The class reunion for 20 years after graduating from university was held in my city. Before, I was absent from the party for 5, 10, and 15 years. This time, they chose my city to hold it. In fact, the main reason is that I married I was jealous of many classmates when I became the wife of the school girl. After graduating from university, my wife and I founded a company. I served as the company's CEO. Over the years, I have been very low-key. My wife’s reunion for 20 years after graduating from university made me deeply touched...
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There are several people in our class, even those from outside the department are pursuing outstanding men. A woman with such a good looks and talent like her wife would attract bees and butterflies wherever she went. At the beginning, I didn't dare to go too close to her because I was afraid of being jealous.
I like to be low-key. Our two parents have a very good relationship. They have had this meaning for a long time. Even the volunteers we filled out after the college entrance examination were filled in the same major in the same university.
When I was in college, I didn't have much direct contact with my wife. I can still keep a certain distance from her and devote myself to studying professional courses. Because my ambition is not to rely too much on my parents after graduation, I want to test my own strength and work hard for a career.
My low-key makes many college students ignore my existence. After graduation, I did not accidentally be admitted to graduate school. My wife set up a company in this city under my arrangement to lay the foundation first. I helped my wife take care of the company while studying in graduate school. In the eyes of many outsiders, this company was run by my wife. In fact, the legal representative of the company is me.
I successfully completed my graduate studies and held a wedding in my hometown. I did not invite any classmates to participate, but someone posted the news of my wife marrying me in the classmates group, which immediately caused a tumult, and many classmates condemned, saying how could I marry the goddess in their minds? Someone even directly said that I must have used shameful means to capture my wife's heart.
my wife’s marriage,I just clamored in the group for more than a month, no matter what they said in the group, I didn't want to show up. Because I have a more important business to be busy with, and I don't have the time to play tricks with these people.
During the ten-year gathering of university students, I was discussing important projects with a large company, and several competitors were very strong. I had to go all out, so I decisively rejected the class reunion, and my wife went to attend it. After a bitter struggle, my company finally won that important project with a slight advantage. I only had a little time to look through the news of the classmate group and found that the news about my wife was still the focus of discussion. Talking about my wife is naturally indispensable for me as a foil, all kinds of true and false ridicule, and describe me as a guy who hides behind a woman and eats soft food.
Fifteen years of class reunion, I am not interested in attending, and my wife also declined the invitation. The absence of both our husband and wife has become a new source of conversation among the classmates. However, I found that the difference from the past is that after 15 years of competition, several of my classmates have achieved success in their careers. At the gathering, in addition to talking about beautiful women and anecdotes, comparisons among students seemed to be a common issue for everyone.
Compared with the best classmates, my company is relatively small, but it has a good momentum of development and great potential. I believe that after several years of tempering, the company will definitely begin to take shape.
This is not what I brag about, but my wife and I both have family companies. We grew up in that environment since we were young. We accepted the indoctrination of our fathers’ business ideas when we were young, and we stood differently from other classmates. Starting line. My wife and I are both rich second generations, but we did not lie on the top spot of the rich second generation to enjoy our achievements, but to start our own business in a different way. It is undeniable that the company's early development was supported by the two families, but it is also the result of my wife and I working together to reach the current scale.
02
The 20-year reunion of university graduates, I don’t know which classmate suggested it to be held in the city where the school flower was.It has been agreed by the class committee that year. After receiving the notice from the class committee, my wife discussed with me whether to reject them?
I was a bit apologetic for not attending the class reunion a few times. After all, everyone was classmates. Even if it was to pick them up and play together for a few days, it should be, so I promised them. Moreover, I decided that since I am the host, we will pay all the expenses. In the next few days, I personally planned the related content of this gathering, hoping to leave a good impression on everyone.
The party was held as scheduled. I chose the best five-star hotel, furnished the most luxurious reception hall, used the highest standard reception method, and arranged a unique journey. Many classmates praised my wife not only for her beautiful appearance, but also for her ingenuity, and my specific planner was filtered out a long time ago.
I didn't care. I kept a low-key style and attended the party that night on time. When arranging seats, something went wrong. Those who were supposed to be successful in their class would sit on a table. They had already arranged seats based on the information they had learned. Naturally, my wife is also a successful person, and was arranged at the same table with other successful people, while I, as an ordinary classmate, was arranged at the third table.
My wife originally wanted to fight for it, but I don’t think there is anything to fight for. In addition, we are the host, so we come in accordance with the order of seats. During the meal, my wife and I served as the host, toasting to the classmates, many rushed to clink glasses with my wife, and ignored me, obviously neglecting me. Some classmates even teased me in person, making my wife want to get angry. I stopped her with my eyes and asked her not to spoil the atmosphere.
I drank wine and ate dinner. The following arrangement is to go to Hige. I packed a KTV in advance. My wife stepped onto the speech platform, picked up the microphone, and the vehicle outside was already waiting at the door of the hotel. Everyone could only speak to my wife, and then they could get on the bus to KTV.
Wife glanced at the classmates and asked loudly: "What do you think about today's arrangements and reception?"
Many students answered one after another, very satisfying, very characteristic and high in specifications, which is the best meeting of all parties. .
My wife asked again: "I want to ask you a question, do you know the budget for this event?"
Everyone, look at me,I looked at you, and finally my eyes fell on the monitor. The monitor hesitated for a moment and said: “It took more than 20,000 for a five-year party after graduating from university, more than 40,000 for a 10-year party, and 70,000 for a 15-year party. The budget is about 100,000 yuan.”
The wife showed her signature smile, “55 people participated in the 5-year party, 47 people in the 10-year party, 40 people in the 15-year party, and 27 people in the 20-year party. I don’t know how to continue. Going down, how many more can participate?"
The squad leader showed a trace of embarrassment on his face and said: "This is the natural law of survival of the fittest."
The deputy squad leader took over and said half-jokingly: "All the elites can come to participate. Those who don’t want to participate are all poorly mixed classmates. Perhaps one day, people who come to the party will not make enough of a table.”
The wife smiled, “Don’t you think that we organized a class reunion? Has the taste changed? The feelings of classmates originally did not distinguish between high and low, but they were divided into three or six or nine classes. Do you think this kind of gathering is meaningful? If it is not held here, I really don't want to participate."
"Scholar, don't say these disappointing words, we are still waiting for the following program!" A classmate reminded.
"Yes, yeah, we all get together for fun." Another classmate took over and said.
"Happy, I don't think it is necessary. Everyone looks back at the 7 classmates at the third table and asks if they are happy?" said his wife.
I am also sitting at the third table. The other 6 classmates either have not found a job after graduating from university, or are living in a rural family with difficulties, or are not treated by others, such as me. The purpose of these classmates attending the gathering actually also meant to make friends with other classmates and change their own plight. Let’s just say that this female classmate named Liu Xiao sitting next to me, her husband was injured a few years ago, his health is not very good, and now he has no job. The purpose of her classmate meeting was to find the help of her classmates and arrange a relatively easy job for her husband. But after she talked to a few "prosperous" classmates, those classmates said that the company does not support The idler, let her feel disappointed in the so-called fellowship. After I told my wife about this, my wife immediately agreed.Let Liu Xiao's husband come to work in our company.
The wife suddenly said loudly: "We are all college classmates. Some have a better life, some have a worse life, but the classmates are in trouble. Should we help? But, Liu Xiao Her husband was injured and wanted to ask our classmates to help arrange a job, but six successful classmates rejected her. Can she be happy? Our classmate Zhang Chun, a few years ago to take care of her hospitalized mother, quit her job After the death of his mother, he wanted to find a job through our classmates, but who of you gave him a chance? My husband specially arranged vehicles to receive you one by one, and let you stay in a five-star hotel. Every dish you eat is My husband carefully selected and prepared, including the arrangements for each of your subsequent journeys, which were personally planned by my husband. For all the expenses, my husband was not prepared to let you pay a penny. However, you treated my husband again. How?"
When the wife said that, she stopped, and then looked at the classmates. Many classmates avoided her gaze.
’s wife went on to say: “Then I’ll tell you today that my husband has a family company and opened several branches. It’s not an exaggeration to say that he is a rich second generation. However, he was not satisfied with it. Instead, you started your own company today. You can ask about the scale of the company. My husband graduated with a doctorate degree, and who can compare with him in terms of academic qualifications? You want to discuss my husband in the group. No, my husband’s silence does not mean that he is acquiesced, but I want to tell you that the more successful people are, the more low-key, and my husband has decided to arrange for Liu Xiao’s husband and Zhang Chun to work in our company. Other students have difficulties. , We can also give some help..."
"School girl, don’t be angry, it’s our fault. We didn’t expect that your husband, or our student Xu, would pretend to be a pig and eat a tiger, and deceive all of us. In the dark, it’s amazing, really amazing." The monitor immediately came out to make a round, "It’s a shame that I have missed the school spree for so many years. Compared with Xu, I am really nothing."
"School splendor, or You have a foresight!"
"You must learn from classmate Xu in the future, low-key and low-key, you know?"
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Many classmates, you said a word.Even several classmates have surrounded me, wanting to make friends and talk with me. I am no longer interested in these classmates. It is not that I am aloof, but that I think these classmates are too powerful.
I squeezed out the crowd, walked to my wife's side, gave her a slight shot, and took the microphone in her hand. Many classmates thought I could say a few words, but I just put the microphone aside and said to my wife, "Let’s go home!"
The wife nodded, took my hand and walked towards the gate, the class leader and others Following us, seeming to want to save something, my wife stopped and said to the monitor: "The KTV has been set, and you will take the classmates on the bus at the door and will send you there. My husband and I won’t go. Today, all expenses count for us. Tomorrow my husband and I have an important meeting to attend, so I won’t lose you. As for the rest of the journey, you have already arranged it, so let’s play as much as you like."
Sitting in the car home, I Can't help giving a thumbs up to his wife. Every word from my wife is the truth, but I don't want to be high-profile in front of my classmates, and I can only lose myself when showing off to them.
What I didn't expect was that the monitor sent me and my wife a letter of apology in my own name and in the name of the class committee. I ignored it, and my wife gave a simple reply. That night, the classmates had already returned. Almost all the classmates left early the next morning. Perhaps they realized that the class reunion had really changed.
In the next few days, the group of students was surprisingly quiet, with only half of the letter addressed to all the students, as the last message, quietly suspended in the group of students. The squad leader did not set a ban, but many classmates remained silent. There was no lively scene in the group after the classmate reunion in the past. I think maybe the farce of the classmate group should also end.
03
This is a young and promising company boss in an informal event, talking about the experience of a college reunion he attended. With the development of society, the Internet has become more and more developed, and various groups have been established. The classmate group is the most common one. The friendship between classmates was originally the purest kind, but now some groups have changed. Now, become a group of classmates who get married and have children to make money for weddings and ceremonies,Of course, there are groups similar to those of the company boss who divided his classmates into three or six or nine groups.
This boss also talked about three points about classmate gatherings, combined with his own entrepreneurial history, which is actually quite practical.
One. If you want to do big things, you must be a low-key person. low-key is a mature and stable performance of a person, a manifestation of wisdom and ability, and also a portrayal of 's breast diameter 's open-mindedness. You must believe in this society. There are people outside the world, and no one dares to say that you are the number one in the world. So no matter how talented and talented you are, if you don’t know how to be low-key and arrogant, you will inevitably encounter more arrogance than you. People.
Mature rice heads down, but no one dares to underestimate it. A truly capable person will be appreciated even if he is low-key. Only those who know how to behave in a low-key way will know how to keep a low profile, calmly think about what they are pursuing, and truly know how to realize their value in life. To put it a bit more popularly, it is to make a lot of money.
2. Do not participate in invalid social activities
Many people think that interpersonal relationships are an important magic weapon for survival in society, so there are always some people who pay great attention to maintaining their interpersonal relationships and go to some social activities almost morbidly. During the university, some people thought of ways to maintain the relationship between university students, establish student groups, hold regular class gatherings, and various clubs, which dazzled many newly enrolled students. Therefore, a college student is almost crazy about making friends, thinking that he can improve his social skills and create opportunities for future development. What is the actual situation?
After graduating from university, many classmates are scattered all over the country and are working for their own livelihoods. The real climate is 10 or 20 years later. What can you rely on? If you spend all these years on silent struggle, wouldn't it be worse than maintaining some irrelevant relationships? The answer is obviously no.
Whether it is necessary to participate in these social activities or not, the pros and cons of social interactions are divided among the public. What is effective social interaction and what is invalid social interaction in can only be thought and measured by oneself. Of course, it is necessary to grasp a certain degree. The associations that can improve their overall quality are effective to a certain extent. Do not participate endlessly in the banquets of some friends of wine and meat. Often friends of wine and meat are the most unreliable people. The rhetoric at the banquet It is often just a cover for entertainment.
In fact, socializing is to make friends sincerely, to convey a kind of friendship similar to family love, and at the same time exercise your own abilities and play your own value. The so-called "face social", "group social", "social social", and "personal social networking" are really not important. For many people, ineffective social interaction will only waste time.
3. Withdraw from unnecessary groups
Psychology explains group activity as follows: Human behavior is a combination of body responses that an organism adapts to environmental changes. These responses include muscle contraction and glandular secretion. For example, men get excited when they meet beautiful women, people become addicted to playing games, children drool when they see food, etc. External factors can create external stimuli to people.
Faced with various groups that are interested or addicted to certain activities, many people will flock to them, so various groups of interest will emerge spontaneously. In addition, many modern companies or units have their own work groups, and there is more than one. Hundreds or even thousands of new messages pop up in each group every day. It takes a lot of time to read the messages. The key is to be polite and have to reply in time. Some one-to-one spam messages in some groups will remind you from time to time, which will disturb a peaceful life.
This is undoubtedly a great waste for some people whose time is precious, and it may be annoying for ordinary people to come. Why do so many people know that it is annoying, but do not want to leave the group? Some student groups from elementary school to high school and university can’t save face and are embarrassed to retire; social networking group, feel that they can help with people in the group when they encounter difficulties; hobbies, etc.,One day it can be used... It is precisely because of this mentality that many people are undecided. In fact, you might as well give it a try and drop some groups, I believe you will feel refreshed and more comfortable immediately!
Concluding remarks
The reunion of classmates can originally make you miss the previous campus life and inspire some good memories. If you make the classmates reunion into three or sixty-nine classes, you will lose your original innocence. Looking back and thinking about the current state of life, is it better to miss the past? The road of life is not long or short, but it must have its own plan. Don't spend my own time on some boring things. I am outstanding. Don't worry about no one looking for you?
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