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The child said: Why do you always drive this Volkswagen to pick me up? The students have luxury cars to pick them up at home!
Dad replied: What's wrong? Dad is embarrassing you?
The child responded to his father’s statement with a "hmm"!
is here, and I guess many parents are going to get angry. Then they start saying: How difficult it is for dad to raise you! How much does it cost to come here to school every day? Where can my dad buy a luxury car so much money! You go and compare and learn with your classmates, why do you need to compare these things...
The child may not continue to talk to his father in the future!
But this wise father said to the child: It doesn’t matter, it’s normal for you to have such a mentality at this age!
Analysis:
This response from dad represents acknowledging that children have such emotions!
Children have any thoughts and emotions, and parents should express their recognition of as soon as possible. After all, children of this age group have a very normal mentality to compare. Only by understanding by parents can children have the next dialogue with their parents.
Dad started to use Liu Qiangdong to ask his son: If Liu Qiangdong was the public to pick up his son, will your classmates look down on him?
The son responded: Surely not!
Dad asked: Why?
The son said: Because he is rich!
Dad Tell your child earnestly: It’s not only because he is rich, but because of his Social status . His social status makes people feel that even if he drives the public, he is the top-notch public! Or I think he is opening the public to keep a low profile!
Dad is going to tell your child: What the car is really not important, it doesn’t matter at all, the luxury car or an ordinary car is not important at all, and what’s more important is the person driving!
Dad is asking: Son, do you know what bus Liu Qiangdong took to school when he was young?
The son said: I don’t know.
Dad told his son: Liu Qiangdong walked to school when he was a child. Because his family was poor, he even couldn't raise tuition at home when he went to college because he couldn't raise tuition at home. The whole village paid tuition for he went to college!
Dad asked his son: Will you laugh at Liu Qiangdong when you were a child?
The son said: No, because he has money now!
Dad then told the child: What a person eats and wears when he is young does not matter, what is important is when he grows up!
Dad’s words are actually guiding the child. Everything you have now is given by your parents. If you want to live a better life and drive a luxury car, then you must work through your own efforts!
Your current environment is much better than when Liu Qiangdong was young, so don’t compare with other classmates. If you want to drive a luxury car, just work hard in the future!
People are the product of society . It is also a very normal phenomenon for children to compare in school, but it is more important to learn to guide as parents!
How to avoid excessive comparison between children? Parents should do these three points well and remember
Point 1: Give your child enough companion
Children's needs are divided into spiritual needs and material needs . These two needs are actually on both ends of the balance. If the child's spiritual needs are not met, he will tend toward material needs!
. In reality, many parents have infinitely met their children's various material needs because does not have time to accompany their children , which leads to their children's preference for comparison and their material needs will be higher.
So if you want to avoid children’s comparative intentions, you actually need to accompany your children more with !
For example, like the dad above, you can also ask your son, how many students in your class who drive luxury cars are picked up by their father? My son would think about it. It seemed that many of the drivers who came to pick up the car were from home.
Dad drives an ordinary car to pick up the child, but dad can accompany the child, and dad's company is irreplaceable!
Point 2: Give children money view from an early age
Give children training money view from an early age , which means that children have certain pocket money from an early age. For example, earns pocket money through housework , or give children a certain pocket money regularly every month so that children can start to have plans and plans for money.
Children can also buy things that students want to buy by storing their pocket money, so that the gap between children and classmates will not become too big.
Parents should know the school where their children are located and the approximate pocket money of their classmates they usually interact with? Don’t let the pocket money between your children and classmates be too different . After all, the school that children can go to should not be too different in family background!
Point 3: Guide children to live the life they want through their own efforts
Parents' generation has lived the life they want through their own efforts. If children hope to drive luxury cars and wear famous brand clothes in the future, then they must also work through their own efforts!
What will you do when you meet a child competing? Welcome to leave a message below the comment section.
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