In a flash, I reached the age of 41. After experiencing a lot of things, I also thought about it. From now on, I can only make my life more meaningful and valuable by doing the following three things. →01. [Hundred Good Filial Piety First] - Honoring your father must be the first

I have reached the age of 41 in a flash. After experiencing a lot of things, I also thought about something. From now on, I can only make my life more meaningful and valuable by doing the following three things.

→ 01. [ filial piety comes first ] - Honoring your father must be the first priority

Many netizens will ask questions when they see this: "What about your mother?" In fact, my mother in 2016 Passed away due to sudden cardiac death on October 6 at the age of 60.

My father lives alone now. Every time I see him getting older and think of the hardships my parents put in raising me, I can’t help but feel sad. Why couldn’t I fulfill my filial piety to my mother when she was alive?

Over the past few years, I have realized: Is it useful to think of filial piety only after my mother passed away? Spending money on a grand funeral and observing mourning for three years are all insubstantial things. They are all for others to see and have no meaning at all.

What I can do in the future is: serve my father with all my heart, and be there for him when he needs help when he is alive; take more time to accompany my father, talk to him, listen to his father talk about trivial matters in life; give him More spiritual care; this is my filial piety.

In fact, everyone’s parents don’t ask for much. What they want is not the material life given by their children, but the true love, companionship, care and greetings from their children to their parents.

→02. [Smoking is harmful to health] —Quiting smoking

Everyone knows that smoking is harmful to health, and second-hand smoke brings greater harm to family members. We create culture, create health, and create a smoke-free environment together, but why can’t we quit? ?

I also watched a lot of videos about "quitting smoking", talking about tips, methods, etc.; I also tried using e-cigarettes (which are more harmful to the body), and even used quit smoking patches and drugs, but the results were ineffective. What a good effect; I started smoking again after a while, but it actually increased my craving for cigarettes.

After reflecting on myself, saying that quitting smoking is difficult, painful, helpless, and annoying are all excuses; I also have friends around me who have successfully quit smoking. Determination and perseverance.

For the health of myself and my family, I made a resolution - to "quit smoking".

→03. [Vision and Pattern] —continuous learning and improving yourself

After I graduated from college (disclosure, my major is housing construction engineering), I was assigned to an internship in a state-owned company, and at the same time, there was also a person from the school who came in graduate. When they first joined the company, the construction team was busy with the master every day, setting out construction lines, copying levels, supervising on-site, learning to prepare construction plans, reading drawings at night, and familiarizing themselves with construction technical specifications, etc. After a few months, I began to complain because I was arrogant and arrogant. The work was too tiring and the salary was not high. Can't I find a better job based on my academic qualifications? So I kept calling and getting ready to change jobs.

In contrast, my new colleague was very calm and tried to persuade me to stay calm from time to time. As a result, I changed jobs in the fifth month and went to a private company (the salary was good at the time).

2 years have passed. Through hard study and summary, my colleague has improved rapidly. He has become the deputy leader of the construction team, and has also been rated as assistant engineer (a university graduate who has been engaged in professional and technical work for more than one year). The salary has also gone up, and there is a lot of room for promotion in the next step, and I am still just a construction worker in a private company.

I only saw the immediate benefits and did not consider the long-term development direction. I set myself in a small circle and wasted precious time.

So, my vision determines my pattern and also affects my destiny.

"If you live every day as if it is your last day, then one day you will find that you are right."

This is a famous saying said by Steve Jobs, the co-founder of Apple. With our current vision and structure, can we really understand the meaning of this sentence? The answer is: "No".

So What should we do? Here's me. Here are some ways to improve your own horizons, I hope they can be helpful to you:

Method 1: Definitely read more books, buy them in bookstores or browse them online; you can also listen to books and listen to some inspiring books. Here is a quote from Toutiao. A quote from a big V in the field: "Human's absorption capacity is limited. As long as we can absorb 20% of the essence of a book, it is enough. "So, listening to books is also a relatively efficient reading behavior for us.

Reduce some unnecessary socializing and time for watching gossip news, and immerse yourself in the world of books. As the amount of reading increases, the horizons and your horizons will naturally broaden. Reading and listening can also make you Calm your mind.

Method 2: If you have the conditions and time, go and appreciate the beautiful rivers and mountains of our country, appreciate the uncanny workmanship of nature, and feel the customs of the ethnic minorities.

Method 3: Very straightforward, look. Take a look at the headlines Articles from big Vs in various fields (you can learn a variety of knowledge in different fields), understand what they think about an event or point of view? What is the direction of their thinking about the problem? It’s helpful. Another advantage is that you can improve your own skills by the way. Writing ability!

In summary, these are the three things I must do after I turn 41. I have always believed in a saying: "If you continue to study hard and improve your thinking logic, vision and structure, you will eventually be able to write." Will be successful in a certain field. "

or above, I hope to encourage you.