I am delirious and searching blindly. What should I do if my husband cheats? At that time, I found out that after my husband cheated, I forgot my anger, and felt a sense of unreality in a trance.
My name is Li Min and I am a math teacher in elementary school. Now 34 years old, she is already the mother of two babies. My husband and I are college classmates. After graduation, we settled down and got married. My husband works as a manager in a sales company and is considered a successful person. After more than ten years of hard work, there is now a small villa in the county seat, as well as a cheap car, and a car worth more than 200,000 yuan from the husband's company. It can be said to be a well-off family in the local area. Maybe it's because of lust, my husband cheated unexpectedly.
It is September 22nd. I go home from get off work as usual, after tutoring the boss’s homework, and then accompany Erbao Lego. At that time, my husband went to the garage to pack his things. Er Bao must go to the study to watch the baby in the garden with a laptop. I couldn't help but hugged Er Bao over.
Suddenly a message came from my husband's WeChat. Perhaps fate sometimes has its own arrangements. In the midst of it, as if a flash of lightning flashed through my mind, I picked up the phone in a wicked manner, and wanted to check his WeChat.
We have agreed that the lock screen password of the mobile phone is the other party's password. I entered the number and opened it smoothly. After ten years of marriage, he has been using this, and has not changed it.
After so many years of marriage, I have never turned his mobile phone. Even if my mobile phone is out of power and I play games on my husband’s mobile phone for a while, I asked him in person, and I have never looked at his call. Record, SMS, QQ, WeChat, etc.Because I trust him so much and feel that the act of flipping through the phone is very cheap.
husband is a person with mild cleanliness. The mobile interface is very clean and tidy. The APPs on the screen are classified into different mobile phone file boxes. On the
interface, there is no WeChat profile picture. After searching for a while, I clicked on the WeChat interface. There are three posts on the WeChat homepage. Two working groups, one single. I am not me in this single dwelling. I clicked on the single avatar, which is a customized WeChat icon of a woman. The doll head with ears and black framed eyes feel rigid and conservative. WeChat's name is "Duckweed".
With the sixth sense of a woman, I faintly felt something was wrong, so I quickly opened the dialog box. Past hastily, the dialogue is just some simple greetings or talk about work. Looking up again, before crossing a page, I saw a dialogue that I will never forget in my life! ! ! !
husband: wife
husband: stomach hurt you
husband: three days in advance
duckweed: lay a good point
duckweed: no
I just remember,I was trembling all over at the time. One hand grabbed Er Bao's arm, probably because of too much excitement, the Er Bao who was grabbing started crying. Called "Mom! Mom!" in fear. When I heard Erbao crying, I came back to my senses, and my heart almost jumped out of my throat. For a while, panic was like a bird of fright.
It took a while for me to calm down. The first thought was to take a screenshot! save! Then, shaking his hands, he quickly took a screenshot and sent it to me on his WeChat. While waiting for the message to be sent, I was anxious, and every second was like a year. I felt like a thief, for fear that my husband would come back from the garage. I quickly saved the screenshot, and then deleted the record.
After all this was done, I heard the voice of the old open door. I watched cartoons with my baby in my arms nonchalantly. He walked over to see the phone next to me, quickly walked over and took his phone, and went to the bedroom to charge it.
Something! There is definitely something!
After my husband came back, I can't remember what he said or did.
Put the children to bed at night, and I just started the replay after lying in bed. I repeatedly warned myself, don't panic, be steady, Li Min, you are an independent person, you can carry it.
I encounter problems, I like to research, and I like to learn from other people's experience. And, with my many years of experience as a "senior melon-eating crowd", have I never eaten pork or seen a pig running? Whether it's celebrity gossip, family and friends around, cheating, extramarital affairs, it's no surprise. I force myself to calm down and don’t talk to him,Don't expose him, don't irritate him. Because the evidence I have is quite limited. I can't get rid of it.
I lay quietly and searched the Internet over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again about the experience of "what should I do if my husband cheated", but there was no turbulence in my heart, as if nothing had happened. Or to be precise, as if I didn't care at all that my husband cheated. I didn't shed a single tear, and I breathed smoothly.
I only saw Erbao sleeping next to me, and my nose was a little sour. I stroked my child’s hair silently, and said in my heart, child, starting today, my mother will protect our home.
Since Dabao was born, my husband and I have never slept in the same bed. Seven or eight years have passed since now, and I have long been used to it. Since the birth of Erbao, my husband and I have been responsible for bringing a child to sleep in our respective bedrooms. In our home, the most common scene at night is in two dark rooms, two children sleeping soundly, two mobile phones, flashing on and off, that is my husband and I are browsing the web, games, and nothing to each other. Exchanges. If he has a need, he will come and pat me, then turn around and go to the sofa in the living room to prepare. As for me, I got up and followed out quietly. After the incident, they washed each other, and went back to their rooms, and they were speechless all night.
From the evening of the 28th, I came to my period. I held my second treasure in pain, but the tears finally flowed down. His mind is full of messages about his tender care for Xiao Sanji. Does his stomach hurt? He remembered the aunt's day clearly, and knew it three days in advance. But what about me, my wife who had two children with him, when does my aunt come every month? Does my stomach hurt? He never cared?
I am so stupid! In fact, there have been signs,It's just that I'm so stupid! I don't know when he started complaining that the bathroom I used up was full of hair. Didn't he know that this is a common hair loss after childbirth.
Especially in the past month, he has been extremely indifferent to me, even disgusted, always complaining about me, a little bit of things will attract his dissatisfaction and complaints. I closed the door of the kitchen easily, and he would say in an extremely impatient tone, open it, let it air! Going home from get off work, and seeing the closed living room window, will immediately accuse me of not opening the window? I turned off the electric fan, because I was turning on the air conditioner at the same time, and I felt a bit cold. He was immediately criticized by him, still the kind with a mantra!
At first, I fought hard on reason and faced each other. But in exchange, he counterattacked more strongly. Later, I was silent. Whatever he says, the left ear goes in and the right ear goes out.
Once, there were too many picks and personal attacks became more and more serious. I really couldn't bear it, and suddenly said to him with a serious face, "Is there anything I can't say properly?" Why do you want to speak harshly to me? What role model do you bring to children like this?
He probably didn't expect me to have a serious face. At that moment, he finally didn't refute me.
Just one week after I found out that he was cheating, our relationship was already very cold. Driving to work together in the morning, my husband and I can spend more than an hour's drive without saying a word. He has a sullen face and I am expressionless. During the quarrel, he cursed me viciously and told me to die quickly! I thought this was our way of getting along, and I didn't even think about his derailment. I can only say that I am stupid! Now let’s compare his attitude towards juniors,Thinking about what I have done for him for so many years, I really want to die, but then I think about it, the more he cursed me, the more I have to take care. Because my children need me, my elderly parents need me, I can't break down for a man who cheated, I have to stand it up! I must fight back!
I decided to start the self-protection and counterattack mode! ! ! !
First express my attitude, I will not choose divorce! At least, not now! I understand very well how a father with social ability and earning ability plays a stable role in the growth of a child. Husband can not, but the growth of the child needs the escort of the father. Even when he is a tool man, it is a very powerful tool. How can I give in to such a "good man"? I clarified my attitude and my heart stabilized. The mind began to think quickly. There is a fart to be sad, so stay in the middle of the night and then " sister Lin ". Now I must be fully armed to become "Wang Xifeng". The black-bellied small universe of Capricorn is completely burned.
After inquiring, I have locked on the target. Although I am not sure yet, I still stay close. What I didn't expect was that I was actually a married woman. I thought I would be a single vixen. This is easy! The word "drag!" dragged her to the point where her husband was not interested in her. Let my husband eat her white food .
is a smarter method than this, wait until I figure it out! I was a little bit happy thinking of this.
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