I, 44 years old, married from the countryside to the city and suffered domestic violence from my ex-husband. After the divorce, I took my daughter to become Bai Fumei independently.

I, 44 years old, married from the countryside to the city and suffered domestic violence from my ex-husband. After divorce, I took my daughter to become Bai Fumei independently. , So I only went to junior high school, so I dropped out of school and went to work. Maybe it was because I was afraid of being poor. At that time, I wanted to marry in the city. I had this idea because of how pretty I was, so regardless of the introduction of my parents. No matter where, what is my family situation, I didn't agree to go on a blind date.

I started working as a waiter at the age of 16, and worked in a small restaurant for two years. During those two years, it was really tired and dirty, but for a foreigner who came to the city, he had no skills and no help from relatives and friends. , Can only start from the most basic.

Two years later, I dated my first boyfriend. His home is in the city. It’s not my own money, it’s all his parents’ money. He is not a good person because he has cheated many times during the three years of socializing with me. In the end, I couldn't bear it, so I chose to break up.

Even if he broke up, he still stalked and didn't let go, even threatening me, forcing me to take pictures of me. In the end, I left that city and took my only 3,000 yuan to another strange city.

It happened that when I was looking for a job, I met a fellow villager. He was a dozen years older than me. Because he was a fellow villager, he said that I should go to him to do things and would not be able to learn. went.

After I went there, I realized that it is not a company at all, but a group of people who dream of making money. I think you should understand when I say this, I used the excuse of buying sanitary napkins. Without even taking the suitcase, he ran out.

Since then, I don’t trust everyone.

searched for seven or eight days,Every day I am in a small hotel and I am often harassed by people, but when I can’t stand it, I finally got a job selling tea. I can’t do anything. That sister taught me patiently for half a month. Time, I can basically do things on my own.

is the job that made me completely change my face.

I gradually love this job, from not knowing anything to becoming a veteran, from 1,200 yuan a month to more than 4,000 yuan a month, and here I met My ex-husband.

My ex-husband’s home is local, there are many shops, basically rely on rent collection, and then run a small supermarket. Life is okay, he is very attentive to me, but I am too much older, and my sister also knows my mind, and always persuaded me that someone is a registered permanent residence in the city anyway, and it's pretty good to be so good to you.

I agreed, because he is not ugly, and he speaks very well.

However, after we were together for a few months, I discovered that he had been married before and had a son. Although he was following his ex-wife, his concealment of me made me unacceptable. , But I'm pregnant, what can I do? I endured the pain of marrying for the sake of the city's status.

My dad is very feudal, and he asked for a lot of gifts, which was the most in our village at that time. Get married and have a daughter, and then take care of the children every day, wash, cook, do housework, and take care of the family. I think, let’s just do it. In this life, it’s enough to be so stable.

However, his first love is the same as my first love. The ruffian’s character can’t be changed. At such an old age, he has been fooling around all day long. As long as he’s not happy, he will punch me without saying anything. After kicking, they went to bed happily. At the beginning I quarreled too, but it didn't help. I am alone and weak. I can't beat their family at all. I can only leave evidence and buy gold and silver jewelry for myself to pretend to be very happy.

Finally, one day, he asked me for a divorce because I gave birth to a daughter, and the woman he was looking for outside gave him a son. The conditions are arbitrary, as long as the divorce is agreed.

I thought about it for ten days, and finally asked for cash, because I don’t want to stay in this place anymore. I want to leave with my daughter. He agreed and he was happy to give money and divorce , And the child is raised by me, without his responsibility or obligation.

I traveled all the way north from Huai'an to Lanzhou. I opened a shop in Lanzhou and knew nothing. Then I looked for someone who met. The business was good. I spent seven or eight years, but the environment here is not what I like. , I still want to go to the south, but at that time I was getting better with a man, and he was reluctant to leave me.

I won't be as stupid as I used to be. I won't get married. I told him clearly that falling in love is to kill loneliness and he is very painful. So they parted ways.

To be honest, many years later, whenever I think about that relationship, I can’t help crying.

I came to Xiangyang, Hubei. In this strange city, I continued to work in my old business. The business was really good in the past few years. The shops have changed a few, and my daughter has grown up. I also feel that, If I earn more pension money, I will be able to mention retirement.

My baby girl

I never want to get married in my life, I just want my daughter to find a good job and have a man who really loves him treats her well. If not, I would rather let my daughter be great for a lifetime. Marriage is really tiring. Because you are not sure who you will find.

In fact, my daughter is also sensible. She knows that I am tired every day. When she grows up, she doesn't like to read, but loves flowers. She blooms her own shop and can support herself.

Nothing goes smoothly in life,Only fragmentation and persistence in the fragmented dream.

My dream has long been awake. I am 44 years old. I am a middle-aged person. With my own efforts, I am now considered white and rich. Compared with my peers, I feel better than many people, both physically and psychologically. Life, if you take it lightly, you will be happy.

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