Lead: In the eyes of women, if the first marriage is not going well, they will most likely think that they are young and ignorant and misunderstand others. At the same time, if they divorce, they will have higher expectations for the second marriage. However, will men take it? Would you be more kind to this woman? Please see the life story below.
01 First-married men feel that it is not happy to marry a second-married girl
Li Qiang is an older unmarried young man in a rural area. Because the parents did not create good living conditions, the marriage problem has not been resolved.
At the beginning, someone talked to him about an unmarried girl in a neighboring village. He was so happy that he could not close his mouth from ear to ear every day.
She also took the girl out with a high profile whenever her classmates reunion, she seemed to have fulfilled the life-long event, and she also showed her ability.
Just when the two were discussing marriage, because the woman wanted 80,000 gifts, Li Qiang's family couldn't give it away, and there was a contradiction. In the end, the woman let her daughter and Li Qiang sever contact, saying that marrying into such a family would endure hardship.
Li Qiang has been depressed for a long time. The ducks who had already reached their mouths flew when they said they flew. Who can stand it?
Later, someone told him about another relationship. The wife was a married woman with a 2-year-old daughter.
Li Qiang refused at the beginning, but he has no experience, so why marry a second-married woman?
But his parents persuaded him to do it, after all, the conditions are there. No more, it is estimated that no one will introduce him to the second married girl.
Li Qiang met this woman. Although the other person was born exquisitely and beautifully, he felt a deep grudge at the thought of starting a family with other men.
Seeing that his elder is not too young, Li Qiang could only persuade himself to accept it, and went through all the processes in a coping style according to his parents' orders. In the end, she married this woman and became a "dad".
In Li Qiang's mind, he was not satisfied with this marriage, after all, the wife was a second marriage.It's like a toothbrush that has been used. How can he be happy when he uses it?
Therefore, even though I have married a daughter-in-law, I don't dare to publicize it. Very often, I am alone, lest people ask about his daughter-in-law.
He said, in this life, not marrying the first married woman is the biggest regret, after all, he did not live in a decent way.
02 Remarriage men and women often have disputes, and the focus is on contrast
Li Mei was her first college lover. Although she knew each other at the best age in life, she was still selected by my mother-in-law after marriage. It happened that her husband was weak and divorced.
After divorce, she did not lose hope in life, on the contrary, she was willing to accept the arrangement of the person introduced by the family, so she soon married again.
The other party is also a second-married man, a civil servant, and good family conditions. The key point is that his parents are said to be enlightened people, and they never ask young people about their problems.
Li Mei secretly made up her mind to manage this marriage well.
However, there are many other factors involved in second marriage. If you think about it well, how can it be so easy?
Li Mei's current husband likes to mention old things. Every time he celebrates a birthday or something, he will talk about how he spent it before. It seems that he is reminiscing little by little with his ex-wife.
This makes Li Mei very upset. She is already married, so what else is she doing in advance? Doesn't this obviously embarrass her?
Li Mei has said to her husband many times, but there is still a contrast in her life, especially when it comes to dealing with in-laws, her husband always feels that she is not filial enough and does not handle well with her ex-wife.
Li Mei shouted angrily, your ex-wife is so good, why are you still divorced? The couple fell silent and ignored each other for a long time, which made her feel little happiness in the family.
03 After all, there is a difference between the first marriage and the second marriage.
When the first marriage man faces the first object,Since I have never experienced anything, I always gingerly to please, and at the same time put away my own personality edges and corners, just to leave a good impression on everyone.
During the second marriage, from the stumbling block of the previous marriage, I gradually understood what the marriage was all about, and there was no more time to please anyone.
When Xiao Meng married his second-married husband, it was because he could treat his parents well.
Because in the previous understanding, I learned that in his first marriage, he had taken his sick mother-in-law into his own home for a year, and then divorced because of his wife's betrayal.
Xiao Meng thought that such a husband is hard to find, because he is an only daughter, and his parents will rely on him in the future. Before that, because of his heavy burden, he often used to supplement his parents to scare away his ex. This time it is simply better than this. To choose.
However, Xiao Meng still miscalculated. The second-married husband never showed filial piety to his parents-in-law in his marriage. Many times, even the birthday wine of his parents-in-law was forced by Xiao Meng to go.
Xiao Meng feels aggrieved, a person who knew the cold and the hot in his first marriage, how did he change here?
In fact, in the eyes of the second-married husband, all this is because Xiao Meng is too demanding.
He thinks that Xiao Meng and himself are both a second-married family, and they should focus on living their own small lives. It is good to be able to go out early and return late and earn money to support the family. How can you kidnap yourself morally to honor her parents? ?
Besides, when I first got married, I had parents-in-law for the first time. At that time, I was nervous and uneasy. I was afraid of doing something wrong and annoyed my daughter-in-law.
Now when I remarry and face my parents-in-law, I feel much calmer. men want more of their support and understanding, rather than overburdening the small family.
Therefore,After remarrying, her husband also opposed Xiao Meng's idea of helping his mother's family. Her husband clearly told her that she would not tolerate a wife who only cared about her native family and ignored her small family. If she insisted on doing that, she would not be afraid to leave again.
Now Xiao Meng has come to a fork in her life. She can't reverse her husband's thoughts, but she doesn't want to allow herself to repeat the divorce road because of this. She is suffering and struggling, but can't do anything.
In reality, most women are unhappy in their second marriage. They think that after marriage, they will be wise and mature, and have a more comprehensive view of men. But ignoring the history of marriage itself makes one's own worth discounted.
Men are very possessive creatures. They can have three wives and four concubines, they can spend three days and four nights, or they can leave and marry again and again. But they have one thing in common, that is, they don't allow their women to experience too much and burden too much, and they want a clean goal no matter what.
Therefore, if women choose second marriages because of perversion, lower the standard and be prepared to give in to each other. Choking uncomfortably.
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