My husband and I are what others call "honest people", so people who reach middle age have no achievements at all. I don't blame the sky or the ground, I can only blame myself for being honest!
Let’s look at the relatives and friends around me. Those people who are called "honest people" are in the same situation as us. And those who are called "savvy" are basically confused!
After half a lifetime, I finally came to understand that when you are a human being, you should not be too honest, because if you are too honest, you will be easily bullied, and if you are too honest, you will be looked down upon.
Why are honest people easy to be bullied? I think there are several reasons:
1. Too kind, so that there is no principle
A person with kindness is a kind of beautiful character. But if you are too kind, you will break your own principles and bottom line! Everything has its principles and bottom line, otherwise it would violate the laws of things. Once a person has no principles and bottom line, blindly being too kind, it is easy to condone the ignorance and shortcomings of others, and in the end it is often himself and more innocent people who are injured. There is nothing wrong with being down-to-earth and kind in life, but please keep your principles and be sharp!
2. Don't know how to fight, give in without reservation
Don't fight or grab, this is the common cognition of honest people. You know, this is a society where the weak and the strong eat the weak. If you don't fight for the things that should belong to you, there will always be many people waiting for this opportunity to take away the things that belong to you, and there will be no "thank you" at that time! You don't have to covet everything about others, but you can get back every bit of what belongs to you!
3. Not good at coping with other people's provocations
When others initiate provocations, the first feeling of honest people should be that they don't have their own position. Fear of being too flattery, and fear of offending others, is completely up to one's own feelings. In fact, this is also a manifestation of EQ and IQ.
Then,How to change the "identity" of one's "honest person"? Summarized the following points:
First: Deal more with a cheerful person
Honest people have a common feature, that is, they don’t like to talk because they don’t know what to say and how to say! Over time, others will not know what your inner thoughts are. When you are with cheerful people often, you will gradually be changed imperceptibly. If you try to get out of your circle, you will find that you will gradually become more cheerful.
Second: Learn to resist and reject
Honest people usually have one characteristic in common, that is, they are afraid of offending people. You know, no one has any right to force you to do anything for him. It's your duty to help him, but it's your duty not to help him. You must have the courage to resist and refuse at any time, learn to try to resist and refuse once, let others know that you also have your bottom line, so that you will not be squeezed again.
Third: Keep an eye on everything
In the eyes of honest people, others will be as honest as themselves. In fact, this society is very realistic. In addition to mutual trust between people, it is more to seduce fights and deceive! Perhaps when the interest relationship is not great, you still can't find the fragility of the relationship between people. But once the interest relationship becomes larger, you will find that people's selfish nature is unreservedly exposed. So no matter what you do, as long as your own interests are involved, you must keep an eye on it.
Fourth: Let yourself experience more
This society will not only change over time, but people will also be changed if they experience more! Whether it is a good experience or a bad experience, it is a kind of experience. A person's experience can change a person to a certain extent. If you live in a life pattern for a long time, your personality will be easily fixed.
Fifth: Don't always be timid and fearful
Don't cause trouble by yourself, but don't be afraid of trouble either! If someone bullies you, you should stand up bravely to protect yourself. If others treat you, you should return it decisively! No matter what the big thing, the sky will fall, and there will be a high support. You must know, the more you are afraid of the thing, the more it will look for you, it is better to stand up and fight it once!
Honestly there is nothing wrong,But if you are too honest, you will lose too much. The destiny of each of us is in our own hands. Learn to change our destiny slowly. I believe that everyone’s life will not be so hard!
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