Schopenhauer once said: "Life is a ball of desire. If the desire is not satisfied, it will be painful, and if it is satisfied, it will be boring. Life is swaying between pain and boredom."
A young couple comes to accompany him when they are old. When they are old, they need the company of their spouse. If the spouse goes to the children's house to take care of their children, the old man will feel lonely at home alone. If the couple goes to take care of their children together, it will be inconvenient for their children's house.
In life, some old men who can't stand loneliness will lie to the outside world that they are single old people when their wife goes to their children's house to take care of their children, hoping to meet the "beauty of their lives" to relieve the loneliness of their elderly people.
However, people are doing things and God is watching, and cause and effect are "reward". Mr. Zhou, 66, was lonely and unbearable during his wife's stay at his son's house in the south. He met the so-called "confidant in the evening" in the square. He didn't want Hongyan to know where she lives, so he often took her to the hotel to "eminent" with her at .
, but there was an accident. His beauty took her good sisters to the hotel. After the three of them agreed to be together, Mr. Zhou gave them a red envelope of 200 yuan each. However, after they were "fatted", they felt that there was still time, so they played cards in the hotel. Unexpectedly, Uncle Zhou was too powerful, and won back the red envelope money sent back to .
Uncle Zhou's confidante quit and insisted that Uncle Zhou return it to them. Uncle Zhou felt that he won by his ability and would never return it. Uncle Zhou's beauty actually called the police. They were taken away by the police as "prostitution" and notified their family members, and fined them, and even lost people. Uncle Zhou's wife came back and liberated Uncle Zhou with a divorce agreement .
Now Mr. Zhou regrets it now. He doesn't go out of the door and can only stay at home to watch TV series. 's happiness in his later years was destroyed by his own desires.
Conveyor: 66-year-old Mr. Zhou
The first half of his life, there is a chance to have a family
I am 66 years old this year, retired for 6 years, and my salary increased several times. Now I have almost 5,000 yuan in pension. My only son started a family and started a business in the south. It was time to enjoy a beautiful old age life, but because of my "desire", not only ruined my happy days in my old age, but also made my son resent me in his heart. My wife also left me and we divorced.
Think about my wife and I have been with us for 40 years. How could she abandon me so cruelly? I just made a "mistake that men in the world make". I know I was wrong, and I was fined, despised by my son, despised by my neighbors, and wanted me to do what I wanted to do. I had to force me to death. Do my wife feel happy?
Some people say that men have harder hearts, I think women are old and harder hearts. When I was young, my wife was very tolerant of me. No matter what I did wrong, she could be considerate and accommodate me. As long as I was healthy, it would be fine.
I remember that in the years when our company was reorganized, my salary was only half. I ate a meal at home, and my wife kept eating with me and my son. She said she liked to use meat soup to eat it, and she felt it was so delicious. In fact, I know that my wife feels sorry for my son and I. She thinks that I work as a physical work. My son is healthy and she is not tired of logistics work, so she doesn’t eat delicious food.
At that time, as long as I think of having hot meals when I go home and a cup of tea handed over by my wife, I feel that it’s great to have home. Life is full of hope. No matter how hard or tired I feel outside , I feel so much wronged, and when I see my wife’s smiling face, I am happy .
days passed without passing. After my wife retired at the age of 50, I enjoyed a few years of happy time. She was out of clothes and reached out to eat. My wife got up early to make love breakfast for me and brought me a "warm lunch". There were warm millet porridge and foot washing water with appropriate water temperature. Think about such days, I was the "master" treatment in the past.
My wife went to her son's house to take care of her child for 3 years, and she could only endure
"food and enough to think about lust". After people satisfy their food and enough, they will breed more desires. Sometimes I see that my own conditions are not as good as mine, and I have envied and have thoughts like this.No one can say that anyone is "high". Most men have such a mind, but the weight in men's pockets is not enough and they have no capital to realize it.
Later, my wife went to my son’s house in the south to take care of her child for three years. I had a thief heart but no courage because there was a unit that controlled it. If I lost my later years because of this, it would be a "unfair and unreasonable" confusion.
Whenever I have such a mind, I will "consume" like others. After satisfying my desire, I regret it. I hope that I can retire early and be free. will find a confidante for the rest of my life, which will not have to spend money, but also satisfy my vanity.
During the three years my wife was at my son’s house, I came here cautiously, saying that I didn’t want my wife to be fake, and saying that I had never done that was also a deception to God. What is lonely is not the lack of company, but the tolerance when desires cannot be released, which is indeed the "destroying human desires".
In the eyes of the world, the elderly should be dignified, polite, kind and friendly, let go of their desires and enjoy the joy of family. If a man still has any desire, others praise you on the surface for not getting old, but secretly mock him for being "disrespectful to the old" and "unfairly being serious".
After retirement, I had a wrong idea. After I met Hongyan, I thought my wife could come back, but my son had a second child at home. My wife asked me to follow me and rent a house to live there. In this way, multiple people could help me help me, but before I could enjoy a wonderful retirement life, I rejected my wife's request.
Retirement means letting yourself go. When chatting with many old men in the square, I found that some old men clearly have a home but lied that they are single elderly people, and have housing and social security and medical insurance. will have many women willing to interact with such old men. Sometimes when I look at their happy look of "stick" together, I feel itchy inside.
Once, in the park of , Xicheng District, , a woman in her 50s asked me if I was single? I saw that she looked pretty good and didn't look that old, so I lied that I was alone.
Unexpectedly, the woman took the initiative to chat with me. As she said , she added WeChat to each other. The woman affectionately called me "big brother", which made me feel warm. That afternoon, I invited the woman to have supper.
The woman made small movements on me intentionally or unintentionally, which made me feel itchy, but I didn’t dare to cross the line, so I could only endure it. Just like that, after we had a few times, the woman said to go to my house to have a look. I didn't dare to let her know where my home was, so I pretended not to care and didn't hear what she said. took her to the "hour room" in the hotel to rest.
Every time we have been there, I will take the initiative to send her WeChat red envelopes, sometimes more, sometimes less. In fact, I am also afraid of being seen by acquaintances or something bad happens, so I am always careful.
Who knew that one day the woman took her best friend to a hotel to rest with us. The woman whispered to me that made me more generous. This time each person gave them a red envelope of 200 yuan, so I didn't know how to lose, and I also enjoyed different treatments.
After we got tired of it, we saw that it was still early, and the woman’s best friend said to play cards. The one who brings to the actual combat is , which is to play money. Unexpectedly, I was lucky that day and soon won the red envelope money I gave them. It was time to check out.
The woman asked me to return the winning money to them. I was reluctant to do so because I was so proud! I feel that I am not only mighty, but also very powerful. Unexpectedly, the woman called the police by accident.
is so embarrassing and generous. I became a typical example. I appeared in the headlines of newspapers in the city. I was also recorded and posted on the Internet by a rioter. I was fined, lost people, or lost my own family.
Desire satisfaction, but ruins the happiness of old age
In life, most people think that sex life is the patent of young people, and the sexual needs of the elderly are like a disaster! Before , everyone tacitly avoided talking about . Once someone "makes an embarrassment", everyone will point the finger at him and exaggerate normal physiological needs as addiction and delusion.
I saw on the Internet that the elderly people on the blind date corner of in the Changpu River Park in Beijing, some elderly people bluntly said that they came here to meet their physiological needs, but were criticized by the Internet, "The older they are, the thicker they are." "A group of shameless old men!" "Don't do serious things, and they are full of men and women prostitutes."
Can the desires of the elderly be hidden to meet the ideal elderly?
People should not be ashamed of having desires, but what is shameful is that satisfying desires is illegal . Elderly people with family and companions should consider more for their children, think more about decades of companionship, and not ruin their old age that could have been happy because of the satisfaction of desires.
is here, and we also call on young people not to easily break up their parents when they need help from their parents, otherwise it will be a disaster for the family.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
Follow my words and enter your heart. You have stories, I have tea, let’s talk about the rest of my life together.
The pictures in the article are from the Internet.
