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The first half of life is about winning and the second half is about losing.
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How much time should a couple spend together?
From youth to middle age.
's face has been changed by the years, and that straight and graceful figure has become a beer belly and a swimming ring.
They weren't tired of seeing each other in the beginning, but now they're a little bit tired of each other.
didn't waste every second when they were together. Now I smoke in the car before going home. The sweet talk of
has been replaced by nagging and bickering.
I feel not as good as before. The marriage came to a bad day.
This is a true portrayal of many middle-aged marriages, which makes people sigh with emotion!
On the one hand, they don't like each other anymore; pretending to love
Huihui has been married for ten years. She posts his husband's copy to Moments every day; but her husband never does. However, when she first got married, Huihui was a man who liked to spread dog food very much. How is she now?
She replied with a laugh that she had slept apart from her husband for seven years. It's not only surprising because it's still loving watching them come out together? Huihui smiled bitterly and said: You only see the surface. If he sleeps with me, he can't sleep.
Maybe in middle age, it's true that energy and focus don't go together. I find that many couples are unable to speak a few words a day. Even when spoken, many of them are about children, old people, and very little about each other, maybe life really changed us, or prematurely turned love into family.
It seems that if you want to keep love fresh, you need to work hard on both sides, otherwise, you will just watch each other become more and more unhappy.
Today I will teach you a few tricks to avoid entering a greasy middle-aged marriage.
1. Recognize the differences between men and women.
Men are from Mars and are used to "watching" the world; women are from Mercury and like to see everything around them in a different way.
Women often "think too much" and men often "can't remember".
Women pay attention to feelings, men pay attention to right and wrong.
Women need to say more than 20,000 words a day, while men only need to say more than 7,000 words.
My husband doesn't talk much when he gets home. Maybe he's done talking today! My wife has been twittering and she has a lot to say today!
2. A marriage of responsibility and self-discipline
is a responsibility. responsibility for mutual support.
From youth to middle age is a golden age for personal and career development. Mutual understanding and strong support are what couples should do.
Co-parenting responsibility. The mother of the child should not criticize the father for not doing well while complaining that the father did nothing.
Give Dad the opportunity to perform and exercise, and he will naturally grow up; in the process of accompanying the children, he will establish a connection with the children and fall in love with them; if you do not let Dad in, maybe you will fall in love unknowingly The feeling that you are in control.
Middle-aged people are tired of marriage and face more temptations. The issue of extramarital affairs has become a powerful weapon in middle-aged marriages.
The issue of extramarital affairs is of course a multi-factor issue, but as a party to an extramarital affair, it is your responsibility to slap yourself when temptation comes, which requires self-discipline. To be different from animals, people should know self-discipline, because people have their own willpower.
3. Give them what they want, not what you want.
The rabbit likes to eat turnips, it won't appreciate the meat and bones given to it by the dog.
You babysit your husband, but he may need affirmation and praise.
True love is built on the feeling of love. If you can't make the other person feel loved, it means not loving.
"I don't know what the other party wants, what you give is not what the other party wants, what you give is what the other party doesn't like", no matter how deep such love is, it is not in place.
When my husband talks about the difficulties at work, he doesn't want to hear you say "I knew this already, in the beginning...". In fact, he wants to hear "I know you do a lot, it's not easy, I support you!"
"I know what the other person wants, I give the other person what he wants, and I give the other person what he likes", something like Love will always be hot.
When people reach middle age, they find that there are always regrets in real marriages. Acknowledge the imperfection of marriage and accept it!
Marriage is not perfect, and we finally find that the other half cannot "love me like the ideal parents of childhood"; a mature marriage requires more independence and less dependence. Don't be a child who keeps asking for love.
First give love, then get love. In many cases, giving is rewarding.
As long as you practice hard, you can successfully avoid or overcome a greasy middle-aged marriage.
I am willing to listen to your fragility and accompany you on every journey. I am Nanzhi.
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