The reader wrote:
grew up in fourth-tier cities , a university in first-tier cities, and currently works in second-tier cities. After work, I came into contact with a girl who was two years younger than me, and my love was eventually defeated by "I can't afford a house." After that, my view on marriage and love changed: I don’t deserve love without money.
For several years, I no longer beg for love, I just want to work hard.
When I was 26 years old, I met my wife, who was already 31 years old. She fell in love with me at first sight.
Perhaps, it was the first time that a girl took the initiative to treat me well with me when she grew up, so I enjoyed this concern. Because considering my wife's age, we got married less than half a year in love.
The house belongs to the wife, and the car belongs to the wife.
Occasionally, I feel like I’m “soft-for-hearted”, and more often, I will use my salary and age advantages to balance my mentality.
In fact, in this marriage, I actually have no happiness. My unhappiness mainly comes from my wife's strength, because in life, I often hear the tone of "command".
has also negotiated with her wife for this matter, and she admitted that she shouldn't be like this, but she seemed to be "meek" for a while, and then she began her strong performance again.
Maybe, my wife’s attitude towards me is related to her family background and her profession: her parents are both rich people, and she works as a teacher in a primary school.
Maybe it’s rich and powerful, maybe it’s used to being strong in front of students.
want to ask: What should I do so that my wife will no longer be so strong in front of me?
Muzili Emotional analysis:
1) Many times, you will measure whether you are a soft-hearted person in your marriage. The reason why you care about this is actually because of your inferiority complex;
2) You are too sensitive to your wife's strong performance or because you are not strong enough, which often makes you feel depressed.
If you are strong enough now, then your wife’s aura in front of you will naturally be weak, and you will not be too sensitive to your wife’s strength.
In fact, except for your wife who likes to give orders to you, your wife is actually quite good in other aspects, so there is no pressure on the car room after marriage, and you should be glad that you can work less for many years.
If you want to reverse your disadvantages in marriage, what you need to do: work hard and improve your competitiveness in the workplace.
needs to remind you one thing: If one day, you really succeed in your career, don’t be ungrateful. You have to remember: you were dumped by a girl because you didn’t have a house. Although your wife is five years older than you, she has given you a complete home at your most confused age.
From ancient times to the present, an unchanging reality: in family life, people with a higher social status will always have the most say. There is a saying that doesn’t fight for steamed buns and breathe. It means that for a person’s life, he not only needs to solve the problem of food and clothing, but also needs to take care of the face project. It is also because of this that in the adult world, you must work harder at the career level. When you make certain achievements in the workplace, you will not only be recognized and affirmed by your family, but also be proud in front of outsiders.
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