, climb the mountain with friends.
During the mountain climbing, I listened to her several times and said that she felt like she would die alone. I said, I am a single person who does not think that I will die alone. You who have a boyfriend say that you will die alone. Why?
Under my questioning, my friend slowly revealed the truth.
She said that neither she nor her boyfriend thought about the future, nor did they think about it when they fell in love. They just wanted to fall in love. Now, we have been together for more than half a year, and the time is not short. It is time to plan for the future. However, it would not be great if this kind of matter was only brought up by one party, and besides being a girl, it would be even more embarrassing if I talked about this matter myself.
Although I am not in her current situation, I can probably feel that it would be embarrassing if a girl really asks her boyfriend about her future plans, and it feels like a forced marriage.
Then my friend said, if there is no plan for the future, then just forget it. It doesn't make sense to consume it this way, but I can't bear it.
As soon as these words came out of her, I felt her helplessness, I really felt sorry for her, and suddenly realized a cruel reality that I did not want to admit but had to admit: we have passed that talk long ago The age when love does not seek results.
My friend is 28, and her boyfriend is 4 years younger. If there is no plan, she really can't afford it.
We are no longer in our early twenties when we were in college, and we can desperate for love and call it vigorous. "Feng Huaxue Yue" is no longer suitable for us now, the warm food in the kitchen is the pursuit of belonging.
Because this friend is in such an embarrassing situation, I sent a message to another friend early this morning, and I said to her: I thought about it last night, I encourage you to fall in love may not be right, some realistic Factors, we really need to consider carefully.
Why did you tell this friend that?
Because this friend has an ambiguous relationship with a boy recently, if we just let the flow go, the two should be together soon. But, this boy is from the north, my friend is an authentic southerner,The distance between the two families is thousands of kilometers, and the parents of her friends would object to her associating with boys so far away.
What hinders friends is not only distance, but also family factors.
Before, including last night, I have always encouraged her to fall in love. After some recent events, I changed my mind. I really can't completely fall in love with the brain, don't think about anything, just want to fall in love.
If time goes back 5 years ago, maybe we can all have a fruitless love, and now we are 27 or 8, if we talk about another fruitless love, I feel that I should not be able to bear the consequences.
When we were young, we didn’t understand why some adults didn’t dare to fall in love easily. After falling in love, they were so afraid of losing love. After falling in love, they were even more afraid to start easily. The longer it takes to recover from a failed relationship, the greater the price to pay.
Only falling in love and this kind of thing seems to be the exclusive of young people, even if it is not exclusive, in this respect, they will be relatively more capitalized. Sure enough, youth is really capital. Once we get older, we will have fewer and fewer chips. At this time, we will be more cautious and dare not bet easily. I think this is one of the reasons why there are more and more older singles now!
So what about you, if you are 27 or 8, can you still accept just falling in love without seeking results?
I am a girl who likes to write words. Although the writing style is very young, but I have been working hard. I hope that one day I can support myself through code words. I like to express and record things around me in words. Therefore, regardless of whether the article is read, liked, or criticized, I will still insist, not for anything else, just for love. If you think my text still has the value of being followed, welcome to follow my account!
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