It is difficult to break up. Being abandoned or abandoned is a double difficulty. One can assure himself that "everything goes in this direction" and even decide that it is mutual. But in fact, everything is decided for you. And it hurts a lot.
As a result, abandoned people are very fragile and often "retreat". Losing confidence makes it difficult to communicate with relatives, friends, neighbors, and colleagues. After all, it is said that everything has a reason: if they quit, then, there may be a reason.
Don’t laugh at yourself, don’t blame yourself
your pros and cons, analyze the situation. Try to rethink your behavior. All of this only makes sense over time. Furthermore, it is impossible to say exactly how long it will take.
For some people, one month is enough. For some people, even a year is not enough. After you get stuck in facts, the last thing you need is introspection. It is best to focus on other components of life - work, hobbies, loved ones.
Don't vent your anger and bitterness on others.
The often abandoned people act according to the principles of burnt huts and barns. That is, gap-related crises become the cause of negligence towards work (until being fired), attitude towards oneself (one no longer takes care of oneself).
The abandoned person manages to argue with someone who should not be responsible for this situation at all. We have to remember that besides the relationship, you have left and taken care of it.
people come and go
Remember your high school love. Smile. Then count the classmates you meet at least once every six months. Smile again. Yes, you are sad and lonely now.
But after a while, your life will be full of communication with others. And, maybe, there will be one very close. With it, you, perhaps, will be separated from time, and this time it is yours.
Don't try to restore the relationship
This is a path to nowhere. Even if you manage to restore the face of your relationship after being abandoned, you will not be able to spend the day yourself without fear of being abandoned/descended again.
In addition, such an attempt will not only reduce your self-esteem, but also significantly reduce your position in the eyes of others. Only in low-quality books, or even in poor-quality dramas, can loyalty to traitors be rewarded.
Don't rush to establish new relationships
Of course, going to the monastery is not worth it. But having an extramarital affair with someone who left you is not an option. At least because you are the same as those who left you. You play with other people's feelings.
