The common problem of divorced older women: love incompetence

The most hurtful thing in the world is not a sharp weapon, but an emotional . In other words, if the body is injured, given time, there will be a day of recovery.

But once the soul is injured, that kind of shadow and pain is likely to accompany it for a lifetime, which can especially reflect the emotional state of women.

I have always felt that no one does not yearn for love, and no one can live in a loveless environment. The reason why they choose to disguise themselves as a steel warrior.

is not because she is really strong enough to not need care and tenderness from the opposite sex, but because she has been hurt in the past emotional experience.

Here, I no longer believe that I can meet the right person and have a complete, healthy and healthy relationship life.

This is a common problem of many older divorced women, referred to as love incompetence.

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Love is incompetent. In layman's terms, it means that a person has lost the longing and desire for love. Because everyone has not got it, they simply don’t need it, and will tell everyone I don't need a man in my life.

I don’t need love, a career is enough, is that true? No matter how old Wang Lin is 50, Huang Yi is 43, or Wang Ziwen is 39, no one wants to have a sweet love in his heart.

This is the instinct of girls,Regardless of age, Even if a person is 80 years old, he still wants someone by his side to stay with her, understand her desires and stop, and look at her affectionately.

Two people together, one room for two people, three meals for four seasons, this is the ideal life most people desire. The amount of wealth can certainly give a person a sense of security, but endless loneliness and depression can also ruin a person's look.

The life of two people is always much better than that of one person. At least, no matter how late you get home, there is a light to shine for you.

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The common problem of divorced older women: love incompetence.

We often envy outsiders’ luxury mansions, but we don’t understand. No matter how big the house is, there is no smoke and smoke, but it is just a building.

No matter how good the car is, there is no lover to accompany me, and my heart is empty when I go there. Do you still remember the scene of Tang Jing sitting in the car in the last episode of "My First Half of Life" and constantly dialing the phone to the distant He Han?

Is she short of money? Obviously not. What she lacks is love, a man who truly loves her, a man she dreams of wanting to marry her.

Unfortunately, the person in the other party's heart is not her, but Luo Zijun. Nothing can hurt the self-esteem of a strong woman more than empathy.

There is nothing wrong with her. In her career, she was successful, but emotionally, she lost terribly.

Although we don’t understand the past emotional lives of these female artists in variety shows,But what can be seen is that the scars are still vivid.

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For Wang Lin, it is difficult for her to fall in love with another person, even though she herself has repeatedly emphasized that strong will recognize a of my age. People have no birth or separation, only death.

This is very strong at first sound. In fact, when you think about it carefully, it is quite idealistic. When we are young, we need to cross the river by touching the stones when we are in love. .

Tell the other person without contact a few times, I have not fallen in love with you, and I don't want to waste any more time, so I chose to terminate the date, which is obviously inappropriate.

If you don’t like that person, make it clear at the beginning, why do you have to wait until everyone else thinks it’s not bad, and then suddenly brake?

For the male guest, I did nothing wrong. I express my good feelings for you and I sincerely want to accompany you for a while.

No matter what the final outcome is, at least I worked hard and took a step forward, but what about you? Don't even give me a chance to take a step forward.

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Such Wang Lin is actually incompetent. She is unlikely to fall in love with other people. In Huang Yi's words, her mentality is not that healthy.

Since I came to participate in the blind date show,You should adjust your mentality to a more peaceful state.

At least after getting along for a while, it’s not too late to draw conclusions. Let’s look at Wang Lin’s performance in Meng Fei’s blind date show, known as the light-off angel.

She is accustomed to using her own experience and inferences to advise female guests. She is also frank. Her relationship has failed, and the other half she wants are clearly marked.

was asked about the current emotional state. Her answer was very different: " , my mental state is very good." The implication is that when the mental state is good, the emotional state will be good.

I don’t like strong men. I just hope to find a reasonable man. I can't find someone who quarrels with me at home every day. No matter how strong you are, why should I be with you?

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These remarks also exposed from another level the initiative and autonomy of economically independent women in their emotional life. She does not rely on men to support her. on.

In Meng Fei's words, it's a bit of a "work". Regarding this question, Wang Lin's explanation is also in place, If you think my character is very creative, congratulations, you are right.

What do you think is the most important thing? There is no best work, only more work. In "The Heartbeat", her decisiveness and decisiveness to the male guest is enough to illustrate this point.

For people who don't like, people who can't fall in love, she has always been determined, and the "he" in her ideal may never appear.

This is actually a kind of love incompetence. From a formal point of view, she is actively starting a relationship and contacting new candidates. In fact, she did not accept it psychologically.

She still has the same mindset without any changes, and at the age of 50, it is difficult for anyone to make her proactively make changes.

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She is trying her best to maintain a comfortable self, but ignores that in a close relationship, two people need to change and accommodate each other if they want to go on for a long time.

She is unwilling to change, and she can't accommodate others, so she is all alone. Wang Lin is like this, and so are many divorced single women in real life.

I am eager to embrace and be loved, but in practical terms, it is difficult to be like a young girl who is willing to make changes for the person I love.

is willing to pull out the "thorns" that shouldn't be there for him and for a relationship. This may be a common problem that everyone shares. If everyone can be like Huang Yi, the more frustrated they are, the more courageous they are, and their love life will not be so elusive.

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