Speaking of finding an object, maybe everyone is not interested in it? After all, a person's life is good, enough to eat and drink, and free and happy, but everyone's needs are always different. There are always people who long for love and look forward to marriage. So let’s talk about it today. Why is it that everyone has similar conditions, but it is so difficult to find a target?
First, do not pay attention to your own conditions and ignore the opponent's right to choose. Presumably, you can often see some girls complaining about the difficulty in finding someone on the Internet. At the same time, they will write their own requirements, "Height over 175, bachelor degree, no smoking or drinking, monthly salary of 10,000, no house or car, and self-motivated. respect parents". This girl does not mention her own conditions, she came up as a requirement of others. It seems that as long as the boy meets these conditions, she does not need the consent of the boy. She can directly marry others, completely ignoring the right of others to choose. The person you are fond of may not be I can see you! Let’s talk about the specific conditions. First of all, only Beijing, Shandong and Heilongjiang have an average height of over 175. A bachelor’s degree should be considered common. People who don’t smoke or drink should account for one-third, and the monthly salary is 10,000. It is a first- and second-tier city. There is no standard for self-motivated. It is purely pointless to score personally. Filial parents and filial parents-in-laws are equal. When the comprehensive conditions are selected, there are not many people in the country who meet them, and they are still distributed in the country. All over the country.
Second, overconfidence in oneself becomes arrogant, and if one condition can be met, it will be greedy to meet more conditions. As mentioned above, even if a person's own conditions are poor, it will not affect his request, just like a person who looks three-pointed, with two-point makeup and three-point beauty, he feels like he is eight-point beautiful, and he is overconfident. Let yourself become what you want. And everyone has a greedy mentality, even if a person who has been on a blind date of 20 or even 50 matches completely gives up any request after being hit, as long as there are two or more opposite sexes expressing satisfaction at this time, her heart will swell again, instantaneously I also feel that finding someone is so easy, maybe the previous one was just blind and didn't realize his own advantages. At first, I wanted to find someone with a height of 175. Later, many people introduced me with a bachelor’s degree or above, and others introduced me with a bachelor’s degree... Don’t you think it’s not difficult to find someone? Do you think the requirements are not high,It's a bit low instead? This is what we usually call "this mountain looks at the high mountain"! Like some friends buying a car, at first I thought that a scooter would be fine for 100,000 yuan. Later, after being recommended by others, it was appropriate to add a little more money. In the end, I saw that two or three million cars were all suitable. I just forgot. Own budget.
Thirdly, I just want to make a request, not the degree of self-matching. Let's continue the above example and ask the other party to be 175, but if you are 155, do you have to consider whether others are willing or not? If someone asks for a bachelor degree, can they only chat with a bachelor degree or above? Asking others for a monthly salary of 10,000 yuan, but you are not enough to spend 3,000 yuan a month, and others come to pay relief money? If others don’t smoke or drink, do you take turns in nightclubs, bars and KTV? Others are filial to your parents, and others' parents are you as uncles and aunts?
is not just looking for objects. Many times we already have good choices, but because of our insatiable greed, we always want to get better, and we miss what we should have. When we miss a good choice, we also miss our best conditions. Such as age. No one's life is without regrets. The best may not be suitable, and the most suitable may not be the best. It is enough for us to know ourselves clearly and to be firm in our choices.
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