Text | Ms. Bai
Likes to eat the same food frequently
People with a dependent personality often have choice difficulty . They are not good at changing and do not like to try. The same is true for eating.
like to eat the same food frequently, because the familiar taste makes them feel safe and comfortable. They can even eat the same dish every day.
Do one thing repeatedly, eat the same thing repeatedly, be paranoid and single-minded, if you get it right, you will stick to it.
feels depressed and insecure, so he doesnāt want to choose or choose.
For them, although it is inherently fun to try something new, there are also certain risks. Instead of trying and failing, it is better to live in their own comfort zone.
Not good at social interaction
Hate social situations with many people and strangers
People with a dependent personality basically have social phobia, are not good at social interaction, prefer to accept strangers, hate crowded and lively places, and prefer to be alone and quiet.
If you go to an unfamiliar place with many strangers, you will feel awkward and uneasy. Most of them will choose a corner that is not easily discovered and observe silently, without taking the initiative to get to know others.
When you are with someone you are not familiar with, you will feel awkward and uncomfortable. You will not take the initiative to speak and will only answer unless the other person asks.
Maybe itās because I hate other peopleās vaguely looking eyes, or maybe I donāt like the feeling of being alone, so when faced with invitations to social gatherings, I always find ways to refuse.
People who like to play singles on a loop
until they are tired of listening to
are often nostalgic and delicate people.
Listen to a song dozens or hundreds of times, repeating it endlessly until you get tired of it, then move on to the next song.
In fact, when listening to music, what you listen to is not the song itself, but a fragment, a story, and a past.
wants to escape the hurt of reality, has deep obsessions, lives in the past, and always hopes that the things he likes can always accompany him.
Every time they hear a song, they will fall into a certain state unknowingly, and scattered pictures will appear in their minds. This feeling of nostalgia, whether it is happiness or sadness, is what they are immersed in enjoying.
Emotional consumption
Spending money without restraint
If a person suppresses himself for a long time, he will want to find an outlet to vent his emotions, and it is easy for him to consume in revenge.
Spending money may not necessarily be because you really need something, but more just because you want to relieve your stress through shopping.
Especially when you are in a bad mood, anxious and insecure, you will like to hoard items or even consume uncontrollably.
Under the control of this feeling of helplessness and inferiority, a sense of world-weariness will arise in the heart, and one wants to spend all the money to have fun in time, and forget about spending all the money.
Such reckless consumption not only increases the financial burden, but also creates a strong sense of guilt afterwards, thus falling into a vicious circle.
No opinion
Overly dependent on others
Without the advice or confirmation of others, it is often difficult for people with a dependent personality to make decisions independently.
Because they have a serious lack of confidence in their own abilities, it is difficult for them to make decisions decisively when faced with choices, and they are always afraid of making mistakes, so they always struggle and procrastinate.
has no independent opinion in doing things. He often looks forward and backward, hesitates, finds it difficult to take the lead alone, and is willing to be in a subordinate position.
To put it bluntly, I am not confident. I always think that I am weak, incompetent, clumsy and stupid, and easily fall into a mood of anxiety and uneasiness.
Therefore, people are accustomed to obeying others and relying on others. They hope that someone can help them make decisions and solve problems for themselves. Once they lose someone they can rely on, they will become at a loss.
In the final analysis, people with a dependent personality lack a sense of security and belonging.
If you want to be truly powerful, you need to learn to face yourself and understand your deeper needs behind your dependence.
Learn to face the fear of the unknown and establish your own outlook on life and values. Only then will you have the strength to grow, transform, experience the joy of life, and become independent and strong.
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