I am the mother of a junior high school student. My son's grades were at the bottom of the first and second grade grades. Today, I want to use my personal experience with my son to encourage everyone not to give up on their children. Because every bit of our efforts will leave a mark on the growth of our children. He will eventually be grateful to us, not only for giving him life, but also for giving him a young life of quality and dignity!
As a mother, I always subconsciously think that my child is very smart and great. But after he entered junior high school, I finally painfully accepted the fact that my son was not only an ordinary child, but also much stupider because he was one year younger than his classmates. In the first and second grades of junior high school, I received almost no points for Chinese reading questions. I can neither understand the article nor express my few feelings. At that time, I had to admit that he was really not an intelligent child so that I wouldn't get mad at myself. So, when I faced the first test of biogeography in the high school entrance examination in the second grade of junior high school, I led my son to make the following efforts:
I traced down the important maps in the geography book, made a few copies, and asked my son to practice map-filling; I did this every weekend He was forced to memorize a question sheet, and when he encountered confusing problems such as more than a dozen climate types in the world, I discussed with him how to distinguish understandings and express feelings; after the school issued a review question sheet, he and I each completed the teacher's Review question sheets were distributed to each other, and then they revised each other's answers and completed the error correction; more than a month in advance, when most children started a round of review, he had completed a comprehensive review. Because I truly admit that he is a stupid bird, and stupid birds can only fly first. Finally, after three mock tests, my son’s biology and geography scores were ranked among the top five in the class. Do you understand and sympathize with your children when they encounter difficulties? Since I admitted his "stupidity", I began to have a real understanding and sympathy for his pain in learning.
Usually my husband accompanies me to study mathematics, and I accompany me to study Chinese and English. The meaning of accompanying him is to help him answer homework that he cannot do. But just tutoring on math homework gives my husband a headache. After finishing his work, he would go home across the city and go over all his homework in his mind, and he would find that half of it was ghostly drawings. Studying my son's test papers has become the most headache for my husband. Seeing my son's dullness, dementia exhaustion, my husband and I both felt that his head was already like a wooden fish. One night, while doing an assignment to prove that two lines are parallel, my husband's long-suppressed anger finally broke out. He slapped the table and shouted: Are you paying attention in class? I’ve been studying such a simple question for three days, but I still haven’t figured it out yet! The son cried, and the helplessness that he couldn't do kept suppressing him. My son's grades have been declining, and I cried on the balcony.
Since that day, I realized that there might be a big problem with the children's learning methods. I started looking for online to see if there were any effective learning methods. There are many articles introducing learning concepts on the Internet, including those about solving questions, finding teachers, and looking for shortcomings, but there are basically no practical methods. A parent in my child's class who has a good relationship with me introduced me to a software called Mingxi Education, saying that as long as I scan in my child's wrong questions every day, I will find out the weak points of knowledge. After three months of focused study based on the knowledge points pushed by his shortcomings, he made significant progress in mathematics and physics.
Immediately afterwards, Geography and Biology helped him establish his confidence, and while other students were struggling with Geography and Biology, his language skills were also quietly improving. At the end of the second semester of the second grade of junior high school, my son got 394th place in the exam. Our whole family was excited for a long time.
It seems that there are no stupid children in this world. As long as they master the correct learning methods, their grades will definitely improve. In fact, after entering junior high school, every parent may feel that their children do not have enough time. In order to save time for our children, many of us play the role of coachman and nanny. Because my child has many difficulties in learning, I always try to help him save as much time as possible.
I have been thinking these days: as long as there are 1,000 students, there must be the first and the 1,000th. It can be safely said that in terms of academic performance, the 1000th place will never catch up with the 1st place.
Does that mean that for children after 700, parents no longer need to worry about their studies? If I were the parent of the 1000th child now, as long as the child really wants to learn, I would calmly accompany him and help him, and spend 5 minutes every day taking photos and scanning questions. For me, this effort makes me feel too relaxed. .
My mentality is now very clear. Although they are both ranked 1000th in the test and 100th in the test, the meaning of the scores is completely different to my children. Because the child is making steady progress!
