13 marriage, 10 years of sexless marriage, and after suffering from loneliness, my heart is blank.
Story provider: 46-year-old sister Yang
My husband and I have been married for 13 years, but we have been separated for 10 years. Living a pure friendship and marriage between husband and wife during the day and brothers at night.
My surname is Yang, I am 46 years old, and I run a curtain store.
My husband is six years younger than me. He works as a small employee in a large unit, not seeking progress but only seeking a stable retirement.
When I was young, I just wanted to start a career, but because I couldn’t find a suitable partner, I didn’t get married until I was 32 years old.
At that time, I was introduced to me by my husband as a relative.
Others don’t talk much, they just say that his work of nine to five days off is very suitable for taking care of children and picking up and dropping off children in the future.
I can manage my store with all my heart and don’t have to worry about the trivial matters at home. He takes care of it all.
So, we got married after we were together for half a year without any major conflicts.
However, the married life is not what he said I thought.
Not only does he not care about his family and children, he also has endless dinners every day.
But those dinner parties were not with colleagues or leaders, but his retired uncles and uncles.
They formed a consensus that each person will take turns treating guests in one meal.
His relatives, after retirement, all have tens of thousands of yuan in pensions.
And he only has three or four thousand yuan a month, and his living expenses are not enough, but he has already lived with them in retirement and retirement.
Go to high-end places to eat and drink, and the minimum meal is seven or eight hundred.
I followed them to fish on the weekend, and there were a lot of fishing tools at home.
He also learned to raise fish and turtles, and slowly changed from a palm-sized fish tank to an ecological fish tank as big as , which is as big as dining table .
And I, while taking care of the baby, was too busy but had nowhere to accuse me.
Even if he is at home, he is still guarding his fish tank and can sit there for half a day.
The kind of legs that don’t move even if they sit numb.
I have been arguing, but he ignored me and let me sing a solo show at home alone.
Several times I wanted to smash his fish tank and deflated.
I thought of the tank and fish I bought for so much money, and I put my hands silently down.
We have always been in the AA system since we got married. This is what I proposed because my income is much higher than his.
The down payment, decoration of the house you bought after marriage, as well as furniture and appliances, are half the price per person.
He has low income and high expenses, and he overdraws his credit card every month.
He asked me to borrow money to repay it many times because he couldn't afford it, but I refused.
thinks he is not worth it!
Because of this, our relationship after marriage became increasingly stiff.
There was no choice, so I sent my daughter to the early education center when she was one and a half years old and to the kindergarten when she was two and a half years old.
I thought I would be much more relaxed after my daughter went to kindergarten.
However, in fact, I'm even more tired.
I have to pick her up at around five o'clock every day, then go home to cook, and then finish the housework accumulated at home.
And my husband always comes back to eat, and after eating, he sits in front of the fish tank and watches the fish without moving.
If my daughter goes to play with him, he will say he is very busy and encourage his daughter to find me.
I coaxed my daughter to sleep every night. I had no strength and even felt that I was overdrawn in my breathing.
has no other thoughts except to have a good night's sleep.
We went to each class during the day without meeting each other, and we communicated very little, and the conversation at night was even shorter than a few words.
"too tired", "not wanting", "not interested"...
There are so many times, my husband no longer looks for me, and I don't even have the chance to say these rejection words.
Slowly, we seemed to have formed a tacit understanding, and he moved to the guest room to sleep consciously. After sleeping in the room, we became neighbors living under the same roof.
This neighbor has been doing it for ten years.
We have no communication and interaction, and even when we meet at home, we don’t have a smile.
None of us wants to take the initiative to change, but instead feels that this is more comfortable.
family has not yet broken up, and the children have parents around them, so let’s live like this.
