Husband is addicted to gambling, should I forgive him?

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Married with her husband for many years, we have two children, and our relationship has been very good. Both of us have stable jobs and increased income. It just rises to maintain daily household use. Because we live with our parents-in-law, now a family of six lives in an 86-square-meter house. The children are growing up. We urgently need to change to a bigger house. The boss is almost ten years old and I really want a room of my own, husband Working in a state-owned enterprise and doing engineering work, the salary is just tens of thousands, which is enough in third-tier cities. Now I am ready to change houses and want to work with a private boss. I can earn three times more in a year. Although it is a bit harder, for This home, he said, was worth it. Everything started to develop in a good direction, but he didn't expect that the world is always unpredictable.

At the beginning, because the construction site was out of town, he needed to go to see the construction site with his boss at night, so he often arrived home at two or three in the middle of the night (I hadn't resigned at that time, so I could only go at night). I didn't have much I thought, I felt very distressed. I stayed up so late every day. I was afraid that he would be broken. Later, I started asking for money. He said that the boss asked him to buy materials and so on, so he could make a difference. We didn’t have much money on hand, so he just Let me borrow from J*. I said there was interest. He said that he would pay it back in a month or two, and I could make twice as much. I think so. I borrowed 80,000 from the Internet. After a while, I I found that something was wrong with him. He was very emaciated, he didn’t eat much, and he had insomnia. I began to doubt it. Under my forced questioning, he finally admitted. It turned out that he didn’t go to see the construction site at all, but had a relationship with the boss. Several leaders went to play mahjong. After losing the money, I knew it because I was afraid. I wanted to win back. I didn’t expect to lose more. I lost all 80,000 because my parents-in-law were there. I was afraid they knew that I didn’t quarrel with him. We were in the room. Here, I kept crying, and he kept apologizing, saying that he also regretted that he couldn’t eat and couldn’t sleep recently. When he came back, he hid himself in the garage and cried. Maybe it’s the first time. I think he knew he was wrong. , Thinking about his recent status, I forgave him, and told him not to play mahjong anymore, and think of a way to pay back the money first, he nodded and said, wife, you don’t have to worry about it, I will pay the money. , Although I was not reconciled in my heart, it just passed.

It's been two years. During this period, he really didn't play mahjong anymore. I really thought it was an accident before, but I didn't expect that after all, I was too unsuspecting. He likes to watch his mobile phone very much. He just lay on the sofa to play with his mobile phone when he went home, but I found that he was a little too addicted to his mobile phone. I walked over and grabbed the phone and said what I was looking at so attentively. I took it and looked at the interface of a lottery. I immediately shook my heart. I read the news and knew how many people were killed by online gambling. I immediately questioned him. He was evasive and unfavorable. I answered, saying that it was a 3D one. It’s only a few dollars. I definitely don’t believe it. He snatched the phone back to prevent me from seeing it. I said that you have a guilty conscience for a few dollars. He grabbed the phone again and started looking through his recharge records. I said you don’t look at it. There’s nothing to look at. I turned through the recharge records and realized for the first time what it feels like to feel cold in my hands and feet. I took out my calculator and calculated it. I lost almost 170,000 in total. I stared. While he was speechless, he pulled me into the room and said that my wife, I knew it was wrong. Don’t let mom know that she has high blood pressure. I don’t want to quarrel with him at all, so I kept crying under the quilt. No matter how he apologized, he ignored him. In the middle of the night, I checked the divorce procedures and procedures on the Internet. The next day, I told him that I was going to get a divorce. It is really impossible to quit gambling. Only once and countless times, he I disagree, saying that after so many years, he can't do without me, I ignored him, and only said that I had decided. In fact, I knew subconsciously that the marriage could not be divorced, and I didn't think about anything. The two children made me unable to be cruel. . Just like this for a few days, I didn’t pay attention to him. I still pretended to be okay in front of my in-laws and children. My in-laws thought we were a simple cold war, and they didn’t even bother with us. He apologized in front of me every day and promised. , He said that he would be too unhuman to bet again. Now that the 170,000 plus the debt of 30,000 and 200,000 that have not been paid off before, he really dare not gamble, and he doesn’t want to win it back, so he just buys one. I have learned a lesson. I sarcastically said that your lesson is too expensive. I will check your account in the future and send me all the screenshots of your W* and Z*B every week. I want to know where your money came from. He said yes, I said you just think about your two kids going to school and asking for money. Your parents are getting older. Now if there is something unexpected, we will treat them to the doctor. There is no guarantee at all.He said he knew that, seeing him downcast, I couldn't bear to say it any more, so I forgave him again.

There is no hope for buying a house now. I have to work hard to make money and pay off the debt first, but the trust in him is completely gone, but I still don’t have the heart to check his account. I feel that this is too dignified. I usually watch him play on his mobile phone and I always have to take the opportunity to look at it to be relieved. I want to look at his mobile phone and he will immediately put the mobile phone away, pretending not to look at it, and I start to doubt in my heart. Have you started playing again? Isn't it a long memory? I grabbed his phone while he didn’t pay attention. He didn’t have time to collect it. I saw that it was the lottery again. This time I couldn’t bear it anymore. I started yelling at him on the spot. It's okay for you to fool your parents when you say this, do you want to fool me? In short, his parents know now. I told my mother-in-law directly. I can’t live with him anymore. I have forgiven him too many times. My in-laws take turns to talk about him. Live with him again. Recently he was consulting about divorce. He has been disagreeing with the divorce and has been begging me for forgiveness. Two days ago, he was summoned by the police and asked him to cooperate with the investigation. The lottery website where he gambled was blocked, and everyone involved in gambling had to cooperate. In the investigation, he paid a fine at the police station, wrote a letter of guarantee, and the card was also monitored. He said that he would participate in the future and he was directly detained. He said that he could not bet anymore. I hesitated again. People like him, Is it worth being forgiven...