More important than marriage is love

Marriage or love, which one is more important?

Some people say that fit is more important than love in the long run.

It is the safest choice to choose a person who has the same temper and three views as you and enters the marriage, and then slowly cultivates the relationship after marriage.

Those who impulsively marry for love, too many lose to the plainness of chai, rice, oil and salt.

Some people also say that if two people don’t even have love, how can they enter into marriage with each other?

is like in the old days, parents arranged marriage, through the elders, two people are suitable, but will they really be happy?

Marriage and love shouldn’t be a matter of choice.

In this world, what we are looking forward to most is to find someone who loves us wholeheartedly, hold hands with him and grow old together.

But there are so many helplessness and embarrassment in reality. After falling in love with someone, I can't always follow my heart and go to the end with him regardless.

I think if you have to make a choice, then love is more important than marriage.

because of love for this person,Only then can you want to spend the days and nights with him in the future, walk into his life and participate in his life.

You will be willing to accept his shortcomings unconditionally, be proud of him, and be happy for him. You feel the same with his pain, and you are proud of his happiness.

Some people say that it is not good to find a person with suitable conditions before marriage, and then the two people will slowly cultivate their relationship after marriage.

If it can succeed, this is of course the most ideal marriage. But the reality is how many people who do not love each other, after becoming a husband and wife, after a long time together, they still can't develop feelings and look good.

Su Su has been lonely for a long time after being broken in love. Unsuspecting parents are urging her to have a blind date again. The family members said that you are 29 years old, and if you don't work hard, it will be more difficult to find when you are in Bensan.

Susu, who is disappointed in love, no longer has hope for love, she thinks in a broken way, just look at each other.

After being introduced by the two families, she met Xiao Chen. Xiao Chen and Su Su are the same years old, work in a state-owned enterprise, have a house and a car at home, everything is stable.

After a short time together, Su Su is also quite satisfied with Xiao Chen. Although I don't know him enough, but at least I don't hate it.

Later the two families urged the marriage, Xiao Chen asked her opinion, Su Su said, I don't care, or just get married.

They walked into the marriage in a vague way, Su Su thought, slowly cultivate relationships after marriage. Anyway, he looks like a good person and won't harm me.

Xiao Chen’s character really doesn’t have to say,But the biggest disadvantage is that he is too honest and dull, and lacks romantic cells.

Su Su also felt at the beginning that she could bear this shortcoming, but after living together, she became more and more aware that she could not bear it.

Xiao Chen never remembers her birthday, never remembers the wedding anniversary of two people, nor does it give gifts on Valentine's Day.

He would not say some nice love words to coax her. Even if Susu wants a kiss or a hug from Xiao Chen, he will say, so what is it for?

Su Su even has the illusion that he seems to be living with a piece of wood. Except for the most basic things like eating and sleeping, he never flirts with himself, nor does he say some nice comforts to comfort her: Wife, I have been working hard today.

Su Su told me that they had just been married not long ago, but they have become old couples and old wives. Even those middle-aged couples would be happier than themselves.

Two people lie on the same bed at night. Su Su wants to stay with Xiao Chen, but he will just say hardly, "It's too late, go to sleep, I have to get up early tomorrow, and I will wake up soon." Snore.

The experience brought to Susu from this marriage is more painful than good. Her husband was really good to her, but he couldn't give her what she wanted.

Later Su Su said to me that the longer she took him, the more she looked at him, and she repeatedly blamed herself in her heart for such a dull man, how did she like it in the first place?

She said, she feels that her life now is like a pool of stagnant water, without any waves,Also lost passion and hope.

If Susu can follow her heart and find a man who truly loves her and she loves her, then after marriage, she will be much happier than now.

Two people love each other, understand each other, and know each other's preferences and temperaments. When living together, they will take more care and tolerance of each other.

We always feel that in marriage, fit is more important than love.

But in fact, the two can coexist. When you really find someone who loves you, for you, you are also suitable for each other. If it is not suitable, how can you come together? Maybe after getting to know each other slowly, they still like each other.

Similarly, because of love, you will willingly forgive some of his shortcomings. Even in marriage, two people will stumbling and stumbling, and all kinds of conflicts will arise, but because you love him, you are willing to forgive, and you will not take these frictions to your heart.

But if we enter into marriage with a person we don't love, our life after marriage will become more competitive. You often think, I don't like you, why should I let you?

There is a saying that when you hate a person, he even breathes wrong. This is the truth.

What we like, will add a perfect filter to this person. Even if he hiccups and farts in front of you, what an indecent thing he does, you will laugh away.

But if it is someone you don’t like, I’m afraid you will feel sick as long as you see him.

A happy marriage is actually very simple. Find a person who truly loves each other. Don’t go for the sake of life. Don’t just surrender the rest of your life for someone who seems right.

He may be really suitable for you, but suitable does not mean happiness.

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