In Chinese society, the ideal marriage in the eyes of many people is the right marriage. The reason there is such a view of marriage is that facts speak louder than words. After careful observation of many happy families, we can find that the family of the right couple is indeed relatively stable and long-term, and the sense of happiness is relatively high.
The main reason for this situation is actually that the values and outlook on life of both spouses are similar. In today's soap operas, there is often a theory of "personal complementarity", that is, like a person with completely different personalities after getting married, he can live his life with freshness every day. However, in fact, such a marriage is just like a chicken feather in the end, because it is obviously a marriage paradox. How can two chickens and the person whom the duck talks about stay in love for a long time?
Therefore, many people who have truly found a happy marriage and those who have experienced misfortune in their marriages have finally seen that they are right. I finally discovered that the essence of marriage is whether the husband and wife can have common pursuits and common language. The greater the difference in marriage, the harder it is to achieve this state.
There is such a lady in Shenzhen. She once went to work in Africa and met a black African friend there. Through constant contact, the two gradually became emotional. At that time, the lady surnamed Yu thought she had found the true love of her life and fell completely into the sweet words of the other party.
As the relationship between the two deepened, Ms. Yu also decided to tell her family that she had found an African boyfriend and expressed her desire to marry him. But Ms. Yu’s parents resolutely objected after learning of this situation, and they raised many practical questions. Ms. Yu and her family quarreled endlessly over this series of issues regarding the conditions of the other party, what life should be after marriage, what to do when the children go to school, and the differences in life between the two parties, and never reached an agreement.
Ms. Yu thinks that her family cannot understand her happiness, but her family is worried about her future. In the end, Ms. Yu and her family broke up, and directly chose to marry each other. After marriage, the two had two children soon, but unfortunately the youngest daughter suffered from a congenital disease. At this time, Ms. Yu felt the pressure of life, and the only person she could rely on was her husband.
But this time her African husband also felt the same pressure in life.Under this pressure, he did not choose to face it, but instead chose to escape. He quietly left 20,000 yuan to his wife and children, and then disappeared into Ms. Yu's life, and returned to his country alone.
At this time, Ms. Yu felt a deep despair. The child needed someone to look after her, and she could not go out to work alone. At this time, with tears of despair, she finally remembered the advice of her family. She regretted it, but she had no retreat. There is no way for Ms. Yu to ask for help from the Social Welfare Institute . She wants to send her child to the orphanage for support, but the orphanage tells her that the condition of the child does not meet the acceptance conditions.
There is a saying that the tears a woman shed after marriage is the water that enters her mind before marriage. Although this sentence is a bit extreme, it deeply reveals the true inner feelings of women who are unhappy in marriage in real life. If Ms. Yu could listen to a family member's advice, she wouldn't end up like this in the end.
Marriage is not only the end of romantic relationships, but also the beginning of a new life. If you only hold the finale of the romantic wedding of the prince and the princess, you will be overwhelmed by the trivial life in the end. Love is not about living today without tomorrow, living a life of one day or one less day, but about accumulating energy for future life. Any marriage that only has "love" in its eyes will most likely usher in a life of feathers in the end.
Now looking back at the argument at the beginning of the article, you may be able to understand a deeper truth. Before marriage, young people have always been dazzled by love. This is a very indifferent thing, but when facing the last step of marriage, please be cautious. Talk about love before marriage, and do it after marriage. is home. Only by ensuring that the right person can build a family with common goals and pursuits in the future life can usher in a happy life after marriage.
In addition to commonality, marriage also has certain characteristics, which is undeniable. We do not deny that there are certain special circumstances in married life. Some young couples do have different personalities but live well. But such examples are actually only a few, and the more such a few,The more there is a common pursuit of a better life.
In this way, no matter how big the difference between the two parties in the marriage is, what is most needed is the common goal of getting better and better. If this goal is not firm, the greater the difference, the harder it will be to achieve this goal.
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