In love, timely stop loss is never "cowardly", but a kind of wisdom.
The best view of love for adults should be "dare to love and hate" rather than "stop the mud".
The reason why a person cannot let go of this relationship is not necessarily because of love, but more because of his own unwillingness.
is precisely because it falls into the effect of " sunk cost ", so it is impossible for me to get out of the dilemma of thinking.
Only by giving up early can you usher in a better life.
If you are always "consuming" in bad relationships, what you consume is your future.
So, under what circumstances should you give up this relationship?
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You always "over-paying"
Share a consulting case with you:
This is the story of a female reader. She just ended her previous relationship and soon fell into a new relationship.
, however, both relationships are bad.
broke up with her ex because she gave a lot of money to her ex, until her ex squeezed out her final value and kicked her away.
When she arrived in the second relationship, she thought she had met a boy who "loved herself and understood herself", but she didn't expect that she would be more excessive than her ex.
My boyfriend is 6 years younger than her, and his income is not as good as hers, and his family conditions are not as good as hers. The only advantage of
is probably: young and beautiful.
What is magical?
The two have been in love for more than two years, and their current colleague has never mentioned marriage to her.
htmlIn more than 2002 years, she spent more than 200,000 yuan on her current employee.When she said to her current employee, "I have spent enough money for you, are you planning to marry me?"
The current employee's face was undoubtedly revealed, and she said to her:
"If you can buy me a car worth 200,000, I will marry you, which will make me feel proud."
implied: "You are so old, why should I marry you?" I believe everyone can guess the final outcome of
.
She broke up again. In both relationships, she was both "dedicated + pleasing personality".
You must understand the truth of love:
There is only one person's efforts, and the relationship cannot be sustained.
Because the more you give, the less you don’t cherish you. This is “confidence is not afraid”.
If the water is full, it will overflow, and the extreme will turn the opposite.
gives with reservations, and the other party will respond to you; giving without reservations will only cultivate the other party into a "ungratitude" person.
What is this like?
Every day when you get home from get off work, you will give the beggar 10 yuan.
One day, you only have 5 yuan left on you, and the beggar asked you:
"Why do you give me half?"
and then threw 5 yuan to you.
If you pay too much, the other party will not know how to be grateful to you.
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"Suppressing Sexual Partner" (Accusation Type Partner)
Is your partner accusation type partner?
Simply put, it is:
He always hits you, belittles you, mocks you, and rarely praises you.
is with such people:
First of all, you will become less and less confident.
is constantly belittled and ridiculed by him, and you may even doubt yourself:
"Am I really that bad? Am I really so bad?"
punishes yourself with his mistakes.
Secondly, in his suppression, you are increasingly unable to integrate into intimate relationships.
You just want to escape, but every word of his is stuck in your heart and makes you unable to escape.
This is a bit like " Stockholm syndrome ".
People are prone to fall in love with the person who keeps hurting themselves.
Even when socializing or getting along with your family, you will become flattering because you are used to the pattern of pleasing the other person after being "doned".
Finally, you will lose all your dignity.
Dignity is given by oneself.
You respect yourself enough and you won’t give the other party a chance to hurt you.
If you allow the other party to attack you and belittle you, it means disrespecting your own behavior.
If you are unfortunate and happen to meet a criticized partner, please stay away from him in time.
What he brings to you is only emotional trauma and only negative emotional value.
Leave him, you will find that you are very happy every day.
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always avoids problems, cold-handling contradictions
He made a mistake and rarely took the initiative to bow his head to admit his mistakes, but instead responded to you in a cold-handling manner.
You made a mistake, but he kept holding on and forcing you to take an apology.
This is the "double standard".
When you want to communicate with him, he responds to you with indifference;
When you are enthusiastic and proactive, he responds to you with perfunctory;
Every time you are honest, it is his disrespect. Will you be happy with a love model like
?
People who are used to dealing with problems in a cold manner are often unreliable.
You can think about your marriage:
If you marry the other person, you are living " widowed marriage ".
is lonely, helpless, emotions are ignored, and emotions are not taken seriously. Is life like
what you want?
No matter what, please be sure to keep your eyes open and choose a partner.
If the current relationship brings you more pain than happiness and sadness than happiness, then leave bravely.
stop loss in time is the greatest respect for yourself.
Today’s topic:
Do you think you should give up whenever you go?
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