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"If you want to be a woman with taste and temperament, then the first thing you have to do is believe in yourself. If you don't have confidence, then you will not have the courage and ability to face reality, and you will not have the heart to cultivate your charm."
The opening sentence I saw in the book "Happiness advice for women by Carnegie to women"! To be honest, it won my heart!
Looking at the present, in the relationship between men and women, women are divided into three types:
The first type is the type that is humble and despised.
The second type is to work hard with your partner, never leave you when the sun sets, and hope that a man will make a comeback and share sweetness with you.
The third type is the type that is deeply loved and cared for by men without too much effort in the eyes of others.
Generally speaking, compared with the three types, the most enviable one is the third type of women.
And the second type of woman will be the most worthy of being cherished by men in real life. But this type of woman is not all the people who are always cherished by men.
The first type of woman is simply destined to be ignored and loved by others all her life.
The establishment of a relationship between men and women is theoretically based on love so that they can be well combined.
However, facts tell us:
The only three types of women, the third type of women, is the "smart" and the best to live!
Maybe, many people will say unbalancedly:
What is special about her? I think I am better than her everywhere, why am I not so lucky?
The biggest difference between people is that someone is using real intelligence to manage their own lives and lock in their own happiness. Some people use their shallow cognition to evaluate others' ordinaryness and enhance their own advantages.
In fact, the so-called good life of those who are envied and jealous are all carefully created by themselves.
No one, born with a good life.
If you want to get the favor of luck and happiness, you must know that you need to pay some "price" for such luck and happiness.
The so-called price refers to the following points:
① What kind of capital do you have in order to enjoy this happiness and luck?
②What kind of solid foundation did you make before happiness and luck come?
③When facing happiness and luck, do you have the ability to identify the authenticity?
After clarifying the above three questions, here, the author would like to ask some women who are deeply troubled by "unfortunate" in their relationship:
How do you understand the word "selfish"?
The reason why I ask this is because too many women forget to use "selfishness" rationally when facing relationships, which leads to their own "unfortunateness".
Basically, selfishness is not a complete derogatory term.
Especially in the concept of positive happiness and luck, reasonable selfishness is a sunny internal driving force that triggers people's self-correction and transformation.
What is love? Different people can give different definitions.
In fact, love is how "privileged" you are, it will be exchanged for how others care and cherish it. The clearer you have in your perception of being cared for and cherished, the deeper you feel about love.
Of course, love needs to go in both directions, and the perception of love requires mutual feelings.
But how many women have forgotten to make themselves valuable and forget that one-way efforts are self-deprecating?
It can be said that women who are unhappy in their relationship are mostly "selfish" women who do not know how to love themselves.
Love, don’t pay overload, and don’t cater to it without any bottom line.
Only when you become more reasonable and valuable first can you keep a love by your side for a long time.
In the relationship between men and women, a woman with good fate is a cute "selfish ghost"! (Don’t believe it)
What is reasonable selfishness?
completely requires others to do things according to their own standards, which is unreasonable selfishness.
According to your favorite, creating a noble self, and using reasonable methods to achieve your wishes in order to obtain the happiness and luck you expect is called "reasonable selfishness".
Why did the man who once kept saying that he loved you changed his heart?
In addition to the fact that this man himself does have misconduct and lack of responsibility, many times, as a woman, you have to admit:
You do not have the ability to be loved for a long time.
Because in this relationship, you don’t know how to be reasonable and selfish and be kind to yourself.
In the relationship between men and women, men are driven by the desire to conquer and possessive, and are enthusiastic and proactive towards a woman. At the same time, men will regard women as their best life partner and spiritual dependant because they are reasonably praised, encouraged and supported by women.
The author of "Carnegie's Lifetime Happiness Advice for Women" Carnegie once said:
Women's key points to achieve success and happiness lies in self-esteem, self-respect, courage and confidence.
Looking around, women in a relationship between men and women, those who feel that their relationship life is not going well are all those who lack self-esteem, self-esteem, courage and confidence in Carnegie's words, and some lack of losers.
When facing feelings, women must remember the following key points of happiness:
1: The bottom line is more important than catering
In the relationship between men and women, some women will not set a bottom line or lower the bottom line repeatedly because they are afraid of losing it. Over time, they will spoil men!
Some women mistakenly think that they have set a bottom line, but the facts prove that her bottom line is not reasonable!
The reasonable bottom line is not that men do something that makes you unhappy, you insist on stopping the man or forcing the man to admit your mistakes.
The reasonable bottom line is words and deeds that touch the principles, such as he cannot be sincere to you, he cannot betray you, he cannot consider your feelings, he cannot empathize with you, he cannot share and share with you...
When facing a man who loves deeply, some women are prone to lose themselves. I believe that as long as I "follow" the man, then the man will not leave him.
In fact, a reasonable bottom line is to tell men:
I love you deeply, but I absolutely must you. Things that touch the bottom line will never be allowed. In particular, not allowing yourself to pay overload is an act that is the first to go against your reasonable bottom line.
A woman who retains a reasonable bottom line will create a sense of crisis for men, so that his subjective consciousness will change for you because he is afraid of losing.
2: It is recommended to be more practical than commands
"The Happiness Advice for Women Writing to Women", Carnegie tells women a realistic truth in a casual way:
Women are more keen on what to command others to do, rather than let others do. Women are more willing to use a commanding tone than suggestions.
In the relationship between men and women, we see more women, and the Lion in Hedong shouted at their men roaringly. At first, men will change with such "anger".
After a long time, men become tired, tired, and annoyed.
You should know that getting the password for long-term harmony between men and women is not tired of getting along.
And in the process of getting along, the password that allows women to gain long-term happiness is to take suggestions to men instead of commands, so that men can first gain comfort in communication, and gain benefits from men’s suggestions. In this way, men will make changes with their own consciousness!
3: Don’t stop being beautiful and capable
"The Happiness Advice for Women Writing to Women", Carnegie said: Being an understanding and considerate woman is charming.
However, in real life, we will find that women who are deeply loved by men, who truly make men feel that women who are understanding, considerate and charming are mostly women who have infinite "value of existence".
cares about a woman's appearance and figure, which is a man's lustful nature. Therefore, if a woman wants to maintain her beauty, she must have exquisite makeup and figure, while wearing delicate and decent clothes.
This is not to please the man, but to keep the man's eyes bright and satisfy his desire to keep his attention on him for a long time.
In addition, women should not stop being able to do it! The so-called competence means not to lose the ability to live and survive. We should be yourself and help men's lives wonderfully in an independent state.
In this way, you can be indispensable in men's hearts.
In the relationship between men and women, the reasonable selfishness of women is the best love for themselves!
Most of the women with good fate are cute "selfish ghosts" in the eyes of men. Because they use various clever little tricks to make the man who first ran towards her for love love last for a long time or warmth. Such a cute "selfish ghost" like
has her own reasonable bottom line and will never completely place hope on men; she will work hard to make money and study, and she is her own sense of security.
"Carnegie's Happiness Advice for Women" also talks about:
You should think about your lover, be able to "bear" to your lover nagging, "reason" to deal with your lover's humility, and men should be "general manager"!
In other words, women's efforts to men should be felt proudly.
In other words, if you also want to be a cute selfish ghost in the eyes of men, then you have to make your own three points give and be felt more than five points.
You can love a man very much, but you must never overdraw yourself for this love.
The book "Carnegie's Happiness Advice for Women" is called the Bible that is popular because it stands from a broader perspective on marriage and love, and with a very pertinent attitude, it brings women the most suitable advice for marriage and love choices.
text At this point, I recommend the book "Carnegie's Lifetime Happiness Advice for Women" to readers in need.
Let me explain that I am not a book seller, but I just recommend it to everyone when I see a good book. If you need it, I will really gain something! (Because someone reads me with a book, he will send a private message saying that I did something other than writing "unregular")
"Carnegie's Lifetime Happiness Advice for Women" is inexpensive. It is a treasure book I have read more than five times. Whether it is work, life, or marriage, it will give people the deepest inspiration and alertness. If you are interested, buy it and read it!
Love is the purgatory of people in the world. Whether it is love or friendship, only by meeting the right person at the right time can you achieve the right result!
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Topic discussion: Do you think you are the cute "selfish ghost" who loves men deeply? Leave the comments below to the comments you are not comfortable with!
