know, that woman should also be preparing for a divorce.
I actually expect them to be together. To be darker, they will not have a good result together. To be noble, if what he really meets is true love, then we will suffer Although these injuries are unfair, they still have a little meaning.
Regarding the child in my stomach, when I first started, I never thought about not wanting him. I would take him with me no matter how hard it is.
But recently, I have been thinking about this more sensibly, and it has also caused some confusion.
I went for a psychological consultation, and I plan to have a serious discussion with the child's father about whether to keep the child.
I only hope that when I make this decision, I will not be constrained by worldliness and morals, not by feelings and emotions, but only follow my own heart and only follow my own heart.
As the saying goes, right and wrong are judged by the heart, the reputation is judged by others, and the gains and losses are settled by the numbers.
This sentence was sent by my ex-husband in the circle of friends. I guess he sent it out because of his cheating.
Now I want to give this sentence to myself, and spend the rest of my life according to my own mind.
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