Article丨Lu Jingxian
(Note: This article is a sister article from the previous article. It is also a supplement and continuation of the previous article)
Summary of this article:
1. Compared with academic qualifications, major is actually more important;
3 2. If a person wants to make achievements in a certain major or field, he should understand that the education of
does not play a big role, it is just a stepping stone;
and professional knowledge is just a skill, the most basic thing;
The main factor that really determines how far a person can go in a certain field is the person's comprehensive quality.
Can you make a comeback if you don’t have good grades in the college entrance examination?
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In the eyes of most of us, grades determine the quality of a child's future development and the quality of life (including life).
is clearly placed there because of the advantages of good grades: you can go to a good school, go to a good unit, and have good development prospects.
It can be said that having good results is equivalent to a bright future.
So, most of our children have spent decades of hard study to exchange for that thin but very important college entrance examination transcript.
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But is the college entrance examination score, including what school to go to, really the main factor that determines a person's future development and work quality?
I don't think so.
Why?
Because by my side, I have seen with my own eyes that several children who have poor grades in the college entrance examination and have only been admitted to college, have made a comeback when they come out of society.
For example, A (I also mentioned this in the previous article).
A was born in the countryside. His parents raised pigs and farmed, and tried their best to support him in school. A passed the hard work and was admitted to a third-rate college. After graduation, A began a cheating and inspiring life model: work smoothly, buying a house in the city, marrying a wife, having children, and bringing his parents to the city to live. A became a role model for people around him and around him.
and B.
Similarly, B's parents also work. The father earns money by driving motorcycles and his mother sells vegetables. B's family background is not very good, and B's grades are not very good. In the college entrance examination, B and A were also admitted to a second-rate or third-rate college. After graduation, B also did a very good job. In less than a few years, he paid the down payment for two houses in the city and became a middle-level cadre in the unit and was valued by the superiors.
C is the daughter of my colleague.
At the beginning, everyone didn't think much of her. Because her academic performance is not outstanding, she can be said to be mediocre, not good or bad. Similarly, she also got into a second- or third-rate university in the college entrance examination: a certain police officer college . The education is also a college degree. A colleague secretly joked: Everyone who came from this school worked as security guards.
Just after coming out of society for two or three years, C is still intern in a law firm. At that time, many of my peers were taking the civil service exam, and many of them had even entered the unit. And C is just an intern in a law firm. A colleague was already shaking his head secretly.
Another two or three years later, goodbye C, he is already a lawyer. Unlike another lawyer he knew appeared in court, the two acted on behalf of the plaintiff and the defendant respectively.
C, the future development will not be bad.
are all real examples around me.
They didn’t get good scores in the college entrance examination, and their education was also the lowest point: college. Moreover, their family background is not very good. It can be said that their parents can't help much as they come out of society. But they all made a counterattack on their own.
Why?
As a bystander, I think the most important factor that changes their destiny is: the major you are studying.
A and B, although their education is low, they are just college students. But their major is good, and when they come out of society, it is the time when the major needs a lot of people.
, and this major also pays specialization, and you cannot engage in work in this field without a graduation certificate in this field.
. Relatively speaking, they have fewer competitors as soon as they come out of society.
plus society’s urgent needs, so when they enter society to work in this field, they will naturally be like fish in water. The same is true for the success of
C. Although her starting point is low, she clarifies her employment direction and persists in persisting. In the end, success is natural.
So, what is the most important thing for a person to learn and develop?
I think that is a person’s choice and direction for future work (professional).
This is the most important thing.
, which seems to be very important on the surface, does not play any role here.
Why do you say that academic performance when you were young is not the most important
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In my opinion, children's grades are important when they are studying, but not the most important.
The most important thing is that children can clarify their future development direction and choices in the process of growth and learning.
This is the most important thing, but this is also the most difficult to do.
Because this is different from blindly reading, it requires thinking. And this thinking cannot be completed in one or two days. It can be several months at a short time, and it can take years at a long time.
This thinking requires connection and combination with one's own reality: What do I like? What am I good at? What do I want to do? Why?
Not only should we contact and combine our own reality, but we also need to have a certain understanding and understanding of reality and society, and have a certain amount of knowledge.
In this way, you can have a clear and scientific plan for your future development and direction.
Otherwise, it's just a fantasy or fantasy.
But what is actually going on?
is actually: Most of us children are blindly studying, just trying to pass the exam in front of us. A little further apart is that I hope to get into any school in the future.
, however, rarely think about what major you want to work in or what field you choose in the future.
If you think too much or far, it will be a dream and fantasy that is unrealistic.
This is really sad and a pity.
Because we are working hard and taking action in front of us, we are all for a certain goal and direction in the future.
But at this moment, we have not even figured out the goals and directions of our efforts, but are working hard. Isn’t it a pity? Is it sad?
or we regard getting a certain score in front of us and getting into a certain school as our learning goal, thinking that if we do all this, we will definitely not be bad in the future. But I have never thought about the specific development and planning in the future, that is, the direction. Like a headless fly, wherever it hits. Being merciless at the mercy of the so-called fate.
This is the case for many children who have studied hard for decades, obtained a university diploma, but cannot find a job after they come out of society.
Back to the previous article, A and B may have luck in it, and accidentally bump into a good major that suits you. Once you come out, you can find the right job smoothly and have good development prospects.
But for each of us, do we have to entrust our future career development and even our lives to this so-called luck and destiny?
No, we should take the initiative, think actively, and plan in advance. Even start thinking and planning early.
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Secondly, in addition to thinking and planning earlier, we should also make preparations in all aspects. That is, all aspects need to grow.
Because of true growth, it should be multi-faceted and comprehensive, not just one aspect. Article丨Lu Jingxian (Note: This article is a sister article from the previous article. It is also a supplement and continuation of the previous article) Summary of this article: 1. Compared with academic qualifications, major is actually more important; 3 2. If a person wants to make achievements in a certain major or field, he should understand that the education of does not play a big role, it is just a stepping stone; and professional knowledge is just a skill, the most basic thing; The main factor that really determines how far a person can go in a certain field is the person's comprehensive quality. Can you make a comeback if you don’t have good grades in the college entrance examination? 01 In the eyes of most of us, grades determine the quality of a child's future development and the quality of life (including life). is clearly placed there because of the advantages of good grades: you can go to a good school, go to a good unit, and have good development prospects. It can be said that having good results is equivalent to a bright future. So, most of our children have spent decades of hard study to exchange for that thin but very important college entrance examination transcript. 02 But is the college entrance examination score, including what school to go to, really the main factor that determines a person's future development and work quality? I don't think so. Why? Because by my side, I have seen with my own eyes that several children who have poor grades in the college entrance examination and have only been admitted to college, have made a comeback when they come out of society. For example, A (I also mentioned this in the previous article). A was born in the countryside. His parents raised pigs and farmed, and tried their best to support him in school. A passed the hard work and was admitted to a third-rate college. After graduation, A began a cheating and inspiring life model: work smoothly, buying a house in the city, marrying a wife, having children, and bringing his parents to the city to live. A became a role model for people around him and around him. and B. Similarly, B's parents also work. The father earns money by driving motorcycles and his mother sells vegetables. B's family background is not very good, and B's grades are not very good. In the college entrance examination, B and A were also admitted to a second-rate or third-rate college. After graduation, B also did a very good job. In less than a few years, he paid the down payment for two houses in the city and became a middle-level cadre in the unit and was valued by the superiors. C is the daughter of my colleague. At the beginning, everyone didn't think much of her. Because her academic performance is not outstanding, she can be said to be mediocre, not good or bad. Similarly, she also got into a second- or third-rate university in the college entrance examination: a certain police officer college . The education is also a college degree. A colleague secretly joked: Everyone who came from this school worked as security guards. Just after coming out of society for two or three years, C is still intern in a law firm. At that time, many of my peers were taking the civil service exam, and many of them had even entered the unit. And C is just an intern in a law firm. A colleague was already shaking his head secretly. Another two or three years later, goodbye C, he is already a lawyer. Unlike another lawyer he knew appeared in court, the two acted on behalf of the plaintiff and the defendant respectively. C, the future development will not be bad. are all real examples around me. They didn’t get good scores in the college entrance examination, and their education was also the lowest point: college. Moreover, their family background is not very good. It can be said that their parents can't help much as they come out of society. But they all made a counterattack on their own. Why? As a bystander, I think the most important factor that changes their destiny is: the major you are studying. A and B, although their education is low, they are just college students. But their major is good, and when they come out of society, it is the time when the major needs a lot of people. , and this major also pays specialization, and you cannot engage in work in this field without a graduation certificate in this field. . Relatively speaking, they have fewer competitors as soon as they come out of society. plus society’s urgent needs, so when they enter society to work in this field, they will naturally be like fish in water. The same is true for the success of C. Although her starting point is low, she clarifies her employment direction and persists in persisting. In the end, success is natural. So, what is the most important thing for a person to learn and develop? I think that is a person’s choice and direction for future work (professional). This is the most important thing. , which seems to be very important on the surface, does not play any role here. Why do you say that academic performance when you were young is not the most important
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In my opinion, children's grades are important when they are studying, but not the most important.
The most important thing is that children can clarify their future development direction and choices in the process of growth and learning.
This is the most important thing, but this is also the most difficult to do.
Because this is different from blindly reading, it requires thinking. And this thinking cannot be completed in one or two days. It can be several months at a short time, and it can take years at a long time.
This thinking requires connection and combination with one's own reality: What do I like? What am I good at? What do I want to do? Why?
Not only should we contact and combine our own reality, but we also need to have a certain understanding and understanding of reality and society, and have a certain amount of knowledge.
In this way, you can have a clear and scientific plan for your future development and direction.
Otherwise, it's just a fantasy or fantasy.
But what is actually going on?
is actually: Most of us children are blindly studying, just trying to pass the exam in front of us. A little further apart is that I hope to get into any school in the future.
, however, rarely think about what major you want to work in or what field you choose in the future.
If you think too much or far, it will be a dream and fantasy that is unrealistic.
This is really sad and a pity.
Because we are working hard and taking action in front of us, we are all for a certain goal and direction in the future.
But at this moment, we have not even figured out the goals and directions of our efforts, but are working hard. Isn’t it a pity? Is it sad?
or we regard getting a certain score in front of us and getting into a certain school as our learning goal, thinking that if we do all this, we will definitely not be bad in the future. But I have never thought about the specific development and planning in the future, that is, the direction. Like a headless fly, wherever it hits. Being merciless at the mercy of the so-called fate.
This is the case for many children who have studied hard for decades, obtained a university diploma, but cannot find a job after they come out of society.
Back to the previous article, A and B may have luck in it, and accidentally bump into a good major that suits you. Once you come out, you can find the right job smoothly and have good development prospects.
But for each of us, do we have to entrust our future career development and even our lives to this so-called luck and destiny?
No, we should take the initiative, think actively, and plan in advance. Even start thinking and planning early.
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Secondly, in addition to thinking and planning earlier, we should also make preparations in all aspects. That is, all aspects need to grow.
Because of true growth, it should be multi-faceted and comprehensive, not just one aspect.
If we only pay attention to grades during the growth process, we will:
1, leading to children with high scores and low energy.
Our brain has two functions: one is to store knowledge and the other is to apply knowledge. The two functions of
promote and interact with each other, and it is incomplete without either.
is like storing knowledge without applying it. The knowledge learned is only theories on paper and does not play any role;
Similarly, if you just practice it without storing knowledge, then this practice is just a superficial copy and nothing substantial inside.
. Many of our children nowadays mainly do in the process of growing up to store knowledge alone, but never practice it. This makes the first mistake above: just storing knowledge without applying it. What you learn cannot be applied to reality. Thus, what you have spent so much time and energy to learn has become useless.
eventually becomes a person with high scores and low energy.
2, short-board effect.
This theory was proposed by American management scientist Peter: the wooden barrels that hold water are composed of many wooden boards, and the amount of water is also determined by these wooden boards. If one of the wooden boards is very short, the amount of water stored is limited by the short board. This shortcoming becomes the "limiting factor" in the amount of water stored in wooden barrels.
If you want to increase the amount of water in the wooden barrel, you can only replace the short board or lengthen the short board.
Therefore, we put the most precious ten years of a person's learning and growth in exams, but ignore the cultivation of other abilities. When we come out of society one day, we will find that academic performance does not bring us much, at most it is just a pass to enter a certain industry. The decisive factor that truly determines how far we can go or even how good we can go is our comprehensive quality.
However, the reality is that many parents require their children to study blindly. This is actually the greatest harm to children's growth.
3. Losing creativity.
No matter in any field, those who truly achieve something are those who are knowledgeable and have a rich spiritual life.
is knowledgeable, which means that we have rich creative materials in our hearts. It cannot be taken out, and it cannot be used.
Rich spiritual life means we have rich imagination.
When the two are combined, they become creativity.
Those who have achieved something in various fields are a combination of the two. And their skills in displaying their talents are just tools for them to express their rich inner self.
So if we hope that our children can achieve something and make achievements in a certain field in the future, we should cultivate them to become a knowledgeable person and have a rich spiritual life when they are young.
instead of just blindly doing questions and exams.
is in the right direction. No matter how slow you walk, you are not afraid of
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Back to the beginning, what inspiration can we get from the previous examples?
My feeling is: if the direction is right, you won’t be afraid no matter how slow you go.
Such as A, B, and C, when they first graduated and first came out of society, their starting point was lower than their peers. But why did they go smoother and smoother later, and even surpass many people soon?
That's because they chose the right major and chose a major that suits them but needs people and has a certain development prospect.
So when they devote themselves to this major, they will be as good as they can do better and develop their own careers.
. At present, many young people with high education find it difficult to find ideal jobs.
Why is this?
That's because at the beginning, most of them did not work hard on choosing a major, but focused on their education and school.
Many people blame intravolume for not finding a job, but this is just a superficial phenomenon.
And this superficial phenomenon also reflects a common mistake made by most people, which is to blindly pursue academic qualifications.
So when we ask our children to keep their heads on reading and studying, when we keep our eyes on their children’s test scores, should we calm down and observe the children well, and provide them with a broader and larger world? Instead of staring at his (her) grades?
You should know that test scores are important, but more importantly, we should know where we want to go.
And if we want to achieve something in a certain field, we don’t just have the knowledge in the textbook and the single expertise. We also need to have rich knowledge in various fields. In this way, we can become better selves.
. If we want to live a good life, we cannot do without rich knowledge, broad vision and positive action.
And all of this requires long-term cultivation and training, not something that can be cultivated overnight. But the reality is that many children spend all their energy and time when they were young to study and do questions. When I grew up, I realized that I seemed to be missing something after being beaten by society.
At this time, the child's thinking, behavior patterns, and three views have basically taken shape, which is the so-called tree has taken shape.
So parents, please cherish the precious time of their children's study and growth, cultivate and educate their children well and scientifically, and set a long-term perspective, not just limited to the current academic performance.
Otherwise, it will only delay the children and their lives.
We all love children, but because of the different quality and ability of love, it ultimately leads to different results.
Lu Jingxian, a mother who keeps learning and growing up on the road of parenting. If you like my articles, you can follow my official account: Lu Jingxian.
And this superficial phenomenon also reflects a common mistake made by most people, which is to blindly pursue academic qualifications.
So when we ask our children to keep their heads on reading and studying, when we keep our eyes on their children’s test scores, should we calm down and observe the children well, and provide them with a broader and larger world? Instead of staring at his (her) grades?
You should know that test scores are important, but more importantly, we should know where we want to go.
And if we want to achieve something in a certain field, we don’t just have the knowledge in the textbook and the single expertise. We also need to have rich knowledge in various fields. In this way, we can become better selves.
. If we want to live a good life, we cannot do without rich knowledge, broad vision and positive action.
And all of this requires long-term cultivation and training, not something that can be cultivated overnight. But the reality is that many children spend all their energy and time when they were young to study and do questions. When I grew up, I realized that I seemed to be missing something after being beaten by society.
At this time, the child's thinking, behavior patterns, and three views have basically taken shape, which is the so-called tree has taken shape.
So parents, please cherish the precious time of their children's study and growth, cultivate and educate their children well and scientifically, and set a long-term perspective, not just limited to the current academic performance.
Otherwise, it will only delay the children and their lives.
We all love children, but because of the different quality and ability of love, it ultimately leads to different results.
Lu Jingxian, a mother who keeps learning and growing up on the road of parenting. If you like my articles, you can follow my official account: Lu Jingxian.
