Story: I actually became the lover of my ex-husband, and my daughter no longer goes home in shame, what should I do

In the past you cheated with my husband, now I also cheat with your husband.

A few years ago, my husband and I divorced and married a woman outside.

But now, we are secretly lovers again.

We used to be very loving couples, but my father had an affair, which was not only involved in relationships, but also financial, which was very complicated.

I lost tens of millions of fortunes, I am stupidly confident and still have love

My husband Shao Li and I were neighbors since childhood, and we were classmates from kindergarten to high school. It can be said that our love has gone through years of precipitation. Deep foundation. At the beginning of the 21st century, we both entered a state-owned enterprise to work, and then we got married.

Our love has never faded after marriage. Three years later, my daughter Jiajia was born. In order to replenish my body, Shao Li personally cooks every day. At that time, the salary was very low. He preferred to eat pickled vegetables and rice all by himself, and he had to make sure that I had fish and meat every day. When the shift came, he went to the river to fish. The fish he caught were very small, but his skillful hands could remove every thorn in the fish and make me fresh and tender fish meatballs. There are hundreds of people in our unit, and there are more than 100 female employees. Shao Li is a good man in every woman's heart. Married people use him as their husband's example; unmarried people use him as the standard for choosing a spouse.

Ten years ago, our unit efficiency began to decline. At that time, I had an aunt who was in a calligraphy and painting business, and the business was pretty good, so I asked me to help. A year later, I went home and urged Shao Li to also go to the sea to do business.

In that era, there were not many people who voluntarily resigned from state-owned enterprises. Shao Li was very contradictory. I encouraged him to say, "The money we make for a year of business can be equivalent to the salary of 10 years in the factory. You don’t like driving very much. 、Do you like traveling? We will buy a jeep when we have money in the future. You will drive me and my daughter around the country's scenic spots. What a great life like this." Shao Li was told by me. Excited, despite the obstacles of my parents, I quit my job and started business with me.

As everyone wishes, as soon as we do business, it will be smoother. Soon after we officially started the book business, I actually bought an SUV for Shao Li.Although we didn't have the leisure time to drive out to travel, Shao Li drove me to the north, south, east, and west to buy goods in Beijing and Guangzhou, read book fairs in Shanghai and Changsha, and talked about cooperation with publishing houses in Urumqi and Xining.

The next spring, 15-year-old daughter Jiajia wrote in a diary that I may be the happiest person in the world. My parents are businessmen engaged in cultural business. They work very hard and have a successful career. Moreover, they love each other deeply. Of course, they also love me very, very much. I hope that I can study hard, be positive and motivated like them, and be able to enter the ideal university in the future. I am not only their jewel in their hands, but also them. The pride of a lifetime.

Who could have predicted that such a happy family also has hidden worries? In the second half of the year, Shao Li suddenly became disinterested in the book business. He advised me time and time again that now the market is fiercely competitive and the book business is getting thinner and thinner, and he wants to switch to other businesses. But I think this industry is already very familiar with it, the profit is not high but it is very stable, and I firmly disagree to switch to other businesses. I have always been more confident, and Shao Li has never let me spoil me for so many years, I don't take his opinions seriously. Unexpectedly, disaster came when I was caught off guard.

On the morning of the New Year's Day, I opened the safe in my bedroom. I originally wanted to take out a jade bracelet I like and give it to my daughter as a New Year's gift. As soon as I opened the safe, I was stunned. The safe was in a mess. All the jewelry, the deed of the house, and the only 5 million deposit slip in the family disappeared. This is all the property of our couple for nearly 10 years in business. My first reaction was that Shao Li took the money behind my back.

I immediately woke up Shao Li, who was still sleeping in bed, and pulled him to the safe. But without even looking at the safe, he sighed and said, "I wanted to let you know after the Chinese New Year. Alas, I still can't hide it. I lost all the money at home." My head He fainted with a sound of "Om," and he was unconscious. When I woke up, I realized that Shao Li was backing me to stock and futures. Not only did he lose his family’s savings, he also took the company’s office building and two houses at home to mortgage 6 million yuan in loans, all of which were lost.

The painstaking effort of the past 10 years and the thousands of fortunes disappeared instantly. I really don't know how to deal with it all at once. However, no matter how uncomfortable I feel, I can’t bear to pass this uncomfortable to my husband Shao Li.I didn't even say a word to complain about him, let alone get angry at him.

I always think that as long as a woman has love, she has nothing. Besides, we also have a daughter who has the experience and experience of working hard in the mall. Therefore, I also consoled him in turn, saying that it’s okay, we can start all over again, but we will struggle for another 10 years. We are less than 40 years old, and there is no problem in working for 10 years.

Since then, Shao Li has changed like a person. Every day, he either stays at home without saying a word, or goes out alone and does not go to work at all. I know he is ashamed, so I never criticize him. He tried his best to give comfort. At the same time, while I was busy in and out of the company, I was trying to collect money everywhere to repay the bank loan. I wanted to keep the company, otherwise it would be miserable.

Love is not guaranteed, she bought my husband with 10 million

Because I believe in love, I have not been crushed by the sudden disaster. It was not until three months later that I knew that there was a truly devastating disaster waiting for me.

Early this morning, I rushed to the company to work as usual, and a graceful and luxurious woman was waiting for me at the door of the company. She asked me, "Are you Li Mei, Shao Li's wife?" Before I answered, she said, "You can get in the car with me. Talking about the influence at the company is not good." I immediately had a bad feeling. I followed her into a Lexus car with a deep foot and a shallow foot, and she drove the car directly to a nearby villa. As soon as I entered the big iron door of the villa, I saw two pots of rich bamboo which my husband liked.

Before she could speak, I asked her, "Who are you? How long have you been better? What do you want to say now?" She was a little embarrassed and replied, "My name is Zhang Lihua. , I got on with Shao Li. We have been dating for 8 years. I divorced him 5 years ago. I inherited some family inheritances. I have good luck in stock trading and good financial conditions. This time Shao Li I lost more than 20 million yuan in futures speculation and owed me 10 million yuan. I know that you have a deep relationship. For so many years, no matter how nice he is with me, he has been reluctant to divorce you. This is the end of the matter, and I don’t want to do this again. It’s been consumed, but I can’t live without money. Now either you pay off my money and I will completely cut off with Shao Li, or you will divorce him.This debt was also written off.

I don’t know how I walked out of Zhang Lihua’s house. When I returned to my house by car, I felt like I was emptied all of a sudden, and I couldn’t get up after lying softly on the floor of the living room for several hours.

Zhang Lihua’s words completely knocked me down. My heart was like broken glass. My heart, liver, and stomach were pierced by countless sharp fragments, bleeding bit by bit, bit by bit painful to the bones. I believe in our love and love our marriage so much, but my husband has a woman out there? I can’t describe that kind of despair and frustration. I feel like the sky is falling.

After that, I began to calmly ponder the question raised by Zhang Lihua. She wanted to spend 10 million yuan to buy my husband and daughter’s father? Should I sell it? Don’t sell it? Carrying heavy debts to maintain just a "home" shell? This surface The glamorous shell is filled with rotten cotton wool full of death and stench, such as betrayal, unfeeling, sad, desolate, etc. Instead of this, how about the rich buyer? At least, my daughter and I can take a little less debt; at least, I You can be indifferent to the distracted person.

In the evening Shao Li came home and saw me as if I had died once and said nothing, so he took out the prepared divorce application and asked me to sign. I bit my lip tightly and clean. Lilu signed his name. Half a month later, we completed the divorce procedures and Shao Li moved out from home. During the whole divorce process, I did not scold Shao Li or shed a tear. I think My heart is really dead.

The last process of applying for a divorce certificate in the Civil Affairs Bureau is that both parties press their handprints, and then each receive a divorce certificate with a green cover. I pressed the handprint first, and then handed the ink pad To Shao Li, I clearly saw tears in Shao Li’s eyes. When I came out of the Civil Affairs Bureau, Shao Li insisted on asking me to sit in the tea house. When I entered the tea house and sat down, he almost whimpered and said, "I deserved my sins and felt myself. You take Jiajia to live it well, forget me completely, or just treat me as dead.

I shook my head and said sourly, "You have to live your life." Shao Li grabbed my hand and said, "You beat me, scold me, and make a big noise, so I will feel better in my heart.""I said that this is the end of the matter, let's calm down.

Shao Li took two sips of tea and then said, "I really don't know how things are like this. When I first saw many men in the business field making girlfriends outside, I also met her with a playful mentality. Unexpectedly, she was very serious and treated me terribly well. She went home with me on her back and divorced. But in this way, I did not make any promises to her. I told her very clearly that my wife is a good woman and I will not want my own home. She was very sad, but seeing my resolute attitude, she basically acquiesced to this fact. In my conscience, she said that she was heartbroken to me. We are very affectionate, and you are kind to me. But from childhood to most of us, I treat you better than you to me. I love more and be loved less, you are loved more and loved less, and your personality is generous, and your feelings are not delicate enough, and you care about the human body. There are not very satisfactory places in posting people. You may think that I am trying to find a reason for myself, but these are my true thoughts at the time. What I think is that the home must be well guarded, and at the same time I am outside to enjoy the taste of being loved and hurt by others. Now I know how shameful this idea is. Zhang Lihua is very pitiful, and so am I. I interacted with her in a very complicated state of mind. Afterwards, I spent a long time with her because she was much richer than me, and my heart became unbalanced. She saw it and urged me to do futures business. She didn't mean anything, but I blamed my bad luck.

"What's the use of these now?" Take care of yourself. As you said, we had better stay away from each other in the future, lest everyone is sad. As for Jiajia, you are her father. If possible, you should still find opportunities to care for her and do your responsibilities as a father. She is not young anymore, she knows everything about us. "I said lightly and calmly.

After a woman's heart was broken, she didn't even have any hatred, and some were just empty and lonely and helpless. After divorcing Shao Li for a long time, I It feels like this. During the day, I am still busy with business and taking care of my daughter, but at night, lying in bed, when I close my eyes, it is Shao Li’s face. I have to take two Valium tablets every night to sleep. But I still wake up in the middle of the night, habitually touch the pillow next to me, get up in the morning, the pillow is full of overnight tears and silent hair.

Renewed love,I actually became the lover of my ex-husband

After the divorce, Shao Li and I really had no contact as agreed. Shao Li once went to school to see Jiajia, but Jiajia hated her father and ignored him at all.

Just this year, Jiajia, who had always performed well in the past, unexpectedly failed the college entrance examination. One night in early August, Shao Li, who knew the news, rushed to my house anxiously for the first time, and the stubborn Jiajia resolutely ignored him. I comforted my daughter and said, "Jiajia, your father will always be your father, you can’t do this to your father." Jiajia cried and ran back to her room, Shao Li knelt down in front of me, and I squatted down. Help him, he threw himself in my arms and wept bitterly. His rainy tears temporarily extinguished my hatred, and the trace of tenderness remaining in my heart was resurrected. That night, Shao Li did not leave.

Since then, Shao Li will come to live with me one or two nights a week. He actually stayed here for seven days during the National Day holiday. Zhang Lihua came to the door to cry and make a lot of noise. Shao Li looked at her with disdain. I watched with cold eyes. There was a feeling of revenge. I felt that I finally got a tie with Zhang Lihua. In the past, you and my husband had an affair, now I want to fight Your husband is cheating; but I don’t know why, I still feel very humiliated. I always think that the relationship between husband and wife is the dignified relationship. After all, cheating is a secret and shameful thing; and Shao Li and I have changed from a dignified couple to an affair. , This embarrassment and helplessness pierced my heart with a dull pain. But I can't escape, after all, I still have some feelings for Shao Li in my heart.

In this way, Zhang Lihua felt very boring after a few troubles, and turned a blind eye to Shao Li and me. After becoming the lover of my ex-husband, my personality became very weird and very emotional. Sometimes gentle as water, like a gentle rabbit huddling quietly beside Shao Li; sometimes old hatred and new enmity rushed to my heart, turning into an angry lion, beating and scolding Shao Li. The three of us just wandered into this immoral emotional zone, unable to extricate ourselves.

In July of the next year, Jiajia, who had been studying for a year, finally got admitted to a university. On August 29, the first day she went to school, she took out the pocket money she usually saved and invited me and her father to have a meal. During the banquet, Jia Jia said to us with a glass of wine, "I thank you for your kindness in nurturing, but I really don't want to watch you live in a awkward situation like you are now.Mom and Dad, you are all dignified people, and I hope you live a dignified life. Dad, you will either divorce Aunt He and remarry your mother, no matter how much you owe her, we will pay her back, even if you sell the house, even if you sell the company, even if you borrow money everywhere; or you and your mother Break up completely and let mother start her new life. Let me make it clear first, if you don't handle this matter well in one day, I won't go home for one day. "My daughter's words made us unable to face it. Shao Li and I bowed our heads.

Jiajia did what she said. She did not come back this year on the National Day, New Year's Day, and Spring Festival. She didn't answer our calls, nor did she come back. Don’t write to us, don’t need the living expenses we send, and support yourself by work-study.

I did not expect that the emotional entanglement between Shao Li and Zhang Lihua would make Jiajia so painful, and even the sunny college life would not be able to resolve it. , So that when I saw "I hate them and despise what they did" in one of her diaries, my heart was about to break. I started to sit down and rethink the embarrassment of the three of us. An unbearable life.

To be honest, the longer I have been Shao Li's "lover", the deeper I will understand and sympathize with Zhang Lihua. She has been his lover for 8 years before marrying Shao Li. This is What a painful and humiliating 8 years! If she doesn’t have a true feeling for him, I don’t think she will be able to persevere.

Shao Li and I are actually like this. I am very sorry Zhang Lihua. If I insist on asking them to divorce, take it away She has only one marriage in the name, which is not fair to her. Even if she can compensate her a little financially, how can she be hurt in other ways? Besides, I don’t have a huge sum of money to give her money. Compensation.

As for Shao Li, I feel that I am a love and hate for him. We used to have such deep feelings, but he broke my heart because he didn't understand how to cherish. I despise him intellectually, but emotionally I am right. He really can’t let go. We have been with each other since childhood. We are like relatives of blood, we can have hatred, but it is impossible to separate and abandon.

When the mood is bad, I also get angry with him, I said Shao Li, what do you think you are? You are just a chicken rib. I will kick you off when I meet someone who talks to me.

At this time, he always looks at my eyes intently and says, I'm waiting for that day,Even looking forward to coming early that day, so that we are all relieved. When he said this, his eyes were filled with distress and pity, as well as the sorrow and sadness that were difficult to speak to. I looked at him, he looked at me, and slowly, tears filled our eyes, and then we cried, and after grief, I made a hysterical noise again, and he hid in the bathroom and smoked one by one. .

When calm, Shao Li also said that he hurt me too deeply and hoped that I would forget him to find my new happiness. That's how it is said, but I clearly know that as I grow old day by day, I have no future or happiness at all.

As the parties involved, each of us has its own difficulties and sorrows and bitterness. What is worse is that none of us knows how long this sorrow and bitterness will last? We are no longer young, but we still have to go with the embarrassing life, where only we know the pain and humiliation. But I really hope that no one will repeat our tragedy.

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