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From small to large, the elders around us have told us this truth, that is, "multiple friends, multiple paths."
In the eyes of many people, we need to make more friends and connect with certain people so that our network of contacts can gradually grow.
But, is the concept of "multiple friends, multiple paths" really correct? In fact, everyone has their own opinions.
Many things in this world actually have good and bad sides. In other words, for us, friends will not only bring us certain benefits, but also harm us.
In the workplace, you have made countless "hupug and dog friends". Are these people really your contacts? Absolutely not. Hupengouyou are just dispensable passers-by.
Someone once did a survey. Everyone will encounter about 10 million people in their lifetime. Among these 10 million people, 1,000 people will have a certain relationship with you. However, there may be only one or two true confidants, or none at all.
In a way, many of the friends we make today are nothing more than "insignificant" passers-by. You will not be affected in any way if you leave them. However, you don't want to leave, most of the time it's just for the sake of face.
When people get old,Isn't it normal if you don't have a friend by your side? Come over and tell the truth.
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Mr. Wang: It’s not worth mentioning the so-called "friends" until middle age.
When he was young, Mr. Wang, who traveled north and south, actually made a lot of friends, and he was a social expert himself. Therefore, there are still many people he meets.
The young Mr. Wang believes that being a person without friends is like an umbrella without a handle, no matter how big it is. Ever since, he followed the principle of "multiple friends, multiple paths".
When Mr. Wang was 40 years old, he was a little tired of this kind of "play on the spot" life. He slowly felt that making friends with countless people, but he seemed to have no friends, and he didn't know the meaning of doing so.
However, he himself does not want to be an "unsocial" person. Moreover, he is a person who pays special attention to "face", so he does not want to be regarded as an out-of-group alien.
This kind of life continued for 5 years. One night when Mr. Wang was 45 years old, he opened WeChat, opened the contact page, and wanted to find a friend to chat with.
However, he sifted through thousands of "friends" and found no one to chat with.
At that moment,He was reflecting on the fact that he has made so many friends, but now he can't find anyone to chat with. Isn't this a kind of helplessness and sorrow?
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After seeing through the countless vicissitudes of life, Mr. Wang nowadays has become a "solitary" person, seldom interacting with passersby.
His wife asked him, didn’t you always like to deal with others before? Why are you now a "Lone Ranger"?
Mr. Wang smiled and said, “It’s not that I want to be a lone ranger, but I want to understand. Instead of spending so much time with unnecessary people, it’s better to spend time where you need it. At least it can make oneself live a little more fully."
These words actually reveal the thoughts of many "unsocial" middle-aged people. They don't want to live for others, but want to live for themselves and live out the truest self.
For middle-aged people without a friend around, is it a failure?
Before thinking about the above question, we might as well think about it, what is a "friend"? It's not everyone who has a relationship with you, but the "best friend" who has a deep relationship with you and is with you.
In this world, passersby are easy to find, but close friends are hard to find. Even the ancients, they also regarded "Meeting the Old Knowing in Another Country" as one of the three great events in life.
If "best friends" are so easy to find,So where does this happy event begin? It is precisely because close friends are hard to find, and some people have found their best friends for a lifetime, so it is normal for them to choose to live by themselves.
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Schopenhauer said: "People are either lonely or vulgar." , What is false, what is true feeling, what is acting on the spot.
The vulgar, they live only for others, only for the worthless face, and waste time and energy only for the unsentimental passing by.
It can be said to be decisive. There are many people in this world. They are all vulgar, who cannot see the reality of life and the truth of people's hearts.
Especially those who are "good face", they think that lonely people are alien and abnormal people. But what these people don't know is that the lonely people have a more fulfilling life and a more thorough heart.
People who are wise will not demand too much of themselves as a group, they only require themselves to be "appropriate", make friends who can make friends, and stay away from those who can't. Anyway, everything is for my own happiness.
When people get old,Isn't this normal if you don't have a true friend by your side? In fact, it's normal, and you don't have to look down on yourself. What's more, you are not alone in this world.
It’s not the best to treat others and live in the world. On the contrary, it is our best choice to choose not to abuse and to strive for perfection.
Wen/Shu Shan Youlu
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