This is an account of an old American woman who was once a mistress. It is also a talk about the experience of the wives. She sincerely disclosed the secret of being favored by the mistress to the wives. The starting point of the article is not to give the mistresses an explanation, but to organize many reasons why wives lose their husbands or push their husbands to mistresses. It is also hoped that it can bring some information from the research object to people who study and pay attention to this issue. This will help to deepen the research in this area.
I am actually more like you than each of you imagined. I have had a husband, have had love, but have no children. In the end this ruined our marriage. I was very reluctant to divorce, but when I realized that there was only an empty body left in my marriage, I resolutely broke up with him. Two years later, I met another man at work. He has a family, and I also know that he has no intention of divorcing. So, when he made a love expression to me, I was taken aback and found it incredible. But in the end, I still failed to resist his powerful temptation and threw into his arms, becoming the mistress of a man with a wife and children.
I am old now. From my past experience, I can draw this conclusion: If a mistress has more experience of romance, while a wife is more immersed in real life, the two are incompatible with each other, but in fact they have The similarities and differences are often the reasons why wives fall out of favor.
In addition to life issues, marriage needs other content.
Compared with romantic love, needless to say, marriage is more secure and convenient for one's life. But a woman can't just marry for the sake of living, and go into marriage like joining a club. That kind of marriage is lifeless. The cultivation of love should accompany the whole life. When a marriage begins to sew the future, hope, and emotional content into the pocket, the marriage also indicates that it is coming to an end.
Generally speaking, extramarital affairs are more exciting and adventurous than marriage. There is an undeniable fact, that is people’s spiritual need for adventure,Often it will continue to grow like the body's need for food. When facing her husband who is with her day and night, the wife often ignores this attempt.
How to win love
A favored mistress knows how to win love, but a wife rarely thinks that it needs to be learned. There is a popular belief that the way to win love is to give love, but this is often not the case. If there is a knack for winning love, this knack is to "do not depend on being loved", this is the ability that a woman must possess. Once she realizes that even if love ends, she can still survive happily and regain love, because she has the charm to win love and can take the initiative in the love relationship between men and women.
Men and women meet like a comet across the sky. It has great contingency and instability. The men and women who understand this and can take it calmly are the most attractive. They can always get love because they understand the truth. I always believe that if you want to maintain love, maintaining a certain degree of strangeness is necessary. This is not a trick of a magician, but what is needed to stay attractive.
About men's career
Many women imagine that they can help their husbands in their careers, and feel confused and frustrated when such help is not appreciated. In fact, many outstanding men would rather rely on their strong will and unremitting efforts to reach the other side of career success. Regrettably, many wives do not seem to understand this truth. On the contrary, it is the mistress who is more open to this point.
Enjoy life to the full
Wife and mistress have different views on time and life . A wife often thinks too much about the future, so that she ignores the present. Everything she does is for tomorrow: children’s education, buying a better house, life after retirement, etc. But the mistress pays more attention to the present, the spiritual and physical needs in front of her have become the inner driving force of her actions. But anyone with sound consciousness and common sense will not only consider the future, but will not use the colorful real life as a collateral for the vague future. In this regard, a young widow once said to me: "I feel happy for me to spend every day happily. If I have to wait until I have the abundant capital to enjoy life, then it will be too late.
About housework
The man I committed to used to be angry (I think he might be angry at home) and said to me: "If you want me to leave you. You. Just do the housework all day long!" He was obviously not saying that housework should not be done, but that he should not make it the center of life. At the same time, he does not only refer to housework, but generally refers to all the trivial matters in family life.
Mistress is not as delicate and lazy as people think-only knows to eat, drink, enjoy, never sweep the floor, cook or sew. On the contrary, most of the women I know, including myself, are skilled cooks and housework masters. The reason why they don't often do housework is not to prove that they are different, but to be fair to themselves.
About sex
When I was very young, I occasionally happened to see my parents having intercourse. To me when I was young, it was a secret magic between men and women, and this magic would be my mastery in the future. My mother never thought of telling me this kind of thing between men and women in detail, but she never deliberately concealed its existence, its charm and beauty. Today, sex education has been very popular, but it is difficult for me to accept modern sex education methods. It seems that we no longer have the spirit, but become machines that only breathe, digest and engage in sexual intercourse. Today’s young wives’ “sex skills” are even more surprising to me. They transform human’s primitive impulsive behavior into driving cars or make-up and beauty-like techniques, which they can master through learning. Could it be that women no longer have instinctive impulses,No longer have a sense of mystery about sex? Do all human behaviors have to be impersonal, and men and women are just a cooking technique?
I know the prevailing perception: If the body lacks the pleasure of eliminating souls, it should be “adjusted” technology". And smart couples will consult experts: but in reality, this is often the opposite. The more people think about "what should be done", the farther away they are from spontaneity, instinct and pleasure. What sex life needs most is not technology, but sentiment and imagination. A woman who is full of physical and instinctive impulse doesn't care about theories and rules. She will immediately and completely integrate with the man in her arms and devote herself to the happy experience with him.
About cultivating wisdom
A smart wife will cultivate at least one specialty in her favorite field, and constantly sow new seeds there. Even if this affects housework and childcare, it is necessary. Because once the married life becomes boring and loses its color, the above two items will be more affected.
Women should not let their brains become rigid, let alone worry that engaging in intellectual activities will affect their romantic mood, the actual situation is just the opposite. Moreover, this does not require extraordinary genius. Mastering certain specialized knowledge and cultivating certain specialized skills are also extremely beneficial to maintaining lasting love, because these activities can play an important role in the cultivation of personality, and love is often favored by people with personality, rather than dull and dull. And uninteresting people.
Self-improvement is a compulsory topic for every woman. Once a woman loses her self, love will also go away. The reason is very simple.
In the past few years, most of my female friends have had solid marriages. Sometimes when we chat together, we will discuss matters between men and women with a little caution. At this time, we are often surprised that we have so much understanding of each other. But there are still some wives who are “stubborn”, or that she simply feels that those very romantic and fulfilling and witty days are impossible. If they encounter misfortune, they don’t want to change and adjust their lives.Then all that is left is the sigh of "I used to be difficult for the water".
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