Problem : High school students, in key classes, are under a lot of pressure in school, and have no friends, they have been scolding me at home, and they have been saying "It would be great if my child was xxx". I told myself many times not to care, but at least I can't do it now. I often feel the urge to jump down when I see the window. Recently, I started to use rubber bands to splash myself, and I felt inexplicably happy. Later I heard that this is one of the forms of self-harm, and I was quite surprised. Basically, my mood has remained at the lowest level every day since I was in high school. I don’t know what to do. I’m so afraid that I will do something one day.
Answers :
High school students are under great pressure, which is a common phenomenon. Let’s talk about some opinions from several aspects: the manifestation of the problem, the causes and solutions.
You are very excellent
1. It is a student of the key high school class . If you can get into high school, you will be an excellent student, and if you can get into key high school classes, you will be an excellent student.
2. The future is bright . Students in key high school classes can be admitted to excellent universities in the future, make themselves excellent college students, and have an excellent job in the future. Problems with
1. Learning pressure is great.
2. No friends.
3. Parents scold themselves.
4. I care about parents' scolding.
5. Use a rubber band to bounce yourself.
6. The mood is a little depressed.
The reason for the problem
1. It is a common phenomenon for high school students to be under great pressure . High school is a place where outstanding students gather. They compete with each other with strict requirements and high pressure.
2. There is no time and energy to make friends in high school . I have a tight study in high school and I have little time to communicate with each other. I am trying to study and have no time to make friends. You are not the only one who lacks friends. Those who look sunny also feel that they lack friends in their hearts, and even think that their friends are not single-minded.
3. Swearing is an educational method for parents . There are folk sayings that "there is a filial son under the stick" and "no beating or scolding will not become a talent". They scold you for being better, and they compare others with you for being able to grow up like that excellent child. Their scolding is a form of change in love. But it's very uncomfortable when being scolded.
4. You have a strong sense of self-esteem . You are good at studying, you have strong self-esteem, you are very strong, and when parents scold you, you will feel uncomfortable.
5. You don’t understand parents’ educational methods . What parents say is passed down by the older generation must listen to. What you receive is new education, and there are many places that conflict with traditional views.
6. You long for parents to praise their children like some parents . Now there are talks about how to praise your children on the Internet. You also long for your hometown to praise yourself, but they think your method is good.
7. You are very anxious . Facing the pressure of studying at school and the parents scolding you after you go home, you are helpless, anxious, bored, and don’t know how to relieve your emotions, so you use rubber bands to splash yourself. It should have been painful to play yourself, but you feel inexplicably happy because it is broken down when you are being shot, and your anxiety is slightly relieved. It is not that you really feel good when you use rubber bands to play yourself.
8. Your mood is caused by anxiety . Study pressure and parents scold you, which makes you very anxious, and anxiety causes your emotional state to be not very good.
What to do
1. Relieve anxiety. When people are anxious, they feel depressed and their learning efficiency decreases. There are many ways to relieve anxiety, such as deep breathing, muscle relaxation, running, various sports, etc. When anxiety is relieved, many of your problems will be solved.
2. Develop the habit of exercising every day .Exercise can relieve stress and make yourself feel relaxed. Exercise can help you relieve anxiety and make yourself smile happily. Exercise can help you find friends with common hobbies. Exercise can decompose endorphin , making yourself relaxed, calm and happy, and thus enhancing your learning vitality. Exercise can further relieve anxiety, regain your original self, and no longer use rubber bands to splash yourself.
3. Correctly understand the educational methods of parents . Children don’t like the educational methods of parents’ beating and scolding, but when they grow up, they find that it is a very effective method. So many parents use it. They only have one goal, so that their children can get into a better school, find a good job in the future, and live a happy life. It’s not that they don’t love their children, but that they love them very deeply in their own ways. Therefore, it is best to receive education from parents as much as possible.
4. Look at high goals and do the current situation well . Looking forward to the future, the beauty of the future needs to be created now. Take your mind away from those troubles, let them talk, and let them scold. If you do your best, sooner or later they will envy you.
