Hello everyone, I am a senior family education instructor Love.
Love and high school teachers were also invited. When talking about the children he has taught, there are many students who are really promising. However, when you grow up, most of the students who have a bad career come from a family environment.
Senior class teacher: Most of the children who are unpromising when they grow up come from a family environment
Parents hope that their children can learn better. However, some children also get angry, their grades are not good, and they feel inferior. After careful understanding, they find that parents' attitude towards their children and their way of dealing with emotions are directly related to their children's growth.
High school teacher has been a class teacher for more than 20 years. He found that most of the children who are unpromising when they grow up come from a growth environment with severe emotional internal friction. What are the specific manifestations of
in life?
First of all, you can only see the shortcomings of the children.
The loving classmate Kobayashi only sees his shortcomings when he is at home. He thought he had poor grades and often caused trouble, and he played with his classmates at school, not saving his worries at home.
But I didn’t see that Kobayashi worked very hard and often solved the questions that top students rarely answered. He worked hard and worked hard. When he was a sports committee member, he helped all the students in the class improve their physical education scores. Everyone admires him very much.
His inner inferiority complex, after work, always deliberately pleases others when he gets along with his colleagues, for fear that everyone will isolate himself. As a result, he was teased by everyone and did not improve his work. After working for several years, he was still a grassroots employee. His humble personality made him afraid to be promoted or be unwilling to take on heavy burdens.
Secondly, when parents are in a bad mood, they will vent their anger on their children.
The teacher remembered a student named Xiaojing. His grades were OK at the time, but parents rarely took care of their children. Sometimes, Xiaojing did not complete his homework well and wanted to communicate with his parents. However, Xiaojing begged the teacher hard, but his father saw that he did not write his homework well and tear up some of it.
The teacher also felt helpless and could only let Xiaojing have time to make up for her homework. If parents can cooperate with education, their parents hope to become middle-level and upper-level, their parents' handling methods will make their children become timid and scared and have no motivation to learn. Not admitted to university.
Finally, regard blame and criticism as a good way to educate.
Teacher also mentioned a student with excellent grades at the time. However, when he got 12th place, his father scolded him, why didn’t you enter the top ten?
regards blame and criticism as motivation and education for children. When he finally joined a company with good welfare, his father poured cold water on him: You can't be proud, it's nothing great.
But I never thought about how difficult it is for a child with a family background to gain a foothold in a big company! Later, he was taken over by his leader's child, and his father scolded him again, it was because you were too useless!
The student mentioned by the teacher is my cousin.After my cousin left the big company, his work was not going well and he entered a small company. Unexpectedly, the boss owed his salary.
wanted to take the postgraduate entrance examination, but my cousin's father thought that he couldn't get the exam at all! The work was not going well, making my cousin more introverted!
The parents’ blame makes the children lose the power to grow and the warm sun in their hearts!
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How can parents do it, so that children can become promising people?
Cultivate children's growth thinking
Children with growth thinking will think when they encounter difficulties, what else can I do?
Children with fixed thinking will think when they encounter trouble, I can't do anything well!
When a child encounters troubles, guide the child to think about how to do it. Can he do it better next time?
Develop such emotions. Children are calm and wise when encountering things. They can solve the storms on the road of life. Only then can they truly become successful.
It is normal for children to find every shining point on their children
Children have shortcomings and problems. If you want to make your children excellent, you only need parents to find three shining points on their children every day.
For example, every morning, you can see three advantages of your children, tidy up your schoolbag, get up on time, and actively exercise. These are the shining points of your children. Only when parents affirm their children's behavior will the children be willing to do better!
Communicate ideas from the perspective of children
Listen more and talk less, let the child talk more, what happens, what ideas do you have, give the child enough time to speak out, and what inner feelings.
Your feelings Mom understands the child's heart, mother understands, parents are people who understand me, and only those who understand me will be willing to speak out, and only by telling the true thoughts in their hearts can parents narrow the distance between parents and children.
Parents often see their children's highlights, teach their children how to deal with problems, give them the opportunity to talk, and become a person with a smooth career, high emotional intelligence, and successful life!
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How will you cultivate the advantages of your children?
