The Chinese New Year is coming soon. Xiaojuan (pseudonym) is busy buying gifts for the elders and children of the two families these days. She brings them home in large and small bags every day, but she doesn’t even have a new dress. Time to buy.
Every New Year comes, it feels like a catastrophe, not only spends money, but also all kinds of trivial matters are accumulated on her alone.
She has complaints, but what can be done. When we get married and live, who doesn’t look forward to and endure while living.
is full of thoughts, but her husband pushes the door and enters with a beautiful shopping bag in his hand. When I opened it, it turned out that it was a necklace that Xiaojuan had been fond of for a long time. Because it was too expensive, I looked at it a few times but never wanted to buy it.
My husband gave out the year-end bonus, and immediately went to the mall and bought it for her. At that moment, Xiaojuan's original grievance disappeared without a trace.
I once loved vigorously, and I won’t realize it until I actually walked into marriage. No matter how beautiful love is, it will not escape the reality of firewood, rice, oil and salt, and these trivialities will eventually break the beauty of your dreaming life into pieces.
Xiaojuan’s natal family is not in the local area. When she first got married, she discussed with her husband. Her husband’s natal family took turns to celebrate the New Year. Her husband agreed to be profitable, but in fact, some things are not as simple as imagined.
Every Chinese New Year, there are always things of one kind or another. The good talk about the New Year will eventually become empty talk. After 6 years of marriage, there is only one Chinese New Year at Xiaojuan's family.
Xiaojuan still cares at first, but with the passage of time, she doesn't say much anymore. She can't make trouble as soon as the New Year comes, and it's impossible to get divorced just because of whom she will go to during the New Year.
After all, her husband is still good in principle. Even if she doesn't accompany her back to her family for the New Year, she will send the money to Xiaojuan's account in advance to remind her to prepare gifts for the elders in the family.
In fact, most people's marriages are almost like this. If you have to be clear about it, it may be difficult to stick to it.
The difference between husband and wife is not bad, so that the marriage can be stable. If you have to catch one thing and entangle it forever,I am afraid that there is no way to go on.
So every time when it comes to the New Year, Xiaojuan sees many couples shaking their heads because they are arguing about whether to go to their natal or in-laws. She already knows too well that one person must make sacrifices between husband and wife.
If this sacrifice can be exchanged for the other's understanding and approval, then it is worth it.
Just like she has done so many things for her husband’s family, sometimes it is inevitable that she will complain a few words, but the husband can see her contribution, and will try his best to make up for the debt to her, and the grievances in her heart will eventually be easily Resolved.
Does Xiaojuan actually care about gifts from her husband? Not so, just care about his affection for her.
Many people say that whether marriage is good or not can be clearly seen from the trivial matter of celebrating the New Year together.
A man who truly loves you will not always stand in his own position and emphasize that you must go to your in-laws to celebrate the New Year, but will put your opinions in an important position based on the actual situation.
I often hear of some women. Whenever they propose to return to their natal family during the New Year, a man will put on a posture of "marry a hen and follow a chicken, and marry a dog as a dog", thinking that women should go to her husband's house for granted.
As for the natal family, it is no longer a woman’s family, and it is even more impossible to give her family money. Just give some gifts at that time.
Men always want women to distinguish between priority and priority. After marriage, they must put their husband's family first and put their natal family second.
However, many families nowadays are only children. If a married woman goes with her husband to her husband’s house for the New Year, her parents can only look forward to reunion with their children, which is desolate.
But men can’t understand. Often because of where they are going for the New Year, the couple gets red-faced and even break up unhappy. Women feel that they have married the wrong person, and men feel that they have married the wrong person.
In fact, the New Year event is about reunion, and there are not so many rules. If you must formulate rules and stipulate where women must go to celebrate the New Year, it can only be said that you did not marry the right person.
People who love you will listen to your opinions,Do what you can to create the necessary conditions for you; and you will never be arrogant, you must only consider the feelings of your parents and ignore the other's family.
In a really good marriage, both spouses will discuss together how to make a decision, not allowing one party to act arbitrarily.
The more loving couples are, the less they will care about the trivial matters in life. Instead, they will take care of each other's thoughts and know how to empathize with each other's feelings.
Chinese New Year, sometimes the test is the human heart, to see whether the husband and wife take each other and each other's parents in their hearts.
Many people are asking, what kind of couple is the happiest and what kind of marriage is the best?
In fact, there is no fixed pattern for a happy family, and some are just the inner self-balance of the couple. Only if you feel good from the bottom of your heart will it be really good.
Especially for women, it does not necessarily require men to understand their hardships and difficulties, but to be recognized and affirmed for everything they have done, which is worth it.
Regardless of whether you are in your in-laws' house or in your natal house, you can take care of each other in a considerate manner. Instead of returning to your own home, you can do whatever you want, while the other party can only do everything with hard work. In a marriage like
, in the final analysis, the happiness index that people feel can’t go as high.
A happy marriage is not all about lip service, but both parties understand that since each other has become a husband and wife and formed a family, when necessary, sacrifice some of their own interests to satisfy each other.
The other party will also understand you well, and will not pretend not to see your contribution, but will give you the same response.
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