Long-term relationship between men and women

Each of us likes to read the story of a lover who ends up getting married, and we all yearn for a perfect ending.

However, there are too many stories that can't stand the sentence "What happened later?"

Even those, when we first got together, we were so in love with each other that we were inseparable, and there were too many people who swore that they would never give up.

Zhang Xiaoxian said:

"I thought love could fill life's regrets, but it is love that creates more regrets."

Love is easy, but staying together is not easy.

A truly long-term relationship between men and women is not just a touch of heart at first sight, but also needs to do the following three points.

Don't please

Writer Su Cen once said:

"A real good relationship is effortless. You don't need to deliberately please and work hard, two people are already comfortable with the flow.

If you are in a relationship and you are alone, you have to let it go. You spend a lot of energy to please, and this is not destined to accompany you to the end."

In any relationship, as long as there is to please, it means imbalance. In a relationship, as long as it is unbalanced, the humble party is destined to be hurt.

I read a story on the Internet:

After a girl was with her boyfriend, she complained that her boyfriend didn't care about her or didn't care about her, and at the same time tried her best to please her, hoping that her boyfriend could take care of her more.

But what about the end result?

The result is that even though the girl keeps her posture very low, even humbled into the dust, the man still betrays his feelings and leaves her.

love, in fact, is the case.

If a person really cares about you, then you don't need to please, and the other person will give you all their love.

But if he doesn't care about you, it's no use trying to please.

The candy you give him is not sweet, every time you are doing, he doesn't care at all, he is the background of your life, and you are just his A, B, C, Ding.

No matter how much you love someone at any time, don't rely on petitions to keep someone.

Because of the love obtained by praying, you cannot love until the end of the world. In the end, all you can get is that you are moved and hurt yourself.

Getting along is not tired.

The poet Shimian said:

"Real feelings are casual but caring for each other; comfortable but cherishing each other. Separate, but the heart is together; each breathes, but love does not separate."

A good relationship , although not necessarily vigorous, not necessarily eachother, but two people must be relaxed, happy and free.

Only when two people have no sense of restraint together and can be themselves freely, can they not consume each other and spend the long dull time together in the future.

In the TV series "Long Song Xing", the Tang princess Li Leyan has always liked Wei Shuyu in her heart, but in the end she and Hao are together.

When Li Leyan was chatting with Li Changge at that time, Li Changge asked Le Yan: "Don't you like Wei Shuyu? Why did you choose Haodu?" She would be very nervous and unnatural when they were together.

Guo Qilin once said:

"When two people fall in love, they must be happier than one person."

Two people who are suitable for living together must be able to talk, play and eat .

If a relationship not only does not make you happy, but also makes you feel very tired, it only means that he is not the person you can live with.

The life of a person is not long, and you must know how to embrace the person who makes you relaxed and comfortable and makes you happy.

After all, life is difficult, and living up to yourself is the best way to live.

Admiring each other

Bacon said:

"Love is like saving a sum of money in the bank, appreciating each other's advantages is like supplementing income; tolerating each other's shortcomings is a moderation in spending. The so-called eternal love is from beauty to gray hair. , from the blossoming of love to the remnant of flowers."

Whether a relationship can last for a long time does not depend on whether two people are perfect, but whether two people know how to use perfect eyes to appreciate the imperfect person.

My friend Xiaoling has been married for five years, but the two of them live a more comfortable and happier life than when they first got married. In fact, in the very beginning of

, in the eyes of many of us, Xiaoling's husband was really not a template for a good husband. Not only did he understand romance, but he was also careless.

But after the two got married, Xiaoling always encouraged her husband.

When her husband is attentive once, when her husband buys her a gift... all these things that seem trivial to too many people, she will be very pleasantly surprised, and she will not be stingy with her husband's praise.

Over time, Xiaoling's husband became more and more careful and thoughtful in Xiaoling's "appreciation", and their marriage became more and more happier.

psychologist said:

"The deepest need of human beings is to feel appreciated by others."

The same is true in relationships. When two people get along, they can actively discover each other's luminous points, and don't be stingy with their praise to each other.

Then, not only will the other party be willing to work hard in the direction of your compliments, but you will also be delighted to discover the excellence of the other party. Feelings will naturally get better.

The real long-term relationship does not mean that as long as you are in love, it does not mean that everything will be fine if you are together.

Only when two people can not please, get along without getting tired, and appreciate each other, then the relationship can last forever.

The rest of your life is still long. If you are lucky enough to meet such a person, you must know how to cherish it, and then join hands to grow old happily.

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