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Hu Shi once said that "a kind person should do good deeds moderately and do things sharply", which means very concise and comprehensive.
Doing kindness alone is a good thing of accumulating virtue and blessings, but kindness depends on the object and the degree. Once good and evil are indistinguishable, they will inevitably suffer their backlash. Whether you are doing good deeds or doing bad deeds, you must uphold the word "moderation", otherwise, you will be in trouble.
"Excessive kindness is a great evil". The following kinds of "kindness" may seem beautiful, but they are actually very sinister. If you encounter one of them, you will often destroy yourself.
Being bullied and trying to be generous
As the saying goes, "people who are good are bullied, horses are riding well", our kindness is based on the attitude of others towards us.
In our life, we often see such a type of people who always want to take advantage of others, and feel that if they don't take advantage of it, they are at a loss. They spend all kinds of careful thought to grab the interests of those around them. Even insulting us with words, if we still show our generosity at this time, and even want to use to forbear to influence and , it is obviously unrealistic. It must have been their intensification. You think your generosity will influence them, but in fact they are considered stupid by the other party. In the end, after you have lost all the existence you can lose, when you are standing on the street crying without tears, no one will sympathize with you generously, because your cowardice is shameful.
Cowardice and generosity are different, if you confuse the two, you will lose the normal life . There is no need for such good people in modern society, and it is your cowardice that makes them stronger.Learn to say no, learn to say no, and your life won't be dominated by aggressiveness.
A loved one who is hurt and chooses to forgive the abuser
Cannot protect family, but looks at the person who should be forgiven by the abuser, is really not qualified to say the word forgiveness.
When I was a child, the two brothers from the neighbor's house, my younger brother was always bullied by the senior students of school because of his shortness, and elder brother chose to forbear because he did not want to offend these people, but in exchange, his younger brother was on the way home every day. Being blocked, the younger brother was very aggrieved and asked his elder brother why he didn't help him. The elder brother said, why don't you just go home and hide from them? Or you provoke them. It turns out that this is not the case, even if the younger brother chooses to go home late or go home from another path, the group of people can still be seen waiting for him. couldn’t bear it. brother.
Yes, the law of survival in this world is very simple. If you are strong, others are naturally weak, and if you are weak, others are naturally strong. If you still choose to be kind when facing family members and loved ones being hurt by others, choose to forgive them for believing in "making the world full of love", it is undoubtedly very sad. The desperate eyes of the family have said everything. If you can't protect your family, how can you be kind?
One can be tolerant and kind, but only if the two are on an equal footing. Otherwise, in the face of the humiliation of their loved ones, every bloody man should be violent, protect himself and his family, and let his family live with dignity is the best kindness.
The obscurity generations have suffered and dare not clarify
If obscurity is a kind of low-key, then the generation has suffered and dare not clarify is a kind of cowardice.
When we are in a deep crisis, it is obviously someone else's fault, but everyone thinks that it is our problem and blames us, but the person involved chooses to escape. If it is you, you will choose to suffer on behalf of others or tell the truth.
I think everyone who is responsible for life should speak the truth bravely. We have the responsibility and obligation to restore the original outline of the matter for everyone, instead of letting the parties choose to get away with , we will take the blame for them. Taking the blame is not a kind of kindness, but a kind of and naive in life. This kind of innocence does not belong to adults, but you chose innocence. It's just sad to say.
Don't think that you can help others by memorizing things. If the person involved doesn't even have the courage to face life, why would you expect such a person to wake up? Don't think that clarification is a sin, but it is you In helping each other, let each other face the society bravely. Being responsible and responsible is a quality that everyone must have.
We can be kind, but we cannot suffer for others. The most ugly thing in this world is to be splashed with unwarranted dirty water. If you encounter it, it is better to give an eye for an eye. To be a person is not only to be kind, but also to have the courage to face life.
Ending remarks
Interacting with people is a university question. Some people are more than sixty years old and they are still new to it. But in any case, we must understand that kindness has boundary , which can never be crossed, let alone use your kindness to fill the bitter fruit planted by others.
In the face of life, we must have a brave person, not a pure and kind person. Excessive goodness is great evil.
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