No matter what kind of interpersonal relationships it is, the relationship between people will be linked to chat. A good way of chatting will give people a feeling of being bathed in spring breeze, while a bad way of chatting will make people feel that saying one more sentence is a torment.
Master Xuecheng once said this: "What you say is actually you in the eyes of others. Everyone wants to change their destiny. Speaking well means changing their destiny."
In a gender relationship, a person's communication method will promote each other's feelings well. After all, chat is the key to improving intimacy.
Recent effect : What happened recently will leave a deep impression on people
A and B have been friends with good relationships since elementary school, and they both know each other’s preferences very well.
But recently, A was in a very bad mood because some unpleasant things happened at home. Sometimes, B even inexplicably accepts his anger when talking to him.
Later, because of an accidental incident, A was involved in a theft case, and then B thought that A had been deceiving himself for so long.
plus he had endured negative emotions from A for a long time, so he and A broke off friendship, without thinking about how close they were in the beginning.
This is the proximal effect in psychology. When people interact, the first impression is very important, so both of them are in a state of incomprehension at this stage. Therefore, the quality of the first impression determines whether the subsequent development of the two people is benign or negative.
However, in the later stages of their relationship, they were already in a very familiar state, so the effect of the first impression at this time is not so strong. At this time, the proximal effect is shown.
is like going out for a seven-day trip on National Day. You will remember what happened on the first day, but you will remember what happened on the last day.
The proximal effect refers to a psychological effect that the latest stimulants can promote the formation of impressions, which means that the final direction of the story can be more deeply rooted in people's hearts.
It can be seen from this that when men and women interact, the way to end chat is also a matter that needs to be paid attention to.
When communicating, women who like to "end" like this are usually very high emotional intelligence
Many women complain that their peach blossoms are not prosperous, but if you check the details of their daily relationship with the opposite sex, you will find a trace of clues.
"Yes", "OK", "OK", "Good", "Go to bed early", etc. are all their common way to end chat. At first glance, there is no big problem, but if you look closely, you will find that after these conclusions, there is usually no following.
Because this way of chatting is not a big deal if it is placed between friends, but it will feel a little stiff when it is placed between genders.
The stiff ending is like listening to a nice song and suddenly stopping, and the warming of each other will be forced to end. Therefore, if you want to enhance each other's relationship, you need to start from the chat ending.
For example, if you really have something to do, don’t suddenly disappear, but explain to the other party the reason why you can’t continue to accompany you, not that you really don’t want to talk to the other party;
For example, at the end of the chat, please affirm the content of the other party’s chat today, such as “I’m very happy to chat with you today”, “You are really interesting to talk to you, today is the day I laugh the most”, etc., such as ending, will make the other party impatiently welcome the next chat with you;
For example, when saying good night, add another sentence to another sentence, it will not be so hasty and stiff, such as “cover the quilt and don’t catch a cold”, “Looking forward to chatting with you next time”, etc., just a few words are enough to tease the other party’s heartstrings and make him toss and turn.
language is the second famous brand of a person in interpersonal communication
One sentence can make things happen, one sentence can also make things bad, sometimes one sentence can make a good love, and sometimes one sentence can make a relationship fall apart.
It can be seen from this that mastering the way of speaking plays an important role in promoting interpersonal relationships.
Of course, if we can consider the problem from the other party’s perspective when chatting, then the role of language will be more effective with half the effort.
After all, something more intrinsic and higher-level than "art" is the understanding of others and oneself. Speaking from the other person's perspective is the true essence of the way of speaking.
In gender relations, language is the material that can most directly expose a person. Even if you speak, the other party can roughly estimate what kind of person you are.
Therefore, we need to express ourselves rationally and learn to use chat methods reasonably. As Cai Kangyong said: "The more you know how to speak, the happier others will be. The happier others will be, the more you will like you; the more others like you, the more help you will be, and the happier you will be."
