Only change in the world is unchanging. In other words, change is the norm. For everything, the state at this time is no longer the state at that time. And as a person, this is even more so.
Wang Xiao’s new work "Always pass, always comes" is a book about narrating self-growth and changes. This book revolves around the author himself and talks about entrepreneurship, life, parenting and other issues, thus demonstrating the author's physical and mental growth and strength.
Among them, the book tells us eight life principles that we should have known earlier.
Main 1: Make the choice correct.
The author said: There is no completely correct choice. What you choose, then you must turn it into the right choice.
There are countless forks in the road of life. Sometimes you decide where to go. At this time, some people choose to give up and turn around; some people choose to continue and take the path that they originally did not have.
Seven years ago, in order to experience a new life, Wang Xiao decided to be the editor-in-chief of "Fashion COSMO" magazine. But when she walked into it, she found that it was not as simple as she thought. But he did not give up his choice, but "learned as editor-in-chief". To this end, she gave a super serial tutoring and planned to hold the annual "Fashion COSMO Beauty Award". Through this incident, she gained valuable life experience: she must be able to understand needs, then sort out elements according to needs, and make good configurations, which is a real master of coordination.
Reason 2: The goal must be firm.
target can guide actions. But life goals are not determined first. Many times, life goals are gradually clear in the process of action.
Wang Xiao started his business and chose the wrong partner when he was working with others, which led to problems in entrepreneurship.
When she was skydiving in Hawaii, after thinking all night, she came to a conclusion: life lies in order, life lies in movement, action lies in sustainability, and growth lies in cycle enhancement.
believes that this will work hard for it. No matter what accident occurs, you should not give up. As it turns out, what she later engaged in "before early" was something she believed in and insisted on.
Reason 3: You must know how to save yourself. It is not scary to have problems with
, and finding a way to solve the problem is the key.
When the online APP did not meet Wang Xiao's ideas, she did not simply make a decision, but instead tortured herself in the Shura field. After ideological struggles, she made it clear that letting the company live is a belief.
For this reason, she adjusted her direction and started the road to self-rescue. A lot of work has been done in seven steps, including timely stop loss, make up cash, betting on tomorrow, clarifying the crisis, retaining user information, raising life-sustaining funds, and sales docking, which finally helped the company get out of the predicament.
is in a difficult situation. Relying on the sky and the earth is a passive move. The key is to learn to take the initiative and find a way to save yourself.
Reason 4: Do a good job in time management.
Anyone who makes achievements in a certain field has his own set of logic in time management.
Wang Xiao said that the goal of time management is to make it more free. Here, this freedom is a relatively broad concept, including freedom of time, freedom of body, freedom of soul and financial freedom.
In terms of managing time, she specifically pointed out that it is not because of who is, how to allocate time, but because of who wants to become, and then allocate time according to the time it takes to become this person. In other words, it is the goal, behavior and time of giving that defines people. The time you allocate, in turn, shapes you.
Reason 5: Strengthen concentration.
Focus is a state of whole-body and mind-boggling when doing things, and an immersion state that points to the target, that is, the flow state.
really appreciates a sentence from Qian Zhongshu : "Take a bath, look at a flower, eat a meal, even if you feel happy, it is not entirely because the bath is clean, the flowers are blooming well, or the dishes are in line with your taste, mainly because you have no worries in your heart."
In our study and work, in order to be efficient, we attach great importance to this investment. But in life, most people treat it casually.
Wang Xiao stressed that no matter what you do, you should work hard.
is a vacation and you should also focus on your investment. She had never been able to do it before, with the help of Mr. Ye and the external forces of seeking but not getting what she wanted, she had always pursued happiness. To her phone, it means: identifying the beauty of the present, immersing it in it, and remembering the current moment.
The sixth reason: Make good use of the positive feedback mechanism.
Choosing to give birth means choosing continuous surprises. And this surprise is of course accompanied by parents' education for their children.
Of course, everyone's birth has their own factory settings. Parents have their own methods to educate their children. Wang Xiao believes that it is very important to make good use of the positive feedback mechanism.
For example, when asking about the daughter about painting, the couple negotiated, one of them was responsible for praising the daughter's painting actions, while Wang Xiao was responsible for praising the works and results. After praising each round, my daughter drew more and more.
For example, they continued to use the positive feedback mechanism and praised the question as a sports child.
However, the positive feedback mechanism is not applicable to all hobbies. For a person, some abilities are lacking. No matter how you develop them, the results will be very different from what you expect. For example, Wang Xiao and his daughter’s choice for piano is an ineffective pursuit.
Reason 7: Take care of the small fire.
Everyone has his own small fire, that is his parents' home. When you are weak or tired, what you most desire is to return to your parents’ fire, get warmth and safety from there, and draw light and energy from there.
When a person gets married, he will have a new fire. After having children, new parents will also train their children by the fire: to help them strengthen their children in ability and to warm them psychologically.
Whether it is a congenital relative or acquired relative, the "fire principle" should be maximized, and even after leaving the fire, you can live a warm and safe life.
Reason 8: Walk with your lover.
The true companion is to accompany each other and grow together. They even shape each other in the process of traveling with each other.
Wang Xiao and her husband Mr. Ye in life, spur each other. When Wang Xiao announced that he would focus on writing new books for three hours every night. Her husband, Mr. Ye, was touched. Eleven days later, he proposed to follow his wife's goal and focus on fitness for three hours every day. Until now, Mr. Ye has been practicing fitness for ten years.
The only partner that is not destined to be suitable for you in the world. The real partner is created and influenced by each other.
Of course, everyone’s life experience cannot be copied, but we can learn from it and learn from it the profound thoughts and excellent practices to allow ourselves to grow rapidly.
